Messages By: optiong

I had my one and only child 15 years ago. Shortly after my husband began turning his back on me at night. Not so much as a snuggle. I realize now that I gave birth to my own replacement. I was a vessle to carry his child and nothing more. He shut me out. He replaced the pictures of me with those of our son. At one point, he had our bed surrounded with 11 pictures of him. Last October, he told me I was old, fat and ugly and that he could stick it to a 20 year old, but he sure as hell could not stick it to me.We went to see a professional who says that my husband, who is 65, is trying to regain his youth through our son. He has become mean, hurtful and refuses to believe he has done anything wrong. I shoud have seen the hurt coming. He always refused to buy me a wedding ring (even though wewere considered well off) and he refused to wear one. In the mean time, my mother-in-law says he is right, and I am wrong. She says he has every right to live his life in any way he wants, no matter who it hurts. And it has hurt our son. He has been arrested for breaking and entering, grand theft, etc. All while I had moved out to escape the hate and abusive language. My husband allows him to leave the house in the middle of the night, do what he wants, hang out with a bad element and steal and lie with no fear of punishment other than "Didn't I tell you that that is not good to do?"When I asked my husband what would make him happy, he said "A beer and a naked woman standing in front of him." Hate and hurtful behavior are easy emotions for people. They boost self esteem. Selfishness is a part of these emotions.