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Alot of ED's stem from society's perception of what is considered beautiful. Teasing and peer pressure have a HUGE impact as well. A few months ago, my best friend's 9 year old daughter started acting very strangely. She didn't want to have ice cream when they were shopping at the mall, she said she wanted to walk around the mall instead. Now when a 9 year old doesn't want to have ice cream, you KNOW something is wrong. She didn't want to eat dinner that night either, they were at a restaurant and she barely ate anything. My friend sat down with her later that night and asked her what was wrong and she didn't want to talk about it at first, but finally she said that she was fat, she needed to lose weight. Apparently, 2 other little girls from school had teased her and called her fat, which SHE IS NOT, by any stretch of the imagination. Just one hurtful comment made her think she was fat and had her mother not intervened, she could have started down a long, difficult, unhealthy road. That's all it takes, just one thoughtless cruel comment. Read the Karen Carpenter story. One writer referred to her as "chubby" and that is what started the whole downward spiral, which ended in her untimely death.
To be honest, if I could purge, I would. Luckily or maybe not, I have some kind of throat problem and would no doubt choke to death, if I tried. I am obease and I hate it. and myself . I do have days of feeling like, 'why go on.'
Here's the thing. I don't eat large amounts of things but I eat the wrong things to loose weight. I eat pretty normal foods most all day. I don't have more then one piece of meat or whatever. But I do often wonder " Why can't I say no to that dish of ice cream at night?" In a way, I think I have the same problem as the anorexic, but opposite of them. It's some kind of mental thing. Of course, I do have a few tumors on the thyroid and have had thyroid problems since I carried my second child. Little by little and with age coming on, I began to gain weight. It was hardly noticable at first. And I had some very strong reasons to 'just give up' And i"m sorry to say , I did. Stupid on my part. Now I'm depressed and don't see any hope for me.
I used to dance, alone, for about two hours a day. My husband worked and my kids were in school, so besides all the care of the house I managed to dance. There were no witnesses. lol....... I think this really helped keep the weight off. I also walked three miles every night with a friend. But we moved away and since then I've been pretty much alone and in hiding. There are all kinds of sickness and hurt that cause people to do things that arn't good for them. I feel doomed. I'm sure these anorexics feel the same way. It is hopeless. Hopefully Dr. Phil can help these poor women. I feel so bad for them. I know what they mean about seeing themselves as fat. It's not as simple as saying "don't eat" or EAT. There's something else going on in that persons' head. I don't know what but I know it's true.
Biggots make remarks and give you looks that are so hurtful. It's like you're not suppose to like yourself Or even be worthy of breathing. If anyone says a nasty thing to me, I say this. "I know I'm fat but maybe some day I will lose the weight, YOU on the other hand are UGLY, and NOTHING can change that." That has always shut them up and maybe taught them to more careful how they insult people. Especially when they are with their friends. . I'm not sorry I say it. People deserve to be told off when they think they are any better then me or ANYONE ELSE. Who died and made them Emperor? And frankly, you know, THEY ARE ugly, inside at least.
I don't understand exactly what causes anorexia. I have a friend whose daughter got this way in collage. The thing is. she was nerver fat. Not even a little. So it was some kind of control thing, I guess. I was so shocked, because of all the kids, she was the sweetest, nicest , smartest girl. Maybe it's too hard to be perfect.
One thing I will warn you of. McDonald's, Burger King, Wendy's and all the other fast food chains will be your down fall. It's not that I had two or three meals at a time. But I ate there almost every day. I was seemingly addicted to that food. I love McDonald's food but it has ruined my life. If I didn't get food, I at least got a coke every single day. Now I have iced tea and Equal and the food just doens't taste that good any more. Thank Heavens for that!! I know the food is great tasting for most people, but don't go there. For God's sake, don't take your children there. It's a very bad habit. It's OK when you're in the prime of life and you're active but when you get older and it's a nasty habit you might not be able to break. You can't do enough to burn those empty calories. Please, STAY AWAY FROM FAST FOOD PLACES. No matter what!!!!! Remember, anything that taste good or is fun, is usally bad for you.
