Messages By: nottonight

I am 61. Although friends tell me i look 40ish, and don't act like i'm 61. but i am. b/c of my divorce (that i did not want) i have low self-esteem and self-confidence when it comes to men. i was divorced at 57. and now 4 years later i would really like to have a mate/companion, someone to spend time with, but just am not comfortable being around men. i have only been w/ one man my entire life. i was married at 19 (divorced after 37.5 yrs. of marriage). a friend called me a virgin. i guess to some extent i am. i agree w/ nursefaye in regard to what about our age group? it's a whole different ballgame than when i was in 20s,30s. flirting is different. based on my limited exp. it seems that older men  are looking for younger women. so where does the "older" woman fit into the dating game? and don't tell me to look at younger men. i've heard that from friends. my son is 40. when i see a man at 40 it's like looking at my son.