Hi,
I saw the picute that you posted of your kitty... She's was a very cute cat. Sweet face :D I am totally a cat person.
That handsom boy on my profile picture is "Scarface" If you look closely you might see that he has a scared face... Some sort of chemical burn (abuse) :( but he is sooooo sweet and absolutely loves his bald spot rubbed :) I lost my "fist baby" in 2003. I still miss him (I had him from when I was 9yrs old until I was 21yrs old) and I still miss him at times...
I was given this handout on grieving a pet...today even ;)
The Pet Lover's Code
Ten Inalienable Rights after the Death of a Special Companion Animal
1) You have the right to grieve the death of a pet
You loved your pet. Your pet loved you. You had a strong and profound relationship. You have every right to grieve this death. You need to grieve this death. You also need to mourn this death (express your grief outside yourself)
2) You have the right to talk about your grief
Talking about your grief will help you heal. Seek out others who will allow you to talk about your grief. Other pet lovers who have experienced the death of a pet often make good listeners at this time. If at times you don't feel like talking, you also have the right to be silent.
3) You have the right to feel a variety of emotions
Confusion, anger, guilt, and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your grief journey after the death of a pet. Feelings aren't right or wrong; they just are
4) You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits
After the death of a pet, your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Get daily rest. Eat balanced meals. And don't allow others to push you into doing things you don't feel like doing.
5) You have the right to experience "griefbursts"
Sometimes, out of nowhere, a powerfull surege of grief may overcome you. This can be frightening, but it is normal and natural
6) You have the right to make use of ritual
After a per dies, you can harness the power of ritual to help you heal. Plan a ceremony that includes everyone who loved your pet
7) You have the right to embrace your spirituality
At times of loss, it is natural to turn to your faith or spirituality. Engaging your spirituality by atending church or other place of worship, praying, or spending time alone in nature may help you better understand and reconcile your loss
8) You have the right to search for meaning
You may find yourself asking, "Why did my pet die? Why this way? Why now?" Some of your questions may have answers, but some may not. Ask them anyway.
9) You have the right to treasure your memories
Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of a special companion animal. Instead of ignoring your memories, find ways to capture thm and treasure them always.
10) You have the right to move toward your grief and heal
Reconciling your grief after the death of a pet may not happen quickly. Remember, grief is best experienced in "doses." Be patient and tolerant with yourself and avoid people who are impatient and intolerant with you. Neither you nor those around you must forget that the death of a beloved pet changes your life forever.
WHEN YOUR PET DIES A GUIDE TO MOURNING, REMEMBERING, AND HEALING, Aland D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., Companion Press, 2004
HUGS
