Messages By: jaxxxxxx

Obviously, given the topic of female teachers molesting male students one must expect a certain level of  contempt for all males, misandry that is.  That is a sad side effect of our culture's gender changes.

I've spent 25 years studying female offender sex crimes. Doing so was the only way to answer my own "why." What is known is fairly interesting:

- "Sex in America" puts the lifetime risk for males at 1 in 50. As this book is the best sex study we have, it seems highly likely that for 1990 this is the proper number.

As for the rate going up ... as for more females molesting males: This seems highly likely. As power increases so does opportunity to misuse power. In teaching we're running with a female teacher rate of about 80%, this means that females have a lot of opportunity, so we expect more to misuse their power. Also, teaching as it exists now allows a fairly high margin of misandry in the form of "we're working on the girls' problems." Allowing more misandry ensures creating problems for the boys. This is basic to system dynamics. So, it is almost a sure thing to say that the rate at which females molest males is going up.

Now as to pedophiles: The concept that some sex offenders against children are not pedophiles has been shown. The classic example being two 13 year olds who have sex: The boy will be declared a sex offender, but he is in no way a pedophile, (girls in such cases are not declared sex offenders even though they are usually far more mature than the boy). There are more than 1,000 known cases of exactly this. Thus, we can say that our efforts to protect children sometimes create RSO's who are of no threat to anyone.

In the case of Janelle, the problem is of putting her wants & desires before the needs of the boy. We've declared this a crime for very good reason. Yet to say she is a pedophile would be silly: The same applies to some male sex offenders. The age here has no part of the thing: It is the power and the putting her wants before his needs, that being for protection from a teacher's power.

That said, many females do indeed groom a group of boys. These women are indeed pedophiles and a threat to all children. Sadly, the core sexism in our society is a bigger threat to children: Core misandry results in the female pedophile being waived off simply because she is a she.

We all need to throw off our own sexism. People are people all having needs and all having their own power. From there we can see the needs of all and the ability of all. From equality we can see the evil of some people and the mistakes of others.

I have to be careful in reading this topic: Teh core hatred of all males shown by some is far too hurtful. Let us all see that people are people thus allowing all to read these comments.

Shawn:   We, as male survivors of female offenders must remember that the violence of anti-male thought in society is a threat to us. Trying to get women to accept responsibility for their violence is daft and is a threat to our own peace of mind.  Many Canadian and American women are simply not willing  to see you or I as a fellow human being. You will only burn yourself out trying to get them to change: Only the women have the power to bring about change and they are not as of yet willing to do the work.

You as a fellow Canadian are probably aware that I want the government to enable a law protecting males from pregnancy resulting from a female's sexual assault. The Harper government will not do so because they are afraid of women's reaction to such a law. The other parties are not even willing to talk about it due to fear of women's reaction. The feminists offer a buy-out in which in the case of pregnancy due to female offender rape the male would have the right to declare the child, not his child: This is grossly unfair to the child and daft thinking of the first order.

So, until the women are willing to bring about change the law will be that female sex offenders are by law the automatic parent to some children and male survivors must by law live with seeing their child raised by a sex offender, paying support to their rapist, etc.. SAD! Really sad ...

As you mention, Canadian law states that all help goes to the female victims. Mr. Green, the Deputy Minister in charge, states that there is no sexism in this. All Canadian political parties demand that this must stay as the law: All demand that there is no unfairness in keeping the help systems female only and no misandry in promoting contempt for males.

That is what you and I and many other men face.

You will burn yourself out trying to get all women to behave themselves on this or the surrounding issues. There are simply too many who demand unfairness and the rest as of yet refuse to get involved. It is the way of things as they are.

I'm not being fatalist here: The current social structure is changing and women will stand up for their menfolk some day soon. Be patient, tell your story and tell the women YOU know that THEY, they personally, must stand up for you. For standing up against unfairness and bigotry is a big part of equality. Most women are at the point wherein they are starting to see exactly that point.

It's a great pity that some people must behave so very badly.  There is no excuse, none at all. We are all people, every one of us.

I've had my share of hate thrown at me: I suppose many others can say the same thing. Having the wisdom to see hatred as a mark of error in the one using it is a start towards an end. Wisdom is only the start.

I must admit though ... These people behaved so badly that I would not have watched the show had not my wife been telling me a long, complex and involved story at the same time. I have no desire to watch people behave badly!

RUDE! That is what I see. Well, I might exempt Tess from that: She appears to be the best of the lot. You and the straight "gay hating" woman whose name I forget, might just get the most out of this.

People are people ... at least for the most part. Why would anyone hate another without VERY good cause to do so?  Humph: I see no mass murderers or radical terroroists among these six.

I wouldn't want to go to the "house" with a rabid man hating feminist: I like myself too much to do something that stupid. Mind you, the matriarchists are human, wrong & dangerously wrong, but still human. To say the matriarchists are a threat to us all is quite reasonable, given the available evidence, but to hate a woman? NEVER! Here, among these six I only late in #2 saw the beginnings of understanding this important point.

I have never understood the Christians who oppose gays & lesbians. First off, the bible says NOTHING, nothing at all about lesbians: They are off free and clear. The Bible does stand against gay men, true. However, it does so in regard to the Baal fertility rights. It is Idol Worship which is objected to, not gay men per se. A little bit of BASIC Christianity is required here!

Bess: Ya got a good heart under that hurt. I'd tell Bess that she is probably more than half white herself and Gary that he and his father are just plain wrong. Also, I'd tell Bess that the justice system is triparite. She, as a black/white women is is the same group as white men, NOT in the group with white women. Remember, when Levine studied convictions for killing a person while driving drunk he found:

- kill a black man and get 2 years
- kill a white man or a black woman and get 4 years
- kill a white woman and get 6 years

The entire justice system stacks up that way. Three groups and YOU, BESS, are in the same group as the white men. In the eyes of the justice part of the law Bess, you are a white man.

GARY:  Look man. People are people! If you want to work for "whites" there are a very few legitimate areas of social work to be done. For instance, working for the white men at the bottom of the financial heap is a worthy thing to do, especially the fathers at the bottom: You won't find anyone worse off than a lone father who ends up homeless ... real tragedy there. That said, most of the injustice in America & Canada is dumped on the minority men, with some on the minority women.  Your "You are taking our country away from us" is just plain DUMB! It is not true. If you are really interested in racial issues then get some real knowledge and set out to fix the problems; there are many problems left to be fixed. White power will not fix anything and may make things a lot worse.

JOHN:  What can I say? "GROW UP!" That's what my heart wants to say.  Look man, if you don't deal with your life, you won't be around to be alive. You got a chance here, take it! Grab ahold with both hands and learn.

Sarah:  There's some depth in there. Listen and learn and feed that depth.

Noelle:  If you were male, you'd be in jail. Trashing a woman's stuff is a crime and is VERY much punished. You being female, you got away with it which is a sad crime in and of itself.

No person fixes  a problem with bad behavior.  Anger? Yes of course you are angry! That anger must be controlled and used to make any needed changes.