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frustrated
January 21, 2006, 1:41 pm PST

Work with a bully

I work in a grocery store in deli, I work with a women who is in no other words a bully!   I am not the only employee who knows this.  She is just horrible to the student employees, really the worst to them.  The manager is aware of this, although I believe she is intimidated by her also.  If you stand up to her, she will NOT back down.  It makes it worse.  We do have a union, and the last girl to take it that far has now quit.  This women made her life such hell she just quit instead of dealing with all the crap.  If it is not HER way its wrong.  If you try to explain to her why you are doing it your way she will curse and put you down.  It is absolutely ridiculous what she gets away with.  Having a union is great for her, she gets to keep her job, tornmenting the rest of us, while we try to just do our jobs. Our dept. is small, and of coures we all want to get along, so we try to let things slide, but it has come to a point where the slide ends, and someone falls in the sand.  Now what?  I don't know how to handle this women.  I have told her, "My husband doesn't talk to me that way! What make you think you can?"  Of course she has no answer to that.. but common, whenever I confront her about how she treats me or other employees she becomes beligerant!  How dare I question her!! Yes she does have 3 years seniourity on me, but having more years on me doesn' t make her right or able to abuse me or other employees this way.   I am not sure how to deal with her anymore.  She seems to never push it so far that I have to call a union stewert, but far enough that I am so mad I am shaking.  What to do.....?
 
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hopeful
January 21, 2006, 1:52 pm PST

I Believe

Quote From: donnav04

We can do this any one that is in the same shoes and wants the change we should all be there. On Jan, 14 2006  I went out to eat with the husband and friends YES to and all you can eat...lol... then stoped at Wal-Mart and there he was the MOST sexy man I no...      ; )    any ways that was Dr. Phil and his book from Haven the weight solution there is was right there and with out thinking I placed it in my cart and went home to start the rest of my life,  Thanks Dr. Phil for being there when my time was right for you...  

  

SO COME ON EVERYONE just take time out of your day to let PPL no you care and you will be there for them...  

  

So like i said already YOU CAN DO IT... I BELIEVE IN YOU....  

  

Much Love  

Donna 

I know it will be hard.. I know this 'cause I've been there! It will be hard! But I believe in you! I know you can do this!  I know you have never felt as sexy as you have when you put on a pair of pants that you love.. .. and they fit you!!!   Fat free pudding is your friend.. I also discovered yougurt  too.. especially sweet yougurt!  I know you can do this!  It is worth it! Good luck!
 
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chillin'
January 22, 2006, 5:24 pm PST

Website

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Here is a link to a website that deals with workplace bullying.  You will be amazed at their psychological profiles of the different types of bullies, as they are truly predictable, as we're starting to learn in all criminal profiling.  They're painfully predictable, the different types  My bully fit right into one of their descriptions, to a T.  The website is a little hard to find your way around in, but it's worth the effort.  Once you see a description of your workplace bully psycho on there, at least you will know YOU'RE not the one who's crazy.   

http://www.bullyonline.org/ 

That is a very good website... I found it very useful!  Thank you!
 

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