Messages By: dbachelor

I think older men go for the younger women for the same reason they read Playboy or Maxum & it's not b/c the younger women are looking up to them & respecting their wisdom.  It's true many of us over 40 look & act quite youthful BUT when doing online dating, we won't even come up on the search of most guys our age (unless we're lying about our age which presents an integrity issue).  Their searches end at age 39 & most of them don't want to date anyone who was in high school at the same time they were. 

I feel like you've been all the dates I've had.  I wonder where the men are with manners? Anyone answer that?? 

Sherry 

I watched the show with interest, and there was one thing you didn't mention to the beauty queen who was 37 and still unmarried. Isn't it time she quit keeping her awards, crown, etc. in the living room for all to see?Maybe if she didn't mention that aspect of her "resume," the fellows would not either be intimidated, or interested in her only as a trophy date! 

Many years ago, my cousin, an RCAF pilot, was waiting for his girl friend in her living room. Seeing a fat velvet-covered album on the shelf, he looked at it and found it full of medals. Included was a silver diving medal in the Olympics! When asked why she hadn't mentioned it, she said she wanted people to be interested in her, not her medals. I thought that was a wise attitude. 

NO KIDS!!! 

BLUEANGEL777 

Wait a minute--where are all these men?  Outside of the dreaded bar scene it seems like everywhere I go there are zillions more WOMEN, or slightly older men who are there with women.  I don't even have especially "girly" habits; it's not like I'm trying to meet people at the quilting bee. 

Where the heck do you go to find promising 20/30-something men if you're no longer in school and have zero interest in casual sex? 

I know enough single women who, seriously, are not going to write you off on the basis of looks, height, or, within reason, wallet (that is, you don't have to be rich, just responsible).   

You've been going to the wrong shoe shine.  But if you've never been, and your footwear is a mess, you're making a poor first impression because research says it is one of the first things people observe.  If nothing else, you come away with a new experience to talk about, and with good looking footwear to improve your chances of making a great first impression in the workplace or the social arena.  Try saying to another customer that it is your first time --- this should open up conversation.   Then ask if this a ritual, and where he works, etc.  But if his head is in the paper, read the signs. 

Above all, stop the negativity, and stop looking for fault, otherwise you may never experience positive change.