Messages By: jade56031

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April 18, 2006, 12:34 pm PDT

why do I do that?

I'm 28 and I've been married twice. Both spouses cheated on me which ended in divorce. Now I am with a man that I have know for 8yrs. He treats me with respect, lets me talk about whatever is on my mind, and has been honest with me. However I have cheated on him in the past. I am vulnerable and have put myself in bad spots that could lead up to cheating.  Ive been lucky enough that he has forgiven me. Am I doing this because I have had it done to me? I need to make it stop. Any advice?
 
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May 9, 2006, 12:20 pm PDT

how do I feel again?

I have cheated on my fiance a few times.  We are in two different places distance wise. He has forgiven me...but I personally don't feel beautiful to him anymore. Is it because I haven't forgiven myself? I don't want out of the relationship but there never seems to be a time I don't feel bad.
 
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May 17, 2006, 9:49 am PDT

help

 Cheating on him due to distance was a bad choice. One I wish I never mad. I have cheated myself out of a lot of things that I have truly wanted out of a relationship. How can I stop remembering what I have done to him everytime I see him? How can I get to the root of the source?  

 
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September 29, 2006, 7:47 am PDT

Don't know what to do.....?

Dr. Phil,

 

I have a fiance that I have known for 8yrs. He is currently living in Canada. We have been working on the paperwork for a year now so that he can come here and we can be married. The only problem is his criminal record. He has a felony on it. At first I mentioned that since he had that it might be easier that I move there. Since I am secure here he didn't want me to do that. I would have more to lose that he would.

 

He had his interview and was denied. We have only one piece of paperwork left. And there is no guarentee that it will let him get his visa. On top of that my died. She has been gone almost a year. I found her on the floor when I came back from my Canada trip Sept of last year. She only lived a month after being put in a home.

 

my mom was a very important person in my life. She was looking forward to meeting my fiance.  It hurts not being with him..but I can't financially be with him because of the paperwork we have already done. Dr Phil, do you think I should give this relationship up before it does anymore damage on the emotionally?

 

 

 

 

 

 
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April 6, 2007, 12:04 pm PDT

Where should I start

 I have three new step children that have come from a non healthy enviroment. They have been around abuse and drugs. How do I as a new person in their life get their trust and give them new structure?
 
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July 24, 2007, 11:19 am PDT

Love and Logic?

 I am 30 and my husband is 36. He has 3 kids from a previous marriage. We just got them due to a non-healthy inviroment with mom and her boyfriend. They had no structure as far as rules...bedtime, encouragement,launguage,respect, ect...They are 10, 8 and 7. Where do you start? Cause I haven't found anything to work.

 

sincerely,

 

Frustrated Step-mom

 
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February 28, 2008, 10:08 am PST

How can I make a difference?

Dr. Phil

 

We have had my husbands three kids for a year now. We have the counties service for help. My step-daughter at 9 had add and anxiety and some depression. My step son is 7 and is taking something for depression.  The 11 isnt.  My stepdaughter does not or will not sleep in her bed. We have explained to her that it's wrong for her to sleep in the same bed with her dad. She was molested but I don't know that would make her not want to sleep alone. All of the kids don't seem like they have had alot. They also like things done for them.What can I do to be a better person to them? How can I get them on the right track to do  things on their own?

 
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June 3, 2008, 9:42 am PDT

"Her" room is "our" room

 

I have some issues with my husbands 9yr old daughter. When she and her brothers came to live with me and their father. Due to a unhealthy situation. They all slept in there rooms. She didn't do that very long. One night she had a bad dream and I let her sleep in me and my husbands room. Now she thinks she has control over it. So much that when my husband is home he has to sleep on the couch because she throws a fit. How can I get her out of it?

 

 

 

 

 
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August 10, 2008, 9:34 am PDT

PLEASE HELP!

 My husband wants to move and he has more pros than cons. I on the other hand own a house and still have money on it. Do I reguard that and move with him and possibly hurt my credit? Or what can I do?/
 

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