Messages By: mrsmph2b

Quote From: bellasun

Every one of the situations that mirror mine is the male in the relationship is a professional engineer.  I was trying to explain to a friend(the one time that I did get to go out for lunch,he's controling,but getting better)about home...and a woman at the table behind got so excited...her husband was an engineer and the same way.  Very analitacle(sp),very cold&stern,somewhat robotic.  but they love a person that is outgoing because that's what they lack, they want to become a little more fun...but what they end up doing is becoming controling,perfectionists,and it really brings a person who is fun loving down, because they become jealous,they feel unloved,they feel unaccepted.  But the happy person they fell inlove with, has been beaten down,it's hard to come back smiling and bubbly, and they don't get what they've done.  Am I making sense? 

Quote From: ally_cpr

 I am new to this board and I am hoping to get some advice or pointers from others maybe in my position.I have been engaged for three years now and my partner and I have a ten month old together.I have a eight year old from a past relationship but the father is not in the scene at all.my partner and oldest child always but heads and I am sick off it as I am always flat out try to keep things claim and divide my atttention to all three in my family but it is very hard.I  feel my partner need to be more in control with my oldest and act more as a role model then a kid .when I say kid I mean he gets mad and does the name calling like she would do to us, I admit I get mad to but try to control it and set a good response so she learns that she was wrong and shouldn't do it again.But he just acts very inmature towards her and myself when things are too hard to handle.I need him to meet me in the center when it comes to parenting both chilren especailly the ooldest as she is a very hard child to handle.what can I do as we love each other and just want things to work with our relationship and  our children  as well.How can I see that he needs to put more  either into been more in control of his inmature actions and be more a parent with  rule that stay the same and more understandment towards how hard it is for me all the time as it stresses me out alot. oh well  here's hoping if I keep trying and not give up he'll notice it and try himself to me more an adult in this relationship for the childrens sake.

Quote From: simply26

I have a 7yr old daugher who refuses and panics if she is asked to sleep alone.  A little history...Her father and I divorced when she was 1 yr old.  Since then and even before we divorced she has been attached to me.  She slept in my bed till she was 3.  I since moved in with this guy whom we've lived together for 4 years.  The first two years we lived with his parents (money issues on their side) so we shared a room but she had her own bed.  She would sleep with us, but as soon as she was sleep i would put her in her bed and sometime at night she would end up in mine sometimes.  We moved out two years ago, she has her own room but she refuses to sleep unless i sleep with her.  Sooo, i sleep with her but when she falls asleep i go to my bed, sure enough at least 5 times out of the week she ends up in our bed.  I usually end up going to my room after 12 sometimes after she is in a deep sleep.  This is causing problems in my current relationship because he is fed up with me sleeping in my daughters room and then going to my room like a zombie...But when i tell my daughter that she has to sleep by herself she panics badly, and if I tell her that i'll be there till she falls asleep she wont be able to sleep and she'll panic when i leave.  Please HELP!!!!! I feel alone at this, because he is not helping me solve the problem, and i dont think i do much to solve it because i seee the panic in her face and i dont know what to do.