Messages By: mercury_ve

It saddens me that mothers do this to their children. Why lie, it is better for all to be honest.

 

I don't feel the man should have to pay for a child that isn't his, unless he was aware prior to the child being born, that he wasn't the father and chose to stay.

 

I feel the child is the one who pays in the long run, they grow up being told this is your dad and then finds out later that he isn't, how emotional will that be for them. The man on the other hand, when he finds out, has to have some kind of resentment towards the mother, the resentment will fall on the child in some form or another, it's human nature.   

 

You can't make someone love you, and that includes fathers who have been lied to. Why make them end up hating the child by forcing a financial burden on them.

 

The mother should be held responsible, financially. It should be her responsibility to also find the "real" father to provide financially and give him the option of getting to know his child.

 

The courts, should side with the father in these cases. With the mother being held accountable. 

I feel everyone should be given a second chance and that includes living in a community where they have the support of family and friends. Not all of the registered sex offenders are dangerous to their community and trying very hard to over come their stupidity, then again some are falsely accused and had no resources to fight the conviction and will have to live the life as though they are a monster.   

 

I would rather have a known convicted sex offender living next door to me than having one who hasn't been caught yet. Because knowledge is the power of hindsight.

I also feel and understand your pain, as I know a couple of registered sex offenders, who I feel are better people due to the treatment programs and they are working very hard to just maintain a life without harassment. I also feel there should be different levels of classification regarding sex offenders, 1. seeking out victims who are unknown to them, are classified as predatory, which are the worst kind of sex offenders; 2. it's all the others that are thrown into one basket, that should be classified in different categories, and with this last classification, depending on the offender, trouble free for 10 years, that their name could be removed from the system, so they could continue to live a some what of a normal life.     

The 2007 Legislative Session brings the following changes to Sex Offender registration effective January 1, 2008:

 
House Bill 2333 – Provides relief from sex offender registration for certain sex crime convictions  
Who qualifies?
 
            Anyone currently registering for certain crimes if:

1. The act was consensual between the victim and the offender but due to the victim being under 18 years of age, the offender was found guilty; and
2. The victim was 14 years of age or older at the time of the crime; and
3. The offender was less than 5 years older than the victim at the time of the crime; and
4. This is the offender’s only sex crime conviction or adjudication.

 
Anyone convicted in adult court or adjudicated in juvenile court of certain crimes after January 1, 2008, if the court determines the above circumstances exist and the sentencing order states the offender is not required to register as a sex offender.
 
What crimes qualify?
            Rape in the third degree
            Sodomy in the third degree
            Sexual Abuse in the third degree
            Contributing to the Sexual Delinquency of a Minor
            Sexual Misconduct

 

 

My mother just passed away this past June and my ex-sister was her caretaker....as her caretaker for the past several years, she alienated most of the family, to the point no one wanted to come and visit. Changed the locks on all the doors (all of us at one time had keys to the house), would scream as soon as you walked in the door, to the point our mother would bow her head and cry. My mother would say how much she was afraid of her, when she wasn't in the room, but was to afraid to tell her caseworker and we were told unless she spoke up, there was nothing that could be done.  

 

Now that my mother is gone....she loaded up my mothers car (with the most valuable items) and left the day of the funeral in her (my mothers) car....I was told that my mother signed the car over to her (my mother had dementia), so I could almost bet, the signed paper in a court of law, wouldn't be legal. But it's not worth the fight.

 

My mother is now in a better place and not being mistreated or no longer afraid. I just wished there had been more that we could of done to protect and help her.

 

 

I will never forgive her (the ex-sister). She can rot in hell...if she was on fire, I would not cross the street to piss on her to put out the fire.