Messages By: lilnifir28

Quote From: jb7ctx

I am concerned about my 4 y/o daughter. She is very, very spirited! She is very outspoken. She can never, ever sit still. She is extremely hyper. She will talk back to me. She will scream if she dont get her way. She has the biggest imagination I have ever seen a 4 y/o to have. She doesnt like to share her toys. If her brother takes one of her toys she will scream. (she wouldnt even be playing with the toy either). I dont give her hardly any sweets or soda. Her brother is a diabetic so we did away with the sugary stuff. When we are out in public she pitches fits over things she cannot have.Everytime I leave to go somewhere I have to constantly tell her goodbye and give her a kiss before I am even out the door, then I have to continue to wave at her in the window until she cant see me no more. If I dont she will scream and cry. If I tell her to do something she will say OK, but then If I dont say OK back she gets mad and starts screaming, I said OK!! so I have to repeat myself again. I dont spank. I do time outs. 1 minute/age. I am afraid that when she goes to school next year, she will be in the office, more than the classroom. I have never had her checked for OCD or ADHD or anything else, because I am afaid she may be put on medication and I feel she is too young for that. Any ideas on how I can get her to calm down and behave? She is a talker and is never quiet. ( she gets that from me). But I am really concerned on how to deal with her behaviors. I am afraid that if she goes to school she will have to kiss everyone in class before she leaves for the day because that is how she is here at home and with my family. If she forgets to kiss my mom or dad on the cheek before they leave, here comes another fit. IF they dont wave to her through out the driveway, she is mad. What should i do? She is very sneaky and hides things and then lies about it and blames it on her brother. She is definately a handfull. But I love her, I just want what is best for her. Will she outgrow this behavior? Should I have her tested?  I can deal with her here at home, I am just worried about how she will be at school next year. I know I am probably making some mistakes here , so let me have it.  (in a nice way). My other kids arent like this and never have they acted like this. Thanks guys