Messages By: margrietah

the episode about children asking questions to dr Phil was today (17th of january) on dutch television, about 7 months later than on USA television. So that's the reason for this late reaction. I was impressed by this show and this girl. Great how she manage her life and great how the people of the show reacted on her. So different than over here in the Nederlands. Here we are always crying out and feeling sorry for the weak. What I like about the dr Phil show is to tell people that they have their own responsabality. Like the girl on this show, Melissa. I am a girl like her (only 20 years older), my father is not an alcohol abuse. I grew up with mother who suffers from with a psychiatric disease: borderline syndrom. This has a great impact on my life. A very great impact. My mother drunk to much from to time to time, used all kinds of medication to keep her happy and calm (didn't work) and suffered from an eatingdisorder (still does). The climax was a suicide attempt whet I was 19. Because of her disease I toke care of the domestics affaris at home (cooking laundry cleaning shopping etc etc etc) at a very young age (since as was 12). I was the rock to lean on for my sister and parents. And of course doing the best I can in school. In stead of being proud of my self I always felt stupid, not good enough and had very low selfestame. Years of therapy and working on myself have changed this of course and everything goning quiet well now, but still a strugle with my childhood and the relationship with my parent is difficult and complex because of everything what happened. I consider my sister as my only familymember that I have left. The great thing about this show and the really touched my was when dr Phil told Melissa that she shoud proud about her self, about what she did, how she surfived etc. That sencentce proud about yourself. She should be proud about herself, and I should be proud about myself too. And all the other thing other people said from the dr Philfoudation. Great for her en great for me. I really thouched me. Thank you.And just on other thing I am sure this is not written in perfect english, sorry for the mistakes in this messsage, but I am duthc speaking and english is only a secont language for me. So I am not stupid only ducth.