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February 9, 2006, 7:48 am PST

02/09 Family Secrets, Family Lies

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I believe that everything that is transpiring in this home is all symptomatic of HUGE problems.  These are the kinds of things that nobody wants to face, and specifically speak out about, namely because of the threat of criticism or judgement.  Thus, when bottled up inside for years, comes out as symptoms that we are hearing about now.  I truly home that Dr. Phil can help these people talk about what is really hurting them, whether past or present hurts, so they can move past this, either together or alone, to find a much happier way to live their lives.  What is going on in this family is no different than if the issue were alcoholism or drugs which is a more visible problem, but the results are the same when it comes to creating dysfunctional families.  My best wishes to all of them, and I know that Dr. Phil can help if they are willing to say honestly what is in their hearts and not allow others to affect what they feel, and their ability to say it out loud.
This family just has too much time on their hands.  And they have chosen to fill it the way they have. It may do them some good to go and help less fortunate people.
 
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February 21, 2006, 12:56 pm PST

Today's Show

You know life is real short and seems that there is allot of people who waste allot of time on things that in the grand skeem of things really don't matter.  To me love is looking forward to seeing your wife as soon as you get off work etc.... When there is true love and respect for each other then a peace of mind is created that makes all the  BS that life can through you not matter.  Best of luck to this couple and tell them to quit wasting valuable time.....   Be very sad if his wife died and he looked at an empty fingure.....Once you spent time out of your account you can never get it back... 

Jerry 

 
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February 27, 2006, 7:09 am PST

Unbelivable

Dr Phil is right and this gentleman is like me when I was in the same situation. The mind will go to great lengths to find justification to continue to have sex with two women...and if he could have a third or more he probably would...Let's just call it for what it is and he is a sex addict...who like other addicts will do about anything to get his fix....It is so sad to see his wife pay the emotional toll that I made my wife pay...Hopefully he'll wakeup      Jerry
 
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November 6, 2006, 10:03 pm PST

Guilty

This man probably has been very sucessful in lying all his life.  They are called "Bold Face Lies"  He thinks if he says the lie often enough and with a straight face that he will be percieved as being truthful. Hopefully someone will step in and make his visits be under supervision. Cases like this are probably very difficult to prove because the child is so young that is almost impossible for them to articulate what has happened to them and there is no other witnesses etc.  I look into this man's eyes and I see evil. He has a look of a person with no conscience.His emotions seem too manufactured. He also made some mention or hint that he was abused when a child as if he was senting up a justification for improper actions on his part.  He appears to me as someone who is cornered in his on lies and is finding it more difficult to remember what he has said. Lies are hard to remember. The truth is not.  That is why he hesitates. He is so manipulative it's not funny. I sincerely hope that his Daughter is protected.  A good number of kids may cry when leaving from somewhere they want to stay. But the terror in that child's eyes is the best test of truth. A little girl that age would not know of these things unless they had really happened. I pray the for the best outcome for her.
 
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February 6, 2007, 3:11 pm PST

Life is Good!

I love Dr Phil's Approach to these guys. As being a guy who was like those guys(years ago) I can tell you they have a whole bunch of work ahead of them. As for people who say kick the bums out. I think they are wrong. I ,like Dr Phil ,believe in marriage and if these couples can work together to create a healthy and loving relationship where there is respect for each other then i say...Go for it.   I pray for them and wish them the best.    Jerry Woten   Ohio
 
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February 8, 2007, 12:54 pm PST

Exagerations....You think?

There are 26,280 hours in the 30 years he says he was doing this. He says he has done this 50,000 times. Which means he did this about once every half hour for the last 30 years minus the 2 years he says he hasn't.    I will have to throw the bull**** flag on this dude. When did he have time to sleep eat etc.....Not even factoring in the time he was in his prison.  Hello!!!!    There is no doubt he has done this countless times but his need to exagerate concerns me just with that fact alone.      Jerry    Celina Ohio

 
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February 9, 2007, 8:20 am PST

02/08 Flasher Exposed

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actually, there are 262,280 hours in 30 years

 

30 x 365 = 10,950

10,950 x 24 = 262,280

 

He had time   lol

Looking back at my math I had 262,280 but left out the two while typing message. That would still mean he was doing this at least 7 times a day for 30 years. Now I do not know how much time he was in prison so you would need to deduct that time. Unless he of course he was exposing Himself to the female guards.  LOL  Bottom line math is this guy is full of crap.
 
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February 13, 2007, 7:56 am PST

Not sincere

This guy is not sinceer. He is upset because he got caught and now he wants her to just get over it. The little smirks on his face speaks volumes. I not so sure this guy has the ability to feel empathy. It is really so sad for his Wife.      Jerry      Celina Ohio
 
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February 13, 2007, 8:01 am PST

02/13 Secret Love

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I really don't think anyone knows how they will react to a situation until it actually happens to them.  I always said that I would leave in an instant if my husband ever cheated on me.  I also said that he never would cheat.  Well, he did.  With my best friend. For almsot a year.  I saw a few signs, but I didn't want to believe it of either of them.  He finally came and told me.  He truly wanted to save our marriage and he knew he had to come clean.  She wanted to keep it a big secret and I basically forced her to tell her husband.  All 4 of reacted in very different ways to what was going on.  I haven't seen or spoken to her in several years, her husband who continued to be my friend, forgave my husband and his wife (they did divorce and he has since died at the age of 43)  They would have divorced regardless of the affair.  My husband and I have worked very hard the past 5 years to save and repair our marriage.  It is still a struggle sometimes, but we had 17 good  years before the affair and we've had some wonderful times since.  We've also had some very painful times.  Even though I would never want to go through something like this again, the affair forced us to look at our marriage alot more honestly than we had been for some time and to "get real" about it.  Weird as it may sound, in some ways it was a blessing as it did make us sit up and take notice.  I am sad that I don't have my best friend and I am very careful about who I get close to!  My husband and I can talk about it without too much pain anymore (and it is painful for everyone involved), there are certain times of the year, songs, all sorts of things that bring back memories.  I will tell you however, my husband knows that if it ever happens again I am so gone he won't know what hit him!  He will also have to deal with his parents and our adult children knowing.  (My parents and our sisters all know about this)
I always feel it is too bad that other family members become aware of these things. Because sometimes after you are recovering they are there to remind you of throw it into someones face. I hope for you that is not the case. Not always good to air the dirty laundry.
 
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March 5, 2007, 7:49 am PST

Suicide

 I do not know if there has been a ruling on her death. My guess is that it was a suicide.  With the recent birth, Son's death, legal issues and press pressures etc all added up. And did anyone consider that she maybe wanted to die befor she turned 40. Because her idol, Marilyn Monroe died in her 30s.  This all taken together in her depression, suicide probably seemed like the solution to her. The people around her failed her miserably.   Jerry from Calina
 

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