Quote From: wingtai believe it or not, there are many people in the world who would go around still putting the onus upon the wife, that it is her problem that her husband is so unfaithful and difficult to live with. I once heard a very young and idealistic woman comment that the cause of a particular husband going out and getting drunk and coming home and being obnoxious and spending so much time with his "buddies" and leaving everything up to her , was because the wife didn't know how to make her husband happy, that's why he was always out carousing.
this is what many people call "crazy making". where is the personal responsibility of the man for his own happiness? that scenario described above is so patronizing not only toward the wife but also toward the husband....that is, treating him as if he is just an "emotional moron" who can't be happy unless his wife, another individual, behaves in a certain way. Once again, i completely concur with dr. phil, the problem lies not with the wife, but with the husband (remember Grant and Kelly?) and how he perceives himself and deals with his own outlook. a favourite expression i made up for myself once when i was so depressed, my firstborn was only 1 year old, and it came to me that :
"It's not what kind of house you live in but how you look out from it."
(d.r.)
in my opinion the husband who had the storage locker and the secret women on the side was completely irresponsible and dishonest.
Actually, it's all true. A happy husband doesn't need to cheat because his wife gives it to him when he wants it. She cooks. She cleans. She takes care of domestic business.
Why would a guy cheat on a woman who keeps herself up, cooks every night and HAS SEX WHEN HE WANTS IT???
That's how to keep a husband at home, girls.
Infidelity is wrong, but women can prevent it by being the wives we wanted in the first place instead of going for CEO of the company.
