Messages By: ladybug11

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Quote From: tantemeeme

"It makes other want to stay away from you."  Wouldn't that be what Dr. Phill would call the "payoff"??? 

Quote From: mail4sis74

Dr. Phil told one of the girls yesterday that she was cute as a "spotted puppy".  As someone who used to volunteer in a rescue shelter, I know of several puppies that have been "humanely euthanized" because they had an attitude and a disposition like that. 

  

A bitch a Babe  

                 In 

                 Total 

                 Control of 

                 Herself!!!!    Not someone who tries to control and belittle everyone around her. 

Quote From: hhs_goblin

You know what, the first time I ever heard someone call a lady a Bitch was when she was smart enough to turn him down when he was hitting on her. So tell me why turing a man down for sex makes a woman a rude, bad attitude, mean, immature person? 

  

I do believe there is a difference between what some people consider as Bitches!  I am a strong woman and I stand up for what I believe in and feel is right.  I have been called a bitch more than once and I am not always offended by it!  Sometimes just because someone does not agree with you they call you a Bitch or an Ass.  How does that make that person better than you?  I mean the one calling the names is the rude, bad attitude, mean and most definitely immature.  I mean name calling is kind of what kids do in school.  We are supposed to be adults and name calling is a bit below all true adults.   

  

I do not feel I have an attitude problem and I know for a fact that I am NOT all that!  I just stand up for what I believe and I fight for everything I want!  I have never ever been cruel or hateful to anyone.  I have, however stood my ground when I am being attacked.  I will do anything for my husband and our children.  So I suppose if that makes me a Bitch, I will wear that name with honor and go on with my life.  More times than not when someone refers to me as a Bitch I say "Thanks I do my best!" smile and move on with my life.  Now if my husband ever was to think I was being one then I would have to take a step back and reexamine what I was doing at the point that would make him feel that way!  As for most people in this world...I do not care what they think of me!  All that matters to me is that I have my friends and my family and they know what I am all about!   

  

Take Care, 

Dena   

Quote From: hhs_goblin

If all you got from what I said is the part about the man with sex on the brain, then you missed my whole point!  I am just trying to point out that many people will call a strong woman a bitch just because she is strong or just for breathing!  I have corrected my own husband for that very thing!  I mean when you are driving down the street minding your own business and you may be going a bit slower than you should be someone will call you a STUPID BITCH...now tell me where the lady being called out her nakme is being rude, mean, etc.?  Have you never witnessed such...a woman who is NOT being bitchy but is getting called one just for the meer fact that she is a woman and someone has nothing better to do than call her that?!   

  

I think everybody has been guilty of that at some point or another....even me and although I am not proud of the fact I am willing to admit it.  To me the word is just that a WORD.  If someone calls me that it does not bother me...they may just be having a bad day and need someone to take it out on and I am the first one they come across to unload on!  Whatever their definition of a bitch is may not be what I consider to be a bad thing!   

  

You can be sweet as sweet is and if you disagree with some people the first thought (and ususally the first word) they have for you is to label you a BITCH!  To me that is just childish and immature.  I suppose that maybe you and I am prime examples of the point I am trying to make.....  people have differnet thoughts on what exactly constatutes being a bitch.  Yes, I do agree that when someone is being hateful, rude, mean, and somewhat immature they are being bitchy BUT they may not be a bitch.  We all have our days when we are a bit on the bitchy side but that does not give anyone the right to "label" us as one at all times!  That is what happens though.  What about all the times when we are nice, considerate, helpful, and accepting.....are we still Bitches since at one time we acted a bit on the bitchy side?? 

  

Thanks for your time!  :-) 

Dena 

  

Quote From: hhs_goblin

See now you are assuming that I am mad.  Not at all!  I was just tryingt o explaing to youmy point that you seem to keep missing.  All is cool!  I am sure you are thinking I am a bitch and you have not got reason for that.  We just differ! 

  

As for hte people I "run into" they are just normal everyday people...most of them I see coming out of a church on Sunday!  So being a christian does not mean you cannot lose your cool and belittle someone.  Only God is perfect so other than him and Jesus...I feel certain everyone has cussed or called someone out their name at one time or another!  Even if they don't wantt o admit it to the world, they must admit it to themself.  I sit in judgement of nobody and nobody should sit in judgement of me.  It is not only rude to call someone a bitch it is rude to judge people.  I just have enough "life" experience to know that in the world you have to deal with certain things and childish name calling happens to be one of them!  So does rude and hatefull people.  At some point you just have to laugh it off...turn the other check as God says! 

  

Have a good day! 

  

Just for the record I am still not the least bit mad about this conversation, but it must be getting to you...you are the one that started with the "frustrated" little face. 

  

Take care 

Dena 

  

  

  

Quote From: lyliah

I had a friend, she and I had been friends for about two years.We finally became roommates She told me about her past and said she wanted children,but just kept on having miscarriages. She made me feel so sad for her! Well one day she was so happy she was pregnant. I was so happy for her as well! She said she needed to be on bed rest her whole pregnancy,so that meant she needed to quit her job,stay in bed and not do any chores at all! Well she was my friend so worked and waited on her hand and foot. Well months were passing and she would not let me go with her to any appointments. I really got suspicious About her pregnancy when I wanted to at least see an ultra sound picture! She was just making one excuse after another, Finally the ninth moth of her pregnancy arrived and she was saying she had a feeling she was going to miscarry. Well I took extra care of her! Then one day a mutual friend of ours called and said she had some news. The news was she lied about being pregnant, I was dating a very nice guy, and she was jealous that she and I were spending alot less time together. She knew I am a caring person and would blow him off for a friend in need. Anyway I was angry and I just could not believe someone would lie for a little attention!