Quote From: ashjoscottI live in a neighborhood where there is mainly older retired people. I have one neighbor that comes over EVERYDAY to visit two or three times a day. If she calls and doesn't get me on the phone (which I am pregnant and have a 15 month old so I am really busy during the day and answering the phone certainly isn't a priority sometimes) she will come knocking on my door. If I don't answer the door, she will sit on the porch until I either open the door so she can "see that I am alright" or should I be gone somewhere, she will sit there till I come home. I have had to change my phone number just so she won't call me everyday before 8am (which I have asked her several times NOT TO DO) and since the number has been changed, she is over constantly just to "make sure we are o.k." I am ok, I am almost 40 years old and have been taking care of myself for MANY MANY years. My 15 month old usually takes a nap during the day, sometimes two, and it seems that just when I put him down for his nap, she comes bouncing over for one reason or another. Being pregnant, I also get tired during the day and sometimes try to rest while he is napping, but with her banging at the door, it is impossible for us to take naps anymore. I have tried to explain to her that he takes a nap at a certain time everyday, and that is the ONLY time I get "me time" when I can relax too or do something around here I need to get done without his little feet under me. However, it just doesn't register with her. When she is here visiting on one of her two or three visits per day, she talks about nothing but her problems and how she can't pay this or how she can't do that. I am honestly tired of hearing about the "woe is me" story she tells everyday. We (me and my husband) don't have the best of everything, but we make it without anyone's help and if we find there is some reason we can't make it, we don't inflict a pitty party on others over it. I understand she may be lonely, but I also am beginning to understand why!! Her own daughter won't even speak to her because she is so annoying and none of the other neighbors around here will acknowledge the fact that she is around. ( She is retired as well and is in her 60's.) How in the world do I get this lady to back off without hurting her feelings? I am at my wits end and I really don't want to say anything that will hurt anyone, but I am getting close to it!! (Being pregnant doesn't help when someone is annoying you, either!!) Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
Simply put........Tell her if she does not wish to respect you and your privicy not to mention the fact that you've told her time and time again to please stop.
She's elderly yes prolly really really lonley but.........your her neighbor not a companion, sit her down privitly and sternly tell her if she keeps on doing what she is doing you are going to have no choice but to stop all contact with her! let her know though that do like it when she stops buy but NOT in excess your not 2 your an adult
sorry not too much help i know
