Messages By: iceire

 Being of another heritage meself(Irish) I too have been looked down on because I'm a born Yank and most Yanks the Brits do not like,personally I have many british mates and some do have the pompus attitude but for me I'm used to it,the lass thats married to the young man and lives in a trailer,well boohoo,so have I,if her parents are that much agains't the young man then why in hades did she marry him?????does she feel she married below her station in life?if so then by all means go back to the UK  just so her parents can pick out her husband for her,it burns me arse to know that some brits still think they are better than us Yanks but yet they come here,buy land,start a business in my land and still have the nerve to look down they'er almight nose's to us!
I go to the UK/Ireland every year and even tho I be Irish heritage even the Irish in my mother country at times treat me with a snobby attitude but then me being a mick I give it right back!
Aye the lass needs to go back where she came from,I don't know her mum or her sire but already I don't like them,hope they read this!

 I know ye and I see differently regarding the first couple but putting that aside lass I am most proud and evious of ye,need more mums like ye lass,and my heart felt compassion towards ye daughter,ye are a good  and strong example of wot a parent should be,wish I had been as lucky growing up,keep up the good work lass!

 Aye I agree with ye 100% especially  about bring a wee bairn into the marriage,bet that would go over well with her parents!

 Especially when Dr.Phil pointed out that one girl was flat,does that mean distant????

 Aye star weaver,the same happened with me but it was not their faith but the ICWA!

 Pray tell,wot did the girls steal????

From my own personal experience having step-children its a hard long road once ye have made the wrong decisions or choices,and to me the oldest step son has a big heart and forgiving heart towards Jessica,me...well had my step-mum spoke to me like she did to the boy I would'eve told her to sod off and go take care of her own issues which seems to be many,the husband from wot I saw on the show will not change nor her,he is too embittered and will suffocate her with all his questions about her infidelites,like me mum used to say(Once a cheater always a cheater,)she would know because my sire did that to her many times.

These 2 need to part ways for good,nothing positive will come of them staying together unless some kind of powers that be steps in to help,they both act the victim,both of them have foul mouths and tempers,if my husband ever called me a full blown slut I would cold cock him into 2020 but thats me.

I am worried about the boys and the outcome from all this muck!

Finally someone who makes sense,I too wish the boys to have help,that woman is way out there if she thinks that the million of viewers did not see through her,both of them are playing the victim,tis sickening,my heart went out to the step-son,he does not need to have that tart in his life or his dads but me thinks the dad will try to hang onto her tho she doesn't want any part of saving the marriage,the mother in-law was a hoot bless her heart,these boys need to be placed in some kind of home where they will feel wanted and not having to go through they'er dads drama,tis not fair to them,makes me sick knowing thousands of children every bloody day get caught in the crossfire.

Okay,tis hard for me to speak of this but am tired of being (NOT IN THE MOOD) for my husband when it comes to intimacy,be it affection or in the bedroom,I know I am going thru the change of life which doesn't help matters but back in 2002 our computer had crashed and we got it fixed and so while I was trying to get back some of my e-mail mates to write to and also my buddies on my messenger list I had gone into my husbands archives because we have mutual friends and wot I found left me feeling betrayed and angry,he had a online conversation with a woman,twas verra sexually graphic and she had even sent him live nude shots of herself and in one of the shots my husband told her she look good enough to eat,I was too dam angry to be hurt or to cry,now prior to all this muck happening my husband and I back when this happened were only a live-in couple and we had not gotten intimate until 6 mos after getting together and there was 3 times I made the first move to be intimate,all 3 times he turned me down and since then I have not made the first move,anyway getting back to the topic when I discovered this online conversation he did not one time mention he had a girlfriend living with him so I took it upon myself to inform her,also it did not help knowing she was attainable,she just lived in the next town over,wot I don't understand when this happened my husband knew I had past issues with porn and be cheated on several times by my last husband,I'm on my 3rd marriage......I got friends that ell me they and they'er partners do porn and as long as its done openly between the 2 partners there is nothing wrong with it,hellooooooooooooo,porn is wot got me 2nd divorce, here I go digressing,anyway by nature I am not a trusting person,tis why I waited 6 mos before he and I got intimate,I just needed to make sure this one would work out,now I have no sexual desire at all,he tells me today after one time reminding him of the times he turned me down that he would never turn me down again,too late,we got married 2 yrs ago due to a cancer scare and even tho I love him dearly I want no part of intimacy in any way shape or form,he has a high sex drive and I fear he may stray tho he says he never would,now I know I will sound hypocritical when I say this but I caved in and bought him a porn dvd so he would  not bother me for sex,does it work? (NOT),HE WANTS ME MORE THAN EVER AND THE FEELING IS TOTALLY NOT MUTUAL,I can't stand being touched,I hate kissing and even holding hands,can I ever get my drive back???

Help!!!!!