Quote From: bethtraI used to love loser guys, I was cheated on, beaten up, degraded, humiliated and used. Then one day when I decided enough was enough I went to therapy, best thing I ever did. I found out that I was just repeating my pattern of what I thought was acceptable treatment because that's how my parents treated me. My mom was crazy and hurt me physically, emotionally and spirtitually, she beat me when she had a bad day at work, or was mad at my alcoholic father, she spit on me she told me I was a piece of you know what and degraded me in front of people in some pretty horrible ways. My father told me many times he didn't like me because I looked like my mom. I had no support from anyone growing up cause the rest of my family was nuts as well. It has taken my a long time in therapy, as well as other support groups but it was so worth it, I am now in school completing my bachelors degree in nursing, and I am married to a man who treats me like a queen. My kids are doing much better and leading good and decent lives- I am very proud of them. I thank God for good counseling and now have healthier friends as well ( I used to attract sick friends as well) LIFE IS GOOD- so what I am saying is just because we have people who are clueless about how to raise us, and lack consciences as to what they are doing to their children, we don't have to keep repeating history-Pray to God for the courage and willingness to change and I know he will help-God could and he would if he were sought-Be brave and break that awful cycle in your family it is so worth it I have a life I never knew I could have and no longer have to be a victim of this life - I am a participant. In my nursing practice I am hoping to give back to others the way I have been given to in my recovery--Peace to you my friends and may God bless you on this journey of life-signed-Happily ever after
Hi! I just found out about my niece that is dating a child sex offender. We had no idea about him before attending an overnight family New Year's Eve party. There were a total of 8 children under the age of 13, the youngest was 3, and none of us, but my niece and her parents knew about him. She had finally told her parents just before Christmas and he was still allowed to come to our family parties. What is wrong with people? I was more upset after I was told and had time to think about it. How can a person encourage someone like my niece to leave the guy and pursue other interests? She is 27 years old and has been married once before. The guy she married ended up being a loser too! He was skitsophrenic and had gone off the deep end.
I believe people can change, but why give them a chance to hurt my own kids or my other little nieces or nephews? I would forever be looking over my shoulder to make sure he wasn't going to do it to them. I would hate to live this way the rest of my life.
I guess I am asking what can I do or say to help her realize this is wrong and she wouldn't be happy living this way either? Any suggestions?