Messages By: boldandworthy

 First of all, I commend Tericka for coming on National Television and acknowledging her past.  Tericka it took Courage to appear on Dr. Phil. 

Our society wants people to turn their life around, but only if done a certain way.  Her crime, her passion in life pulled from under her.  It teaches children to keep mistakes to themselves. If you  make a mistake then people better not find out because your life will be hell.

Tericka, if you read this know that God loves you.  He is the only approval you need.  Easier said than felt.  The people who say they aren't "judging you" will reap what they sow. 

Jesus came to forgive and give grace.  He had the opportunity to cast a stone at Mary M because she commited adultery.  What he said gives the past mistakes hope and love.  " You without sin cast the first stone."  They all walked away.  Jesus the only one without sin, did not cast the stone.  He said "Go and sin no more" 

Well you may say  she did it twice.  God did not make us perfect. He made us in love and grace. 
When you know better, you do better. 


Tericka, God knows your pain. You have greatness in your future.  He rewards faith.  Bless you.

 This show really hit me close to home that I couldn't wait for the show to end to write on this board. I rarely do this but my heart told me to speak out.

I saw myself in the last women on the show (I missed the first couple).  Hinting around to get engaged and having a fairytale wedding in my head all planned out detail by detail.  People asking you "So when are you getting married." Then you feel pressured.

I got married.  The fairytale ended in divorce and abuse.  It all comes down to low self esteem.  I did not feel good about myself. So when someone showed me "the attention" that I craved I jumped in head first ignoring any and all red flags that came up.  The attention that I craved needed to come from me.  Not from outside of me.  Anything filling my empty place other than the love I needed to give myself, proved to be false and short lived.

I think we know inside our hearts that something is not right.  But instead of calling it quits, their is a voice that goes off in our heads that says "people will think you were a quitter" or "you feel dumb for staying that long" So our ego wins out and our heart gets betrayed. 

Women, I have been there. I know it does not feel good to beg someone to marry you.  What would your advice be to a close friend? 
Because of my experience, I started a website to help women reclaim their power and pump up self esteem at http://www.boldandworthy.com.  When you love yourself first, the way you want  someone to love you, you will attract the right man to you.

Blessings to everyone.  You are better than second best.  Be the queen that you are.