Messages By: lunastar

I wasn't sure whether to laugh at these girls or feel sorry for them, seriously.. 

And I reallllllllly feel sorry for the guys they're marrying... 

5 years ago, my wedding was held at the court, we booked it 2 weeks in advance *hee* 

i wore a blue velvet ankle length dress i had been saving for a special occassion 

my husband wore his only suit with a blue tie, we ordered corsages and boutinieres the week before and the only guests were our parents, his grandma and my bestest friend - then we all went out for dinner at a nice restaurant together 

it was STRESS FREE, there was no foolishness and we had a wonderful time surrounded by the people we loved 

These girls need to think about what's really important....and that is LOVE... 

Shocked at the support in this forum for a bratty runaway. 

That girl needs to be "taken down a peg or two" as my parents said to me, many times, when i was a teenager. 

GIRL, not adult. She is still a child. If she needs to be away from her parents have someone call social services. 

Seriously, take the sugar and caffeine out of her diet, get her off the smokes and put her in her place!! She's 16 years old, and she threw tantrums like my 4 year old does. She was out of control. 

She needs to learn respect, and develop maturity , then show these traits before anyone will address her as an adult - right now she's a brat. 

"Candy Sweetness" or "Naughty but Nice" 

I'm having a hard time believing that the average 15 yr old girl would post racy photos of herself on the internet in the first place. Sure some will, despite all the knowledge we have of online predators, with the "it won't happen to me" mindset..but still... 

I was 15 once, and I would have NEVER, EVER done that.  

just a couple tips for you guys trying to give up the soda - i gave it up too

 keep in mind there's about 150 calories in 8 oz of the stuff - approximately one spoonful of sugar per ounce - just for fun, put 8 spoonfuls of sugar in a glass of water and taste it - woooo!~*blah*~!!

and if its Coca-cola, have you ever tried the rusty nail trick? you put a rusty nail in a glass of cola overnite and it will take the rust off, so think about what you're doing to your insides ?!!!

if you need more inspiration, go here http://www.alternet.org/story/45498/

yup!

its scary to think that i used to drink 3-4 cans of the stuff every day when i was in school and early 20's - i hope the damage is erasable after 20yrs ! yikes

I'm going through something similar.

"Rafael says his wife forces him to be “the hammer” because she’s too lenient. "

Sounds all too familiar to me. My husband says the same thing. He says I let our daughter walk all over me. And he says it in front of her.

Due to an incident which occurred 2 and a half months ago, he has been removed from our home and now is only allowed to have supervised 2 hour visits once a week with our daughter, and if he acts up the visit is terminated immediately.

He has very little contact with me, and only through email, and only about household decisions or subjects relating to our daughter. Nothing personal, no accusations, no funny business.

He was making our daughter cry at least once a day, and then giving her a hard time over it. He verbally abused both of us, and I kept making justifications for why he was doing this. When people in public asked "what's with him?" I would say he was having a bad day, or he had lost his job or something to try and justify his behaviour. I blamed myself a lot too.

Our daughter is 6 years old

I really hope this mom and her daughter get the support, help and love they need, and this man gets out of their home, gets into therapy and take an anger management course.

I can't wait til Friday to watch this episode.

Tricia is spineless because Rafael verbally abuses her too.

She cant quit bowing to his wishes because he's got an emotional lock on her!

THEY ALL DO THAT!! It's part of the plan, so the Mom doesn't interfere.

I know this. I've lived this. My husband put me so far down. I used to cry when I was sad. Thinking I wasn't good enough, or he wouldn't be that way with me. Then I got mad about it, and I gave it right back to him as fast as he did  it to me.

He's obviously been abused as a child, and this is the only way he knows how to parent. He needs severe counselling, and he needs to be taken out of the family.

My heart breaks for the daughter and the mother.

They both need compassion and support, and a chance to re-build their self-esteem.

I'm glad I was able to see what was going on here, a lot of women aren't so lucky.

Mine has been removed from the home.

 He made my little girl cry nearly every day and then gave her a hard time for crying.

He was in the US Marines Boot Camp, and he would stand over her like some kind of psycho Drill Sargeant, and bellow at her to get her to do things.

We've been by ourselves now for a little over 2 months, and I have NEVER raised my voice to her, and I still get results -- she gets ready for school in the morning and we get out to catch her bus 

she helps me a little with the housework

she behaves herself when we go shopping

she does her homework

she gets ready for bed

WITHOUT any drama and when I ask her to, and I only have to ask her once.