Quote From: lisaritErika - I just wanted to let you know that I think you are very brave. Your dad did a horrible thing years ago. I do believe the drugs could have been a big factor in his murdering your mom. I also understand why he went back to drugs when he was clean the whole time he was in prison. I assume that he didn't have any motivation to stay off of the drugs. I am proud of him to go into rehab and to come to the show and in front of the world say, "I killed your mom". Its obvious that he really wants to have a relationship with you. I can't imagine what BAD intention he has. He could just say he doesn't want to worry with it but he went on national tv acknowledging what he had done - that had to be hard too. Anyway, I am not a psycologist and I wouldn't tell you what to do because I don't really know the answers, but my perspective is that your dad wants a relationship with you and you want one with him. He acknowledged that he has God in his life and it is up to God to forgive and to judge him. Not us. You deserve to have your dad and your mom in your life. Unfortunantely, your dad is all you have left. Life is way to short............................................. If you want a relationship with your dad or anyone else you must forgive and try to start over. Pray for your dad and pray for yourself. I could see the pain in your face and the pain in your dad's too. I think it would be wonderful if you two could begin a new relationship. I believe God has his hand in this situation. I haven't ever been in the same position as you. I can't even imagine to be honest. I just hope you will be very careful, but try to form a relationship with your dad for your sake and for his. GOOD LUCK.
I'm sorry, but I disagree about forming a relationship with your dad. God say's to forgive others or he cannot forgive you, but forgiving DOES NOT mean you have to start over and have a relationship with him. I could not have a relationship with a man that murdered my mother ( or a mother that murdered my father for that matter) because it would always be in the back of my mind. Just because you forgive someone does not mean you forget. My dad used to beat my mom. Before he died, I went to visit him and we talked about it. I forgave him, but I will not and cannot forget it. The person above this letter talked about "understanding why he went back on drugs after getting out of prison and so forth and said he had no motivation. I would think that wanting to see and talk to y'all would be motivation enough. His problem it seemed is that he was too busy having a pity party for himself. You had it right the first time. if he truly loved you girls, he would have got out, stayed clean and respectable and then tried to contact you. Anyway, that's my prospective on that. I will pray for y'all that God's will be done in your life. Not that you get together with your dad, or not, but that whatever God wants to happen will. I suggest you do the same. That way you know it will be the right thing to do.
Sincerely,
Patti
