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Diana, please for your own health and the health of your children, don't put up with Ken's behavior any longer.  He is destroying your soul.  Your children don't need his treatment of you as healthy behavior modeled by someone who says he loves you.   I could tell that Ken was not an active participant in the marriage, so I don't think he'll follow through with counseling.  But please, get counseling for yourself and stick with it.  I'm not saying to divorce him, but - if you were to; Ken could live in a clean, spotless, perfect home all by himself.  And he would have to be a active father; something he's obviously not now - a court -ordered parenting plan (every other weekend, etc.) would force him to interact and have a relationship with his children.   

  

  

Ken, I'm concerned for your children.   Do you want your daughter(s) to think that a man who curses and belittles and demeans their mother is showing how much he loves her?  That this is a way they should be treated in their future relationships?  Think about it.  A man your daughters dating telling her she's "half-assed", "lazy", and "worthless", but he "loves" her.  Is this what you want for them?  That a man who will treats them like this is someone they want a relationship with, a future with, a father to their future children?  Don't do this anymore.  Please stop.