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February 22, 2007, 2:03 pm PST

sounds a little like autisum

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 I have tried some of the things u are talking about. She knows that when she has her fits that its not ok, But when she is in them She seems to have no control. And after words she says her sorry and she don't mean to. I don't know if this is posibale to not have control or not. Or if she just hasn't learned it yet. I have been praiseing her for everything I see she is doing well, And it has helped. I always pick my badels. I try not to ride her behind unless its realy not ok. I don't think Its all the parents falt either, shure I have made mistakes I am shure every parnet out there has as well. So thats bull. If your trying as hard as I am then something eals has to be alble to be done to help them. I am not shure if this is part of her didablities or not. Thank u for your kind words. blynn.

You should definetly get an eval for Aspergers through a phyciatrist. What I am reading although I only had time to read some it remindes me of my 12 year old who has Aspergers, wich is a high functioning autisum. Dont give up!! There are some medications that can help but do not take all the problems away.  Check out my myspace Emmers also: http://www.myspace.com/happybutterlys

 

I have alot of information about my sons there who have autisum and you will find alot of other parents that deal with alot of the same issues.
 
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February 22, 2007, 2:33 pm PST

504 plan

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I hope that I can make a little sense. I have adopted three wonderful children. I was note told that their were special needs. I and my husband for the last six years have dealt with our son whom has full FAS.  oUR DAUGHTER HAS THE BEHAVIORAL PART OF THE SPECTURM AND THE NEW BABY THAT IS THREE HAS THE AUTISTIC PART OF THE SPECTRUM. hERE i AM DEALING WITH A SCHOOL SYSTEM THAT DOES NOT WANT TO RECOGNIZE THE FACT THAT MY SON HAS fAS. They want him to be in a normal classroom and stay caught up with the rest of the kids. It will not happen. Because my husband and I went to a school that has a TIME OUT box, and saw what a self contined unit really is. We went to the news with this and now to the state legislature trying to get a bill passed that says these things are ilegal.I will write more later. I have been way traumatized by this and will write later Thank you .
If they will not give you an IEP plan try to get at least a 504 plan. That way you can limit his work load becouse if he is like my step son and step daughter they do not do well with all the work and will only get frustrated. FAS can be as frustrating at times as autisum with children and parents. If you would like to contact me on more information you can also find me as Emmers on myspace. I have alot of information on their for autisum but have areas to go to for FAS too. http://www.myspace.com/happybutterlys
 Check it out and hope to hear from you soon!!
 
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February 22, 2007, 2:45 pm PST

oh so true

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Let me tell you parents that are just in the beginning stages of raising a Special Needs Aspberger & ADHD child - fight for everything. My son that is now 19 years old and is currently attending college (while living with me) has been the biggest challenge in life to raise. We used to live in a small community which was good for him wanting to be himself and be independent on his bicycle as everybody knew him and would call me to tell me where he was. But, a small community does not have the proper education these kids need. We had to fight alot for what he needed in the regular school setting, including the evaluations. We had alot of in home counselors that were provided through the state (fight for that too) We could not of raised this fine young man without the help of the medical help and the help that was available out there. It takes alot of searching and studying to find it - but it is available. We had to travel alot through out the state as well to reach the medical help that was the best advice for us as parents for him too.

Just keep moving and fighting. When my son graduated from high school, it was one of the most rewarding moments for me as a mom to finally take that big breath of relief. We still have our challenges (and will always) but it gets easier and at the moment I am trying to teach him how to manage himself without me around, in which is a challenge anyway.

Yes, I hated Fridays and loved Mondays when school was going on. Reason why: because that meant for a very long weekend on trying to keep him busy while trying to keep an eye on him and Monday, was like wow we made it through another weekend.

JUST KEEP FIGHTING and the reward is GREAT

Diane

Are you sure that it is harder with them in the teen years. Oh I am nerveouse now!! My son is 12 and yes I thought he was out of control as a toddler your right it is getting harder. Ugh!! Yes your right fight for counseling, phyciatric eval, IEP's for school and so on. And so true with the weekends. My son wants to do things but only has 1 friend that wants to get together with him too.

 

Keep Fighting Is Right!!

 

 
 
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September 1, 2007, 9:51 am PDT

Quick Help For Violent Kids

I do not have much time to go into detal right now but get your violent children into see a phyciatrist for an eval right away:)

 

Also: Risperdal is wonderful for agressive, exsplosive behavior

 

My son is 12 and has been on this med since he was 7. We tried to wean him off this last year and was reminded of how much it helps!! He used to go towards kids necks to strangle them just becouse they looked at him wrong.

 

Hope this helps

 

A Loving Mother Of 7

 

Any questions parents please email me I am very willing to help out:) emilycribb@comcast.net

 

I have been dealing with theis type of situation since my son was even crawling so I have been there and have tried many things to help the problem and it is not easy....
 
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September 1, 2007, 9:54 am PDT

Confuesed? have you raised any children of your own?

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Hmmm... I don't promote violence at the best of times, especially when it comes to kids, but I think sometimes a kid could really use a good old fashioned spanking... I know I never acted like that when I was a kid, because if I were to, my dad would have had his belt off and I'd be running!!

 

Seriously though... either those kids have something seriously wrong with their upbringing, or they have some sort of mental or behavioral disorder. I was shocked when I saw the previews for this show, and I'm actually not sure if I'm looking forward to watching it or not... but I'll be glued to the TV when it airs!!!!!

Wow, you have never than had a children that you try to spank, take things away, give time outs too and nothing works.

 

Please Do Not put people down unless you have been there yourself!!

 

From A Loving Mother Of 7
 
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September 5, 2007, 9:52 pm PDT

Bless Your Heart!!

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Hello.

 

Growing up has not been easy for me. I was bullied relentlessly in my childhood and early teens. My biological parents were very cruel to me. Then, I moved to another city where I lived in a poor neighbourhood for a couple of years. I also spent nine days in jail a couple of years ago, even though I insist that I didn't do anything wrong.

 

My peers consider me to be a very intelligent person. I graduated from Ottawa, Canada's Carleton University in the nineties. I also consider myself to have a lot of common sense with plenty of "street smarts".

 

I once spent my time with other mentally ill people. That was a terrible mistake. Successful people surround themselves with other successful people & that's exactly what I've done.

I was on social assistance on two occasions but now collect a disability pension while working full time at a coffeehouse. While I am very happy with my current situation, I am not yet content.

I'd like to go back to school so that I can reach my potential while no longer being classified as an underachiever.

 

One of the knocks against mentally ill people is that they have poor social skills. However, my life experience has enabled me to learn from society on how to interact with others.

 

In the past, I have been in and out of psychiatric wards. Now that my living arrangements have drastically improved, I can function a lot better as my visits at the hospital have become fewer and fewer.

 

I take medication every morning to help make me remain sane. Yet, it has been the bold choices that I have made in my life that has prevented me from being sucked into a downword spirral. I no longer have any contact with any of my biological family nor am I a client of that mental health agency any more. Those two groups did not make me feel good about myself as they tried to run my own life against my will.

 

Now, I live independently on my own. I take excellent care of myself and my precious cat.  It took an awful lot of time, but things are finally going well for me. My advice to people with Aspergers syndrome or mental illness in general is to hang in there and persevere. Do not consider suicide or any other way of quitting on life. There are plenty of people to turn to. Even though life has been good to me, I continue to see my family doctor and social worker on a monthly basis. It's what keeps me humble.

 

That is what I'm willing to share with all of you. May you all have the fortitude to excel in life rather than settling for the limitations you think you have. Thank you & God bless.

 

Sincerely,

Fred. 

It is always so good to hear from adults that have been through the tough times as I have and my 2 children have too. Although I have never had a diagnosis I have so many of the same things I deal with that they go thru so I am able to be more understanding towards them and there difficultys. It can be hard and you do have to keep going and to everyone who looks down apon those who do have a mental dissorder we do have our special abilitys becouse we notice the world a little differently. And as I have been told my whole life the world takes all kinds. So Keep Up The Great Work Standing Tall!! The thing we all need is a loving, caring, environment and we can do it!!

 

 
 
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September 11, 2007, 7:37 pm PDT

09/04 Violent Kids

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I have raised three children all good citizens of my country.  They were not allowed to misbehave. they had bounderies. the mental health of children is that not being disciplined not having bounderies they are lost. wondering around.  they need leadership that comes from parenting discipline teaching them how to do things and making sure they do them. we drug our children today so we dont have to deal with them. I would have loved time outs i had nothing to be taken away we were poor. By the time i chopped firewood for the kitchen stove and the heater and carried it and helped or did the laundry in the wringer washer and hung it on the lines and ironed cleaned house watched my sisters and cooked when mom worked i didnt have time for tantrums or for misbehaviors. i didnt have time to look for trouble. Children today do nothing. play gameboys. talk back. its not adhd it bad manners. its misbehaving children.  i was a strict parent my children didnt dare do the things kids do today. they learned to cook sew iron clean and they played. they are hard working parents.

People like you have never raised a child with a disability either. Your very lucky!! I have I am raising 3 out of the 7 and dont get me wrong they get punished when out of hand. Like today I spanked my son with a paddle becouse he went to his brother and had the nerve to say you better watch your back and the one who said that has Aspergers. So by no means do I say let them get away with everything no way!! But unlsess you have actually had a child with a mental disorder you should have nothing to say to us that admit that our children can get out of hand at times. I am a parent who disaplines my children and I still have problems and that why I stick up for parents that have children out of hand. But at the same time I would also have to look down apon those parents that just talk with there children.

 

If a child does somthing wrong they have got to be disaplined, (agreed) And parents have to stand strong and keep there feet down and stick with the disapline they have put down or the kids will learn they can get away with anything. (other wise the parents are just as wrong as the child doing somthing wrong)

 

So do not get me wrong I do believe in disapline, but you can not just say spank the child when you do not know the whole situation. If parents have tried everything I mean everything and have stood there ground with there children than there is an underlining problem and they need to get there child evaluated by the apropriate people. (like a licensed Pediatric Phycologist)
 
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September 11, 2007, 7:56 pm PDT

Dr Phill Please Help the Animals!!

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On 9/4  THE Violent kids show Dr Phil showed dog and cat being abused by a kid named COLE and NO ONE addressed getting these pets out of that house and protected!!!!!!! The dog was thrown down steps with the chain on its neck and kcked in the face! The cat was thrown around.

 

I have sent the show an email requesting they get the pets out the house to intervene and asked for an email. If i dont hear back I will call PETA and the local papers and tv . This is an outrage, the parents and Dr Phil never mentioned protecting the animals but only about the family. This CANNOT GO UNPUNISHED OR UNNOTICED DR PHIL GET THOSE PETS OUT OF COLES HOUSE

No kidding!! If a child is abusive to anyone or anything the parents need to take control and keep that child away from what he is abusing!!

 

This is a very horrible sittuation for the animals!!
 
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October 27, 2007, 4:08 pm PDT

32 raising 7 children and just diagnosed with RA

I have had problems with pain since a car accident in 1994 too! This last summer had surgury for Pelvic Organ Prolapse and Sistocel, and Rectocel. The pain afterwards was extremly excrutiating!! Since then though I have completely gone down hill!! I am in so much pain every day where it feels like I am about 3 weeks after surgury but all over my body in all of my joints. Where if I work full time on my feet I hurt so bad and then if I sit down and then get back up again I can barly walk due to my feet and ankles and knees like freezing up and not having complete movement in them. It is also difficult due to the fact after the surgury I was told I could never lift more than 20 pounds for the rest of my life. And

 

Before my surgury I was:

 

Very active, happy and really enjoyed life and helping everyone!! I walked 4 miles a day, worked out at work and then worked part time at the YMCA with children. Around the house I would work in the flower beds for hours take walks with my children, keep a clean house and so on.... I stayed very active!!

 

I now am extreamly egzasted, my joints hurt, it is hard to walk and I can't even think straight that it makes me very frustrated to why this has happened to me? I have to take a pain releiver 2 times everyday and this just isnt enough although I do not want to take to many meds also due to the fact I hate having to take meds!!

 

I have problems in my back, neck, hands, fingers, knees, ankles, feet and toes!!

 

I thank goodness that I have so many children to help keep my mind elsware but it is really hard to keep my happy spirits up for them......I am so tired and hurt all the time!! I NEED HELP!!

 

I was just reffered to a Ruematologist but I have no medical......My children do but I do not......What can I do.....???????????? HELP!!  I am to young for this!!!!!
 
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