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September 23, 2006, 4:02 pm PDT

marry me or else

I think the quote "there are no victims only volunteers" applies here. If after 5 years, the question has not been popped, it probably isn't going to be. Why be foolish in this matter. If they are this selfish in a "post nuptual" relationship, it will be a guarantee they will be more so after, if only to remind you that they did you a "favor", by walking down the aisle with you. Trust me I know from experience.
 
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September 23, 2006, 4:22 pm PDT

toxins in the family

I have a toxic son, and ex-daughter in law. Both are addicts, and have two sons. One son is 18, and is now going to college, because his other grandmother and I care enough to see that he gets there. He has worked hard, and is a wonderful child, despite his parents. The other child is 14, and is currently being shoved from pillar to post, because the buearocrats at the DHS, refuse to do their job. My daughter would like to have guardianship of him so that he can have a stable homelife, as well, as a family. We feel that since he is fourteen that he should be able to determine where he wants to live. His mother has threatened their lives, has used verbal abuse, and pyhsical abuse, but the powers that be keep taking her side. I am so angry that this is the way it is, not just where they are, but everywhere. Who says that children are "better off" with the parents. If this is so, why do so many end up either dead, or badly injured, or in foster care for the entirety of their lives. When there are family members, who would be more than willing to take them and raise them as their own.  I fail to see that the Child Protection Services, are even close to living up to their name. I am sure that they have protected some children, but, it seems that in this day and time it is really a mis nomer to call them that. Read the news from Nevada, and you will see what I mean. There have been 67 deaths since the first of the year, by so called "watched and wonderful parents" Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get this child out of this situation. We have hired an attorney to try to get the guardianship. But, the mother has custody, and seems to be able to weedle her way around everyone to do with the system where she lives. She has been picked up for drunkenness, breaking a court ordered restraining order, and other things, but has spent no time in jail for any of these offenses. My son who is a crack addict, can't hold a job for any length of time, so far has not had any run ins with the law, but has lost almost everything he owns. I don't get it. I have tried to help him so many times, but it doesn't seem to do any good. Why won't they help themselves???????
 
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September 28, 2006, 4:23 am PDT

love scams

When are you people going to "wake up and smell the coffee?" My goodness sakes, it does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that the internet is a scam in itself. How do you think they make their money? Just as television was suppose to be "educational", so the internet was to be a new tool for that same purpose. Well, it has educated you alright. Right out of your money, pride, and most of all your spirit. Why can't you go to church, theater, or lots of other places, and meet "the man of your dreams?" This does not mean that he will be on the up and up, but at least in most cases you will find out before you have gone to far. Also don't go out and just jump into some relationship, because you are "lonely." Get involved, write letters for injured military men. Do volunteer work in a hospital. Offer to help in a care center for the elderly. You might be surprised at the quality of man you will meet, also the number of men you will meet. Take square dance lessons, or dance lessons of any kind. There are a multitude of ways to go about getting someone interested in you, not what you have. I don't  recommend just jumping into bed with anyone either. Not until he has proved himself worthy of me.

Think, Think, Think, and Good grief, it is not the end of the world if you don't find someone. Take joy in thinking for yourself, coming and going as you please. Not having to answer a multitude of questions as to why you did this, or did that. Or how come you are so late? Why can't you have this or that done on time. Where is my dinner or some  other meal. The most important job a man has is filling up a sports arena.  

 
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October 2, 2006, 9:27 pm PDT

trying

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You will be blessed when the time is right. I know you probably hahe heard that before,but the less you think about it as making love and Not "TRYING" it can make the process easier.Sometimes the stress of wanting it and it not happening can make it difficult to concieve.I totally Understand about wondering why god has not blessed you ,because My husband and I had a miscarriage right before our first wedding anniversary and still have been unable to have a child. that was about two and a half years ago. I havent been on the pill in 3 years. It will happen just keep you r head up:)
maybe because you are not married, the Lord has seen fit to let you know that it is not right to have children and play house without being husband and wife.
 
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October 2, 2006, 9:34 pm PDT

getting pregnant

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 Hello everyone! This is my first post on here so I'm a bit nervous but I need some advice. It's nothing major or anything but I'm sure I'll have a lot of replies. My husband and I got married when we were 18 years old but we have been having unprotected sex  for  almost four years now and I still haven't gotten pregnant. How come I haven't gotten pregnant yet? Could there be something wrong with one of us or even both of us or is it just a matter of when we are making love? Are their certain positions and specific days we should make love in order to conceive? I'm feeling lost and confused. Please give good advice and thank you to those who do!
MY suggestion would be to have a complete physical, to determine what the problem is. Pehaps, there is a medical reason for non-preganacy. To low sperm count, inadequate female organs or non functioning organs, so many reasons that they all need to be checked. Do not be surprised if your husband feels the problem is yours, and possibly refuses  to be checked. But, do try to encourage him to co-operate. It will be in the best interest of both of you. There are ways to fix most of the problems that arise, so just check them all out.
 
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October 2, 2006, 9:54 pm PDT

spanking

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I am a mother whose daughter was severely spanked by her father in Jan 2006.  The kids have been questioned repeatedly, going through counseling where several other very disturbing things have came out that involve locks being on the outside of my daughters door and all three ages at that time 3, 6 & 7, being locked outside, and all the emotional ups and downs that has gone on before and after Jan.  It has been a nightmare.  My ex has only been charged with a misdemeanor and after having 2 hour supervised visits one day a week to which all did NOT go well, DFS recommended that he go back to his regular visitation schedule.  The kids are scared and at least one of them  cry and refuse to go.  However I have been told that there is nothing I can do until my modification comes up this month or until he hurts the kids again.  I have tried everything to get my case heard sooner, I have written state representatives and I have even written Robin to see what she would do if she was in my shoes.  I swear if he ever hurts these kids again and they would put the kids right back with him, I would consider running.  What else can a parent do to protect their kids?  The laws are not there to help.  If a grown woman gets beaten by her husband or boyfriend and then goes back to her abuser, we as a society usually say that she asked for it because she went back.  Well, in my case, my children who are now 4, 7 & 8 are saying that they are scared and do not want to go back but the law says they have to.  I'm sorry, but this is messed up.  So the women, and in some cases, the men that protect their children at all cost, good for you.  I hope I am never in the situation where that has to be something I have to consider but I can't honestly say that I haven't thought about it.  I just can't imagine kids being away from all their family and friends.  I guess I am still somewhat of an optimist because with everything my ex has done, I can still see the importance of my kids knowing and seeing, on some level, their dad.  I just  wish he would get his head out of his butt and be the kind of dad that I know he could be instead of the dad he has been and is being.
Where does Abuse play a role here? Does not the law in your state have any child endangerment rules. Locking children in rooms with locks you are describing should fall under that title. Also Severe spanking should be physical abuse, which is unlawful. But, I understand where you are coming from. I have tried to get "Child Protective Services" to do something about my grandson for ever. But, no  he HAS to be with his mother, who is an alchoholic. He can't be with his father, because he is an addict.  There is no justice for children. Everytime I see an ad for some aid outfit, I get sick to my stomach, because the first thing they show is a child or children. All they care about is lining their own pockets. My ex daughter in law is the same way with child support. She is like the government, how much money does she need, "more". Then she tries to figure out ways to keep them busy or some such thing, so they can't have visitation with their dad. But, by golly he better not miss a payment. So those government outfits, who profess to be there to protect children, or only cess pools for people who can't find work somewhere else. Most of them don't know straight up about children, except payday is on Friday.
 
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September 10, 2007, 11:17 pm PDT

texting

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I am a teen who occasionally texts while im driving. If i was a parent of a teen who was texting while driving, i would take the texting plan off of the phone. Not take the whole phone away...or maybe the car or the liscence.
I was just wondering how much time you spend texting, and how much time studying english and spelling. Seems you could use a goodly amount of both. As for texting if you know it is dangerous, and in some places against the law, why are you doing it? I comes down to RESPONSIBILITY. Which no one seems to be able to get. It is always someone elses fault. Grow up.
 
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September 10, 2007, 11:22 pm PDT

09/10 Season 6 Premiere!

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 Why wasn't anyone talking about taking the "texting" girl's CAR away???  Let her keep her phone, but get her out of the 2,500 pound death machine she's driving around!  Let's see if she can text while riding her bicycle...

Also, the mom's lack of action was disgraceful.  I'm hoping she just didn't have her thinking cap on and when she gets home and watches this show as it airs she'll realize how moronic she sounded. 

Now then, let's get creative with some alternative ways to solve this problem:

1. Mom can remove the texting option from the cell phone plan
2. Mom can trade the current phone in on a phone called the "firefly" which only has 3 calling options: home, parents and 911
3. Mom can give her daughter the choice of car or cell phone and let the daughter pick which is more important. 

This is not rocket science.

                      AMEN
 
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January 5, 2008, 12:16 pm PST

WHY???

I am wondering WHEN are parents going to take responsibility for the actions of these "children". It seems to me that with all of the technology available today, that someone needs to rein in what they are doing, and who they are doing it with. I do not agree with cyber bullying, but, just where do we get the idea that it is okay for our children to spend 25 hours a day on the internet? Either texting on phones, or "myspace" which as far as I am concerned is a divice of the devil. It gives way to much information to any and everyone. Plus, it plays into the hands of anyone who is out to make trouble, get even, get personal information, and most of todays "children" are to narcisistic to believe it will happen to them. So PARENTS, wake up and smell the coffee. It is your responcibity to see that these things do not happen. Of course we are dealing in todays society with the groups from the "60s', and we know how that went. They did not know what was going on then, and surely are not prepared to know what is happening now.

 
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January 5, 2008, 12:28 pm PST

Here is another WHY?????

 I agree with the person before that bein in debt to own these things is a need to find some kind of fullfillment that you are not getting from the people around you. How does owing $200,000 dollars make you a better person? Is it working for you???? Do your "friends" seem more "friendly" now that you have these items? As for Kecedra isn't this the "tail wagging the dog?" What do you do when she wants something really big, like a "Corvette" when she is 10 years old. What is there about "NO" that you do not understand. What is there about"NO" that she does not understand?  I really don't feel sorry for you, as you know there are no "victims, only volunteers".

 

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