Messages By: scngagirl

I can truly say that after my most recent trial in a relationship that break ups are a time for personal growth with God.  I am 27 and single mom of two.  My first marriage was physically abusive, second was emotionally abusive.  Just coming out of a serious relationship that lasted a few months.  Things went pretty well between us and both were going through hard times.  I thought that I finally had THE ONE.  We had a great deal in common including being veterans of war.  I am dealing with depression from PTSD caused by being overseas and going through a divorce too.  I did a lot of soul searching after my marriage ended.  Kept my prayers up and got more involved in my church.  This person who I have recently broke up with had an issue with telling the truth and did not know what he wanted in life.  This sparked yet another soul search.  I have learned a few things out of all of it.  # 1 Trust in God and let him lead you the right way. #2 Listen to friends no matter how hard it is. #3  TAKE IT SLOW.  When the right person comes along you will know it.  Remember to pray about every step you take in relationships and life.  God allows things to happen for a reason.   I was devastated after the break up until I realized that it was not my fault that he is too immature to realize what love is and know what he wants.  I am a strong person and believe that God will protect me.  I have learned what I saw in the ones I married and run from those types now.  Now my next quest is to figure out how I chose someone like the one I have just ended it with.  But, God will help me see all that.  The thing that matters the most is to stay close to God and he will guide me and heal me.  Good luck to all of you and if you have questions do not hesitate to ask me.  God bless you. 

Not sure how this will fit in to any of your lives.  I have come across some very interesting things in my growth with God that has been repeated over and over by different preachers, books and some backed up in the bible.  Here goes:  Submit yourself to those who will keep you on task.  Someone who genuinely loves you will question you with tough questions like Where are you failing?  These types of questions are ones that will be asked by others who care for and love you.  You need to be held accountable by people who will monitor your progress and keep you on track.  Good luck in your personal struggles.

I was overseas for a year and gained tons of weight.  (close to 30 lbs.).  When I returned to a jerk of a husband who rubbed the wieght gain in, looking at the loss of a job due to injuries incurred overseas and a surprise legal seperation along with no income the weight refused to come off.  After visiting a dietician I went on a special diet.  ( Eating more than I had in years because I was starving myself.)  I finally lost weight and felt better.  Recently the relationship I got into, gallbladder problems, surgery and school stress, I have put on the weight again and getting depressed because of it.  How do I get motivated when my body is still tired and recovering from surgery?  I want to be thin before summer.  I wish to be at least 125 lbs. and currently at 159 lbs.  Could someone give me tips?  Thanks.