Messages By: saradiane

Quote From: susieqmead

It's going to be a long road but I'm looking forward to getting to know my Dad. I talked to him three times yesterday and the first time he called me and said "Hi Susan, it's your Dad" I started crying again! I've been so weepy, but they are happy tears. I am telling anyone who will listen about him and showing our picture to everyone. My daughter is really excited to meet her new grandpaw and we are going to go spend the weekend with them. I'm a nervous wreck. I know everyone has their warts and I'm sure he'll see mine and I'll see his but it is just like any other family memeber, you love them because their family. The last conversation we had last night, he told me he loved me. I started crying again! I'm going to dehydrate at this rate! I'm crying right now! :')  

  

I'm taking all my baby pictures so he can look at them. I'm just so excited. I called my Aunt in Ohio and left message that I had found him, when she called me back we talked for an hour. You see there were a couple of people that my mom still talks to who where there back then. One of them was Rosetta one of her best friends in school. She married a man named Jimmy who is actually related to the man on my birth certificate. He was kind of sad that I found him and wanted to know if he was still going to be my Uncle Jimmy. OF COURSE! Everyone is so happy for me and supporting me. My mother is thrilled! My step-father is happy and I've reassured all of them that I love them and this is just another chapter in my life. WOW, what a life it has been. I'm so blessed! Even with the trials and tribulations, I'm still blessed. Now I'm no longer a "love child from the 60's" my dad's name is Richard and I found him! 

  

Judie, I'm glad you found your father, I know what a blessing that is. My work has just begun.  

  

To all those out there still looking, keep looking! It may seem hopeless but when the time is right, God will bring those puzzle pieces together and it will fit. This is just one of the pieces of my puzzle that God has given me that makes up the whole picture of my life and I am truly thankful to Chikara1 for helping me find him. To everyone looking, good luck and God bless! 

  

Quote From: radar3080

So so sorry you are going through all this stress.  The first thing you need to do is get help for your drug addiction now.  Everytime you use drugs your hurting your baby.  Then you need to get in touch with a local church, and let them help you.  Believe me, they want to help you.  I too have given a child to adoptive parents, not for the reason you are, but because I had no where to live and could not provide her with a good home.  I chose open adoption.  I got to know her parents before she was even born and I love them and her so much.  I have a new family, a good christian family.  I get to see her as much as I want, I don't though because I don't want to confuse her.  I was 43 when I made the decision, I had already raised a son who was 24 at the time.  I know I made the right choice, she is happy and healthy.  Could I have raise her?  Yes, but would it have been the best possible choice for her? NO!  She would have had a hard life.  Yes I would have loved her, but I could not have provided for her.  She loves me for what I have done for her.  And I don't regret it.

Quote From: susieqmead

Sara, 

  

Also, regarding my brother, when my father and I were visiting this past weekend we found out that my brother Chris and I used to go to the same skating rink every Friday and Saturday night! I probably have seen him a hundred times and never knew it was him. How wild is that?! It has been very interesting and sad to know we've been so close to each other and never knew! But the important thing is to not dwell on what was missed but to move on and make new memories. Of course there is healing to do which comes with time and communication but the most important thing is we found each other. 

  

Again, good luck in your search and God bless. 

Quote From: angelzyn

Hey guys. I am facing a new phase of parenting. My eldest is turning 15, and reaching an age of promised privileges(sp?) including double dating. With all that is in the world these days, how do I not smother my daughter, but not leave the door open for the mistakes we all know can happen? Angelzyn

Quote From: kimcaljody

Hello Renee... I am in Nova Scotia also! I am married with a little girl....How old is your boy?  My daughter is 22mths. I cannot believe how much I love her. Talk to you soon..I hope..Kim

Quote From: callen8949

Where were you born (City and State)?  Do you know how old your birth mother was when she gave birth to you?  Please e-mail me if you want my help.  callen8949@aol.com.

Quote From: toots71

Hi,

 

I have a question about feelings when you have been adopted. I had a daughter almost 16 years ago. I know where she is I even have the phone number to her hosue. It was an open adoption. Now in the contract we signed I was to be able to see her 3 times before she turned 18 but I have only seen her once when she was 6 months. I did ask a couple years ago but got told no at the time. I ended up moving to a city close to her and avoided her town as much as i could. Then about a month ago I was washing my car and happened to see the adopted father. I never said a word just quicly cleaned my car and got out of there so fast. She will be 16 next month.

 

At that age would you have liked to have met your bio-logical mother ot would it have been to much at that already awkward time in your life? Should I just wait tell she is older?

 

Thank you for your help just not sure what to do here.

Quote From: toots71

Hi,

 

I have a question about feelings when you have been adopted. I had a daughter almost 16 years ago. I know where she is I even have the phone number to her hosue. It was an open adoption. Now in the contract we signed I was to be able to see her 3 times before she turned 18 but I have only seen her once when she was 6 months. I did ask a couple years ago but got told no at the time. I ended up moving to a city close to her and avoided her town as much as i could. Then about a month ago I was washing my car and happened to see the adopted father. I never said a word just quicly cleaned my car and got out of there so fast. She will be 16 next month.

 

At that age would you have liked to have met your bio-logical mother ot would it have been to much at that already awkward time in your life? Should I just wait tell she is older?

 

Thank you for your help just not sure what to do here.