Messages By: cyn3100

As the former fiance of a serious substance abuser, I completely understood why Jon wanted a divorce. Anorexia, Bulimia and sever substance abuse make people extremely manipulative and controlling. April wouldn't even let the man say two words without cutting him off and calling him a liar! I believe Jon had done EVERYTHING he knew to do to help April including marry her. I didn't miss when he said that she told him she would go into treatment once they got married. That couldn't be more manipulative and controlling.  

When you love someone intent on killing themselves, the threat becomes a weapon wielded against you. It is blackmail to get you to do whatever they want. Nobody, including (with respect) Dr. PHIL can even begin to understand the level of sheer hell this poor man has been subjected to during their relationship. All he got from Dr. Phil was the old better-or worse-sickness-and-in-health guilt trip that I got when I left my drug addict fiance. Jon deserved as much compassion and caring as April got. Of course, she was sick and needs to recover for herself. She needs to think about herself and make this whole thing about her. The problem for Jon is that its ALWAYS been about her.  

They never had a marriage in the first place.  Unlike cancer, its not that the treatment can hurt almost as bad as the disease. Getting the anorexic or drug addict to get help is more than half the battle. They don't want help. It consumes the people who love them. It destroys the people who love them.  When April finally went into treatment Jon finally had the chance to exhale (maybe even for the first time since getting involved with her). Why is anyone even surprised that he bolted?!  

If you read this Jon, Dr. Phil may not get it, but some of us do. There was no easy way to end things with her. Every time you had contact with her, you ran the risk of getting caught up again in, "just wait until I ... then you can leave". You ran for your life. Marriage isn't supposed to mean letting your spirit die on the alter of someone else's problem. You got out. That was an amazingly brave thing to do.  Staying would have been the more socially correct thing to do, but nobody had to live that hell but you. Don't beat yourself up over this. You did the best you could. You did all you could. Now, do all you can to recover from it.

With you husband and brother away and in mortal danger, this is the best you can do for him?! Are you insane?

Try this. Get the hell away from each other. Don't respond when the other one goes nuts. You're both a couple of whiney ass babies. Please stop bothering this man (your husband/brother) with this nonsence. Do you want him in a dangerous situation with this crap on his mind. You are both so immature and pathologically selfish. Christian or not, get it together and get AWAY from each other for God's sake!!

As far as the others are concerned, if my son ever dared speak to me that way, he'd be looking for a new place to live (in another city). My entire family would whip his a**!

I am no fan of the Dr. Phil house to begin with. I'm sure it get ratings for the show, but I can't imagine how airing your dirty laundry (to THIS EXTENT) on television helps anyone but the show.

Alex in a child! Having this child's sexual misconduct splashed across millions of televisions throughout this country turns my stomach. Having her tested for STDs and those test results aired on TV also turns my stomach. I watched in ever-increasing horror.

I'm sure Kim has done the best she knew how. She has made mistakes and knows that. After all, she's is subjecting herself and her precious daughter to public humiliation in order to get some help. I believe that with some good, real therapy she and Alex with be fine. They clearly love each other very much.

Kim should take her child and move as far away from her ex-husband's family as she can get. If Enza is any sort of example of that family, Kim should run far and fast! I wish I could say Enza's motives are pure, but I doubt they are. I hope she enjoys her 15 minutes of fame. Kim should get a restraining order until Enza learns that her opinion is not and should not be the focus and that one NEVER says the things she has said to that poor child about hew mother. How dare she. Enza needs to have her own kids. If she already has kids, she should be home raising her perfect children, in her own perfect home. I pity those kids, but hey, maybe they'll have an aunt like Enza around to administer the same kind of "help".

I wish Kim and Alex the best. I wish Enza would get some serious therapy of her own.

Most people would think twice before public ally calling a beautiful, precious child 'fat and unattractive'. If she should read your message, I'm sure it should help elevate her 'low self esteem'. She's a lovely child just as she is!

I wasn't positive. I hoped I had heard wrong. If Enza is such a perfect mother, why isn't she home raising her own kids instead of in the Dr. Phil house sticking her nose in what's none of her business?!  Alex and Kim will get help and be fine. Alex is going to really resent Enza for the things she's said once the relationship with her mother is back on track. You never, EVER talk about a kids mother to them or in front of them.

A better use of Enza's time would be yelling at her deadbeat brother who seems to have abandoned his child. That is part of the reason Alex goes from male to male looking for love. It's funny how Enza blames Kim much more than her no-good brother. If Enza and her family as so great, how did they produce HIM?

I have an idea. Dr. Phil should start a fund to pay for the therapy Enza's kids are surely going to need if they don't already need it! Those poor, poor babies.

I would like to see her get some help too. I feel for her.

It's hard to open up when someone jumps all over you whenever you open your mouth. I think Kim's just tired of having everything she's ever done shoved in her face whenever she tries to talk. I don't think she's been allowed to express one complete thought since she's came to the show.

She's cut off at the knees whenever she tries to parent her child. I noticed how whenever Kim tries to share a real moment with Alex (like on the trip to the doctor's office), Enza jumps right in. Enza immediately starts yapping like an annoying little dog, making certain that Kim understands that she's not allowed to have a moment with her own daughter, that Kim doesn't DESERVE any kind of connection with Alex. I admire Kim for not punching Enza, or putting her out onto the sidewalk and making the trip without her. I think Kim shows incredible restraint.

If Enza would sit down and shut up, Kim and Alex would be able to get back to each other a LOT sooner. They really seem to want each other back. Enza can't seem to do that though. She can't seem to let Kim and Alez have a real conversation WITHOUT her imput! It's great "entertainment" that she's there, but I can't for the life of me see any benefit to this mother and child. A mother/child reconnection would cause Enza to be on "the outside". Enza would lose her 14 year old playmate. It's sad when a grown woman behaves no better than a snotty little middle school girl. I can't help but imagine what I would feel in Kim's place. It can't be easy. I pray for strength for her.

I think Jennifer's just trying to get another shot at fame by singing on the Dr. Phil show. Her entire segment rang false to me. She seemed to be putting on an act. That's ok though. Hey, if it's gets you another shot at singing on national tv, you gotta do what you gotta do.

I've been a pro singer/song writer for 23 years. I'm not, nor have I ever wanted to be, famous. I've always wanted to be well paid! I've worked Th some pretty famous people and have seen what that life is like. God forbid that should have to live like that!

American Idol isn't the final word on fame and certainly not on talent. Remember Jennifer Hudson? Simon said she was not good enough in a very harsh manner. If I'm not mistaken, she just won a whole slew of awards including an OSCAR!!! Winning that contest (AI) is no guarantee of a successful and lasting recording career.

If you want to sing, sing! If you've got amazing talent and fame is your destiny  you'll do just fine. Most Pop stars can't even sing, so if you can, you've already got a leg up on them!

As a single woman, let me voice my disgust. This woman met this great guy and is now drowning him in crazy. When she finally burns him out, he's going to leave scarred and wary of the next poor single girl that comes along! Why are the good guys always ruined by some crazy woman with her crazy drama?! Hello, she served her first husband with annulment papers because he wasn't paying enough attention to her (boo hoo). The man was fighting in IRAQ and she couldn't give him a break and time to get back mentally and emotionally. Why? Because it's all about HER. Her first husband is well rid of her. He's cute enough that I'm sure some sane, caring woman who's capable of putting someone else first sometimes is waiting for a courageous, selfless, handsome guy.

If  she was still in love with her ex, who's probably a nice guy who just didn't get it until he lost it, why in the world did she start dating ANYBODY until she was over the guy? She is so self absorbed.

This is just more evidence that my theory is true: Men LOVE crazy women who treat them like dirt. It's so dramitic and exciting to chase a fickle, crazy, drama queen!  She knows darned well if the situation were reversed, she wouldn't be as "supportive" as she's demanding from her current husband (who is too cute, generous and sweet for words!!). Her definition of supportive=let me treat you like crap and come back begging for more or I'm going to cry. Good Lord!!!! I would pay to watch this woman sit at home while her husband wined and dined the other woman he still loved while he figured out which woman he wanted. I'd PAY!