Messages By: fl4012

You never have to take it as far as corporal punishment if your raising your kids right 

a little bit of fear and respect go hand in hand. 

That is exactly why kids today have no respect for their parents. They feel as if they should be treated as an equal. Bull crap, I don't need to earn my kids trust or respect. I brought them into this world. I don't care if they like it or lump it they can deal with it until they turn 18. Parenting is a job and it's not your job to be their friend until they are grown with children of their own. It might not seem like it at the moment but in the end they will thank you for your tough love. I know I thanked my parents. 

Did you hear Dr. Phil when he was talking about the saying"when the cat's away ,the mice will play?" what do you think that means? Children should know that you are watching and that if they do something wrong there will be a punishment. It couldn't be any more simple than that. They should fear that something will happen when they do something wrong because in the real world there is a reaction to every action they take. These children were misbehaving in front of their parents and that just proves my point. People don't go around breaking laws right in front of the police. Do they? oh' yes, people with no respect and do you know where that lack for respect started? At home. See you have it backwards, you dont give your child respect hoping they will return it. You make them earn your respect by behaving in a way that makes you proud. They fear what their own bad behavior will bring them, they don't fear the parent. I am not being a bully I am being real. I will always love my babies whatever happens but I will also make sure that I am sending them down the right path. 

It is a little sad I had to resort to an anaolgy just to make my point, but I agree that anyone with that view point is apparently not living in the real world. I also agree with your reply about parents trying  to be a friend to their children. I am a  mom in my 20's and I have no desire to be my child's friend. 

they have enough "friends" what they need is a parent. You made a good point - BRAVO!!! 

Oh' yeah, junior college kids are so mature and serious about their education. 

Don't make me laugh.  I myself am not really impressed with the public schools either but I think more blame should be placed on the parents and less on the teachers. It is not the teachers job to make their students well behaved.   

We don't only have sex to procreate, we have sex because it is a natural thing to do. 

Why use methods to end or prevent pregnancy? because we are not rabbits we can't have loads of babies, but that doesn't mean we don't want to have sex. 

Same sex couples? why do they do anything they do?  

Can't have kids? No they still wan't to have sex. Even dog's who have been fixed still hump. It's natural. 

what age....................................................... that is up to debate but my guess is on average most people don't do it at 12.  More along the lines of 16. 

If you want to live as a virgin I say more power to you ,but there is no way I ever would have died a virgin. Once your dead, your dead. I don't care what anyone has to say ,it is a fact. 

My husband and I do the same thing. The names that we call each other to anyone else would be offensive but to us they are terms of endearment. Although, since we had children we have toned them down. See, not everyone is capable of being mushy and lovey all the time. This is just a way of being playful. I have to agree with Dr. Phil that this is normal behavior. Hope I could give you another way to look at it. Good luck. 

Good for you, My husband and I also enjoy our banter. I also laughed when I watched the show because I finally knew that my husband and I weren't the only ones who loved to insult each other. lol.               

I also have an eight month old baby and she loves sleeping with my husband and I. 

I also tried the bassinet and It was just not practical. When my baby turned about seven months old she became very active and able to crawl very fast. We still allow her to sleep with us at night as long as we are both in the bed. I am not a heavy sleeper and if she wakes up I wake right away although she doesn't hardly ever wake at night. I think it is great that you found something that works for you and don't worry about if there is a fire (like the other message said) because I'm sure the first thing you would do is pick up your baby before you ran out of the room. My daughter takes all her naps during the day on the floor and it works great. She doesn't like to sleep in her crib and the floor is the next safest place because she can't fall. If you don't have one they make these adorable little "couches" that also fold out into a mat they can sleep on. My daughter has one and she loves her's. They are perfect because you can fold it up into the couch and it doesn't take up much room but when they are ready for a nap you can fold it out and it is a great place to sleep. 

Anyways, good luck. 

           I've read what people are cooking for dinner, how everyone is doing, what they've been doing and step by step instructions on how to use this message board but not much about depression. 

Isn't that what this board is about? Just thought I'd make sure.