Messages By: filindown

Glad to hear from you also.  I have been so out of it, not posting much too much on my mind and don't know how to talk about it.  I hope everything is okay with you.  Did you have a nice valentine.  Mine was cute, I made a special supper for the boys, and we made a homemade ice cream cake, because my youngest is allergic to eggs so no real cake.  they made me cute valentines.  It was nice.  no man to share it with but that's okay. 

  

take care 

  

nancy 

Sorry I missed you, hope your having a good day.  I tried sending you this really cute email but it kept returning itself to me, so I will try again in the morning. 

  

I am heading off to bed now, so hope to talk with you tomorrow 

  

nancy 

  

BIG hugs & smiles 

I was just popping in for a minute, I'll go check my emails, I have been behind these past couple days.  I wish you a wonderful day also 

  

Hugs & smiles 

  

nancy 

After watching that man say his wife needed wife classes, well I realized I know why I am divorcing.  I am not a "perfect" wife, both of us had a part in bringing those kids in the world, so both of us have a part in caring for them.  If I did the cooking he did the cleaning, and vice versa.  If he didn't like the way I put certain things away, he either kept it to himself or had to take over whatever it was he didn't like.  for example if he didn't like the way I put away towels and said something, well he had to take over putting them away.  I'm not controlling, but I am not controlled either, if I didn't like the way he did things and if I said something, I took over doing it, like making the beds, he was awful at doing those, the blankets were just there, the sheets were all wrinkled, drove me nuts, so I took over doing the beds, and was satisfied.  Same with him he didn't like the way I put clothes away in the dressers, so he did that. 

this guy thinks his wife needs to be able to do these things and be proud for the way he wants it done, well he should try doing it for a month, and see how well he does, and she should be the one grading him as harsh as he was grading her.  If I remember correctly when he tried doing what he expected of her for what a day, he did horrible, but I don't remember her coming in and complaining about everything.  He needs to open his eyes and realize that she is his wife not his maid or nanny.  the thing about the wedding ring, well that is just too disrespectful to even discuss. 

Can't stay, my son will be home soon,   just too happy to keep in  

  

I'M getting a house, YOUPI  YAHOO 

  

HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY 

  

big hugs & smiles 

  

nancy 

I am 28 now, and my youngest is going on 9,  I can not see myself with a new born now.  My oldest sister was 30 when she had her son, my aunt was over 30 when she had hers.  I am so glad I got it all done at a young age, cause being at this age and starting to zero with a new born would drive me nuts.    but I do agree that having a baby is alot more than giving birth, you need to consider every single possible situation.  What if he is colic for more than 3 months, that means you never sleep until he does which is so rare, if he can't take the breast milk, what if he is allergic to certain milks, some can be extremely expensive.  My son could only where a certain brand of diapers because of something they put in the Pampers and the Huggies that would brake out his skin.  Ezcema creams were expensive, they needed supplements like vitamin D and Iron, extra costs,  complications at birth made him need physical therapists, speech therapists, and many more specialists  and some being daily visits.   There is alot to consider and to look into before thinking you want a baby that's for sure.  I admit I was extremely lucky with how things worked out, being in high school and their dad being in college, meant he only saw him on weekends because he lived more than 50 miles away, meant me also doing everything on my own, and attending class so I could graduate, which I did in June and with flying marks.  For the second one I was working nights so I could be at home with my son during the day, so I never slept there as well, I only slept the second night after giving birth, because they kept him in the nursery because he wouldn't stop crying and the lady next to me had a cesarian and needed to sleep.  Even now I don't sleep the very best, he I am past 2 am and i am up posting.  It is amazing how bringing a baby in the world changes your life for ever, you become so unselfish in such little time, and overwhelmed with love and happiness after they smile at you the first time, no matter what the situation.  But living in Canada means I don't have hospital bills, so maybe that would change everything there to, like not having more than one kid.

Hi there, I have a question not really regarding depression, but I know you check this board more often so I thought I would ask here.  Someone was wondering what happened to the first contestants of the WEIGHT LOSS CHALLENGE, especially Jim and Thomas.  They had inspired him to lose 75 lbs, and was wondering what was going on with them, their website was not updated, and it was mentioned they were gona be on a show with updates.  He was also wondering if that show would happen if anyone knew when because he's from the UK and can't catch all the shows.  If you could help me help him we would really appreciate it. 

  

Thanks again for the good work