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Quote From: fyte4acure

can you be so kind as to explain to me what Tai Chi is please? 

  

I like the idea that Bhuddism surrounds such as nature and being one with nature, or am I talking of another meditation/religion LOL!  I can't remember, but there are some things in Bhuddism that just do not work for me, same with Christianity.  I believe in God, and that's all that matters to me is to have a higher power!  I'm not into organized religion or cults.  But, I would like to hear more about the meditation practices of Bhuddism.  I hope I didn't spell Buddhism wrong the first two times, because I cannot change my spelling on here after posting LOL!  So much for my years of college and paper on all kinds of religions!  LOL! 

  

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Quote From: cfnp25

Dr. Phil I have been an avid watcher of your show, but you need to get off the "Holiday Bandwagon".  Christ is the reason for the season.  But, if you are trying to please the atheists calling it a "Holiday Extravaganza" shouldn't please them either because holiday means Holy Day!  Duh!  I never really thought your show would try to please these "politically correct" agendas. Although, whatever you call it Christmas or Holy Day, it all means the same thing and true Christians with a backbone know the reason for the season. 

Quote From: bosox86

Hi there, this is my first post here so lets see how it goes.

    First a little background information. I'm 19 years old and am at Clemson University right now in my sophmore year studying civil engineering.  I'm planning on going for my masters degree in strucutal engineering after I receive my undergrad but we'll see how everything plans out with getting a job and what not first.
    Anyways, my question for all of you is to why I cannot seem to find myself in a group of friends.  All throughout my life I have always had one good friend, never anything else.  In elementry school I had my best friend that lived down the street.  When we moved I became very good friends with my neighbor, but don't get to see all to much any more with him being in the military and me moving 1,000 miles away to go to college.  Now, I have become very good friends with my roomate.  This seems to be the pattern through my life.  I have been active in sports and activites all through my life but never had any groups of friends gel outside of  the activity.  I see pictures of other people having fun in groups of friends and enjoying themselves, and honestly, it makes me jelous.  I wish that I had more friends than I have.  Don't get me wrong, I really do enjoy being close friends with the people that I have become close with, but I'm going to be selfish and say that I wish that I had more.  I dont want to lose anything out of the friendships that I have had, but I want more than just that one friendship at a time.  I don't know if it's because I come off shy or what.  Once people get to know me they can tell you that I'm very open and that I'm not shy at all. Though if I don't know you then I may seem reserved, but the only reason for that is because I don't like to bother other people.  Even with my closest friends and family, I can sometimes feel like that I am bothering them.
    Anyways thank you for reading this and any opinons that you can give are gladly apreciated.  Thanks.

Quote From: assie84

I am 21, and will be married 2 yrs in April, 2006 and have been together 5 yrs March, 2006. We have been seperated twice since our second year of marriage. He and i got in to a fight the day before my birthday and he moved in to his controlling dads house and is not allowed to come see me. But he still does. If his dad knew he would cut him off completley. My problem is, is that he tells me he loves me and  wants us to be together but not till he finishes college. He still has a little over two yrs to go. I know most of his reasoning is his father filling his head full of reasons for us not to be together. He does every thing his dad tells him to do. I told him he needs to think for him self and tell his father to get lost if he loves me but he won't cause, his father has never been there for him untill now. What should i do? 

I want to wait but, i cant live with out him.I keep telling him its all or nothing but i keep letting him come over and we still go out together. It hurts every time.  And i know its not fair to me. I'm to young for this stress. But i really do love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him.  

Quote From: drphilat4

I agree that what Dr. Phil did was wondeful. He provided joy and celebration for people who lost everything and for those that helped them. On the other hand, it did bother me that he called it a Holiday Extravaganza. No, I'm not a conservative Christian. I'm a liberal reform Jew. Were any of the Jewish families who lost everything at the "holiday" party? Were any Jews who helped out from Southern California there? I know at least one synagogue was completely destroyed by the hurricane so there were some Jewish people living there. If they were invited to the holiday party do you think they were comfortable with the fact that Santa was there as well as a Christmas tree, Christmas decorations and a reading of a Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer story? If it's a Christmas Extravaganza then fine, that's what it is. Let's call it what it is! 

  

The other day I took my son to the grocery store and gave him money to deposit in the Salvation Army bucket. The lady volunteer kept saying, "Merry Christmas! Merry Christmas!" to us. I said, "have a happy holiday" but it bugged me for while what the proper response would have been. Obviously, if she is telling everyone "merry Christmas" then she celebrates Christmas so I could have just said that back to her. But then she would've assumed we were Christian and although that is not a bad thing to be it is not who we are and I didn't want her to assume everyone who donates to the Salvation Army is Christian and celebrates Christmas. It would have been inappropriate to say "Happy Hanukkah" back to make a point. If I said nothing back, it would've been awkward. I guess I could've said, "Well, we're Jewish but you have a Merry Christmas" but that seems like a lot to say. Anyway.... 

  

DrPhilat4 

Quote From: crissysboy

ok thats like me just lighting up a cigarette even though it could bother other people. I dont wnat to see some other womens breast hanging out like that. but i have more respect, i ask someone even in my vehicle or home if it will bother them if i smoke and if they say yes i respect them and not smoke in the house  i go outside or i dont smoke in the car. if someone who breastfeeds comes to my house they can pump before they come over or just go when it is close to time to breastfeed. the only one who will be doing that in our home is me and i will go to the bedroom if my stepson is home out of respect for him. i havent decided if im going to bottle feed or breastfeed yet anyway.

Quote From: donnawies

I work full time; my husband has been at home with the kids for the last 12 years (we've been married for 22). It works for us. Am I not a good wife? According to some of you, we're going against God's plan. Lighten up! Marriage is a constant negotiation; each couple has to work out what works for them, and then when things change, work it out again. It is obviously NOT working for the first poor couple on the show. Women have always "worked". My grandmother went to work in the 40's while my father's older sister raised him. This myth of the suburban stay at home mom is a fairly recent phenomenom. Hasn't anyone out there read the Feminine Mystique? 

  

Why can't women stop judging each other and instead support each other's choices?  

Quote From: planebusz

My husband and I were recently married this past summer.  We are 40+ in age.  His mother just sent him a "Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition 2006 Calender" with scantily dressed models for a Christmas present.  How would you react?