Dear transplant lady - and all other viewers -
I must say that I was bit surprised by your viewpoint. It did come across as cold and heartless - yes- even greedy that you wouldn't be willing to give everything for your husband and that you felt he should take care of his problem( he was the one that got sick, etc....). Then I listened some more and heard you saying something else, it was as if you were overwhelmed by the strain you are under. You didn't say you no longer loved your husband - just that you would like his help/input with the bills. They can really mount up and be a terrible load to carry by yourself. I truly am grateful that you and your husband had the blessing of a liver transplant. You've been through a lot. Hang in there. Take each day - one day at a time . cherish the time you have with him. It would be so sad if he wasn't around with you and the family for a long time. Make memories that you will have no regrets about. Love each other, as life is a gift ,and we only have this moment.
Almost two years ago, my father underwent a heart transplant. Wow! I do understand some of the financial strain this can put on a person. I wouldn't trade any of that for the extra time I've been given with him. He was even healthy enough to walk me down the aisle for my own wedding this past May. What a treasure!!!! And to get to spend the holidays with him and to visit him as often as we can - I know I am truly blessed for the extra time that has been given to him in this most generous of all gifts. The gift of life by organ donation. Someone else had to die and willed his organs to others, that my dad might live today.
I would like to take a moment to challenge all of you readers to seriously think about being an organ donor. The process is easy and yet is so very valuable to hundreds and thousands of people, sick, dying and in desperate need of lifesaving organ donors. I never wanted to be a donor until my dad went through it. If I can ever give life ( or help the quality of someone else's life) by donating any of my organs - I gladly will. I am glad to say I am now signed up to be an organ donor and have even told my husband of my wishes. I look at it this way. I will no longer be alive ( for most organ donations the donor is deceased), and therefore it won't matter to me. I'll just decay and rot away in the ground anyway. But, if by some chance I can help someone else live - then I say yes and gladly. May your life live on through my organs. As I said, the process is really easy, all I did, when I renewed my license . was I said yes, and filled out the form. they even put organ donor on my drivers license to let others know if I'm ever killed in an accident.
Please, take a moment today to really consider the gift of life you may be giving to someone else. Do it!!!! It may even be someone in your own family that is in need of a donated organ. Sincerely, Julie D.
