Messages By: iceire

For the 2nd time since Dr.Phil has been on the telly I disagree with some of the things he said and also I disagree with wot the lot of ye are saying as well and if ye want to have a go at me then bloody well bring it on cuz I'm one mick who can hold her own...

!8 yrs ago they did not have the resources that they have today to find a missing loved one,I know this from personal experience,first I tried to find my brother and sister back in 1986 and they were finally located in 2000,then again I tried to find another sibling and that took me another 10 yrs and surprisingly I found her through www.zaba-search.com....now for my own children,I lost custody of my 3 youngest due to the ICWA which I have mentioned on this board before because I am a white parent and they are 1/2 Native American Indian,when I left the rez in 1993 I made darn sure I kept in contact with my kids until their dad hooked up with another white woman,it was her and his side of the family that kept me from speaking with my kids and one day I decided they all could go to hades cuz no matter wot I was going to stay in their lives via post or phone and when I called there the phone had been disconnected so I called his mum,I asked my ex-mother in-law and  where my kids were,she would not tell me and I was beside meself wondering where on earth they had gone to,I tried to rally support from my so-called friends on the rez and they too would tell me nothing,2 yrs went by without a single call or anything to or from my kids because I did  not know where they were,even the tribal police said I had no rights to them and to let it go,yeah right...well the 3rd year I finally got ahold of his older sister and thankgoodness she told me where they were which was Anchorage,Ak,my family help pool money together to get me a airline ticket and 2 wks later I was knocking on their door,my ex mother in-law answered and the look on her face was a kodak moment for me,anyway to finish this story up I finally got to see my children and I did the best I could to explain why I had not been around to them,and I was even kind enough not to slag their father to them but then he made bloody sure that he poisoned them again't me with lies and then he sent them back to the rez,it was another few yrs before i was in contact again,today my son is 20,21 next month and he still loves me but my youngest son who is 17 will not call or anything,my daughter hates me and has made that very clear on her myspace page,so as far as Cressie not trying hard enough to find Darby well tis ye opinions and Dr.Phils,and if Darby is that bitter and hateful then I bet ye anything all those feelings came from her dads family poisening her agains't her mum,been there and now I have made the choice to stay out of my daughters life for good,so ye people who are bashing Cressie well then try being in her shoes,she may not have shown much emotion when asked certain questions or even had a response to wot Darby said about her but then I was the same way and still am but that does not mean she didn't try hard enough to find her daughter.

Tis my cuppance!

Mark,am so glad that ye posted,I too have been in Cressies situation and it is not easy being the absent parent especially when it was the other parent that took the child,and like ye there is a whole lot more to this story than wot is being told!

Good on ye mate for speaking out,Cressie has my support!

I agree with ye 100%,I posted earlier on this topic and forgot to mention that my own sperm donor did the same thing with me,my mum lost me when i was 5 yrs old,she didn't find me again until I was 12,even the military would not help my mum,he was Air Force....my sperm donor told me many horrible things about my mum and I BELIEVED him,then I come to find out yrs later so many bad things about him but that is a whole new show!

pleeeeeease,I went thru the same thing,and now my youngest daughter has plastered on her myspace page nasty things about me that were told to her by her dad and she is choosing to believe him,and her older sister is not ignorant one bit about wot happened,this Darby needs to pull her head out of her arse and have a real sit down talk with Cressie and if she doesn't then tis her loss like it's my daughters loss but unlike Cressie i could careless wot my child thinks anymore,she has turned out just as hateful and bitter as her sperm donor!

As Dr.Phil likes to say(GET REAL),THERE IS A WHOLE LOT MORE TO THIS STORY THAN WOT IS BEING TOLD,GRRRRRRRR!

And I mean that in every sense of the word,surprised they have not come across each other on myspace to badger us mums!

I fear even tho Dr.Phil is going to help her the husband will do something like try to murder her and himself,the man is way sick in the head and knows no boundries,he needs to be put in a mental facility for his insane actions and not let out until she and the 3 children have relocated to another state,even country for that matter.

For starters I wish the audience didn't laugh at the boy....

Now in my personal opinon I feel there is another motive for this woman to want to marry this 19 yr old boy,maybe she is pregnant and fears the boys families reaction,I know I would,another is she may be wanting a live-in babysitter,I may be wrong but my gut tells me there is more to this womans motives than her just wanting to marry him after only being together 2 wks,I am on my 3rd and last marriage and my first 2 were younger than me but we were in our late 20's and early 30's but still they did not work out,partly because of envirorment and their families,both did not like me but tis their problem,tis my cuppance.

There was no Will involved but as far as the sisters are concerned I relate though there are 2 difference's,1st one is I'm the younger sister and it was our father which is the 2nd difference,my father all my life threw my sister in my face,she is the smart one,she is the one that will make something of herself but like father like daughter (her),our father messed around on my mother as did my sister on her husband,for many yrs I was curious about her,oh yeah,we have never met,so one day I searched the internet for her and had no luck until I came across zaba-search and typed in her ex-husbands name and it was there so i wrote him a letter explaining how I was her baby sister and that I wanted to get in contact with her and it happened,at first her and I stayed in touch but by her choice she stopped replying to my e-mails and phone calls so I gave up,tis only just recently I came across her grand daughter,my grand niece through myspace and she has been back in touch.

I will never ever forgive my father for how treated me,he beat me among other things and yet my sister loves him though he did not raise her but her mum,I feel for Lisa on this show!

The mother is an all out self rightous ye know wot,I just want to push my hands through the telly screen and choke her.

Finding ye blood sibling isn't alway's a good thing,I found my 1/2 sister almost 4 yrs ago and at first it was exciting but then she started not returning my phone calls or e-mail's,her excuse was she isn't a phone person and the excuse for no return e-mails was she isn't on the computer that much,I had thought when at first we got in touch that with my birthday coming up she would have called me and I know she didn't forget because she has another 1/2 sister that has the same exact birthday as mine and then just this year I found my grand niece on myspace,my sisters grand-daughter and like her I had hoped we could keep in touch,I even asked her to let her grand-mother know that wanted to have contact again and after several messages sent to her on myspace with no reciprocation on her part I finally just like with my sister gave up,I have decided to just let it go,and I know that one day my sister might regret not keeping in touch,tis her lost,me thinks maybe it might also because she loved our father where as I hated him but then he didn't raise her so she wasn't subjected to beatings and degradation like I was,our father threw it in my face all the time that my sister was somebody,she was smart and graduated High-School where I was nothing and never would be,alway's called me degratory names,he even dis-owned me 6 months before he died over a photo he claims I had stolen,so my sister was the lucky one.