Messages By: filindown

This is what I want to look like in 12 to 18 months I suppose to be somewhat realistic.  Tan, skinny, in a bikini top, long curly hair, since mine is dead straight and fluffy.  Bikini's now are far from even an option under a shirt.  And I am as white as this page. 

Hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas day. 

I am so sorry I hadn't read about the pictures before posting mine.  It won't happen again. 

I found it also helpful to talk here.  It seems I feel less alone.  I am so sorry your current situation is not working as well as it should.  Maybe you will find another job with benefits soon after the holidays, when everything calms down. 

I hope you find something soon to take those meds again.  I know I am not taking mine because of the side effects and it sucks feeling like this. 

Nancy 

Women are too stubborn and will not call first, because we have been told all our lives to lighten up and wait for the other one to call first.  'if he loves you he will call'  Trust me I know too many women who do it on a daily basis thinking it proves if a man really loves them.   If you do love her call her or email her or whatever contact her and explain you don't want her to change but you would like for both of you to agree and compromise on some issues.  This way you do change but to be together, singles act one way, couples act another.  You don't have to change who you are, but you need to compromise if you guys want to be together some day. 

Good luck  

If you find someone to be with do what you can to stay with her if she wants to be with you, you be the bigger person and call first. 

Nancy 

I feel so sad for you and your grandmother.  But I do understand how frustrated your grandmother and your aunts are.  We had to move in with my husbands grandmother for a while cause we had no place for her, and if no one moved in with her she had to be sent into a home, which we just thought that was cruel.  So we left our home and moved in with her and our two sons.  At times her 'nurse' would be so controling and turning his grandmother against us that we wanted to leave ourselves. 

Your grandmother would not feel better in those appartments they have, it's not a home, but the cleaning is done, theirs a nurse onsite and things elderly need.  His grandmother went in one and she enjoyed it much more, cause she had no repairs to pay for and her drives were found for her.  When we went to work, we did not need to miss work to take her do her groceries and things like that anymore.  We never made her feel like we did not want to be there of that she was a bother for us.  We really love her and wish we could have done more for her, but alzheimers had another plan for her. 

Nancy 

I have been talking with my doctor for only a few years now, I can not imagine feeling like this for another 10 years.  god help us all 

I am not too sure myself on how this works but I think I am doing it right. 

I was reading on depression treatments today on the net of course, and their was a test to see if you can distinguish between being depressed and bipolar, and to tell you the truth I think my case heads towards the bipolar instead of depression.  I am going to mention it to my doctor on the 3rd to see what she thinks and how to make sure. 

Good luck and happy holidays 

Nancy 

After only one week.  If he does not know exactly what town you live in, I would stay in a hotel in another town just to be safe, meet at his hotel or a restaurant near by, make sure someone stays at your hotel things like that.  You are very brave to meet them, I am such a chicken when it comes to that, that I make sure someone else is their, not with us but in the same place so if something goes wrong I have another way out just to make sure. 

Nancy 

Who is Mods & AKA DJMATT 

I haven't seen any post from them or is it the Dr. Phil 'gang' ?  Completely confused, still trying to get a hang to these message boards.  I am having a hard time to remember which one to go to etc... 

I thought for those appartments it was arranged by the check you get when your old? 

My baby sister just had knee surgery this week, she found out once they were inside her knee that she had torn ligaments.  She has had problems with her knees for years now. 

Alzheimers sucks so much, my grandfather is becoming worse everyday, some days I go there and he remembers me as the one who comes to clean, My dad is the guy who brings in the wood and who shovels their driveway.  My mom his daughter, somedays he has no clue who she is and is unsure if he should even talk to her when she comes in to pick up my grandmother.  It is so sad, I found out today that my ex's grandmother is now hanging on to a doll thinking it's her baby or something. 

Nancy