Messages By: bluelily87

 I believe that there are other forms of punishment than spanking, but I do realize that sometimes if a child is causing pain to themselves or others, a little smack on the hand for 'shock value' might be needed. It all depends on the circumstances. I personally was a very good child and had been spanked once and smacked on the hand twice throughout my whole childhood. Each time was because i had done something that I really needed to know was wrong. I do not think spanking a child all the time is right, but sometimes is called for.

 I was just wondering what everyone's opinions are about moving in with one's partner. I have met a wonderful man whom I would love to move in with one day, but am just not too sure how long to wait. We have only been together 4 months, so of course it is too soon to decide now, but I still would like some of your opinions on the matter! Thank you!

  You cannot use those statistics for validating your opinion... what about all the other factors that contribute to those stats? I am not saying you are wrong, but you have posted that comment at least twice, and it just seems somewhat one-sided.

 Nicely said!

 I love sex. I can't get enough of it and my boyfriend is definitely great in bed. He always tries to make me happy and will do whatever he can to make me feel good. My problem is I have not yet had an orgasm. I know so many women say that I should first find out what I like by myself, before I can get off with someone else, but I don't feel that is true. I don't really get turned on at all when I am by myself, yet get soooo close to orgasm when having sex with my guy. I have tried masterbating and even have tried vibrators, but when i am by myself, it just doesn't do much for me. It really is quite disappointing and I would love to learn how to reach orgasm. I guess in a way, I don't really know what i like. Sometimes it feels amazing, and sometimes it pretty good, but since i can't get near to amazing by myself, I just don't try. i need someone there with me to get turned on... any suggestions??? Please Help!

 user friendly drugs like ecstacy??? are you serious??? I am only 21 and while i was in high school I hung out with some gurls that got a lil too into drugs... I've tried almost all drugs except for heroine and crack... I must tell you ecstacy is FAR from user friendly. you should go on the internet and research these drugs that you seem to not know much about before giving your child permission to try them. I know kids will be kids, and sometimes you can't do anything to stop them from doing what they want, but giving them permission to do these things only leads to more problems. My mother used to let us smoke pot in the house and then when I would come home all high on E I would simply lie and say I was on mushrooms because I knew she wouldn't care... well, my mother is a crazy alcoholic whom I do not even speak with anymore and I know she did plenty wrong while i was growing up. Please try and speak to your son... also, don't allow Alex to do the same. Let him know that you care about both of them, and you don't want to see anything happen to him like his brother. let him know that drugs are wrong and you do not allow them to be used. you say you tried to raise your kids the Christian way? why would you allow him to do drugs then? I am not trying to say you are a bad parent or anything... really!!! I mean, I don't have kids so I can't say much about it, but I do believe that I have learned a lot from my experiences and I know what made me decide to do drugs and why I thought it was okay. Please Gerald, try to help Daniel before it's too late. If he had already asked your permission to do heroine, and ran away, I believe he may have already done it... this is not good.

Good luck and best wishes!!!

 thanks for the advice. I know it is me, and I know it's because i have trouble just letting go and relaxing. If it took you 5 yrs, but now alls good, than cool... maybe i just need to wait another 6 months :) who knows... i have heard that some women have never orgasmed until they had their first kid.

 just keep doing what you are doing. Only time will help heal the wounds and you have already done what is best by getting out of it, and taking your kids away from the horror. It took my mom yrs to leave my abusive step dad and even though things were rough, they were better away from the guy than living with him. Try and stay strong and maybe seek councilling. I know some councilling up here (in canada) can be covered by medical if you are referred by a doc... try calling around and see if there are any services available for you or your children. sometimes talking to someone really helps! just do your best to be strong for your children and yourself, and make sure to know what is going on while they are having visits with their dad... communicate the best you can and give them your love! I am sure things will work out in the end!!!

 It sucks that he won't speak to you about it... I was in a relationship for two and a half years (not nearly as long as you) and by the end things sucked. We would have sex sometimes, but when we did it was more because my guy had made me feel guilty for being tired from work and school even though he didn't have a job or anything, so he got to sleep in all day and live at his mom's ... he's 23!!! finally I had enough and broke things off. It was the best decision I made because I have realized that he really never treated me that great after the first year and always tried controlling me and didn't want me going out with friends etc... now I have met a really great guy, and am very happy. It may be that he is cheating, or maybe not... I really don't know. I figure you should keep trying to speak to him about it, and if things don't get better or if he doesn't open up, I figure you should stop wasting your time with him. i know that even the thought of breaking up with him probably hurts you very much because you love him... that is why I stayed with my ex for sooo long. I loved him and couldn't stand the thought of him being with anyone else, and was afraid that I could never love anyone else the way I loved him... but now i know I did the right thing and even though I am not in love with my new guy and don't know what will happen with us, I am way happier than I ever was with my ex.

 I think it's really cool that you've decided to wait till you find the right woman! I don't think sex can really be described, but it sure is great!!! I assume you masterbate??? It feels like a million times better  than that!!! Well, for me at least :) Plus, since I am a chick, I can't really try to tell you what it's like being a guy and having sex, except it sure seems like anyone I have been with loves it as much as I do. Just continue being curious and one day you will know exactly what all the fuss is about!!!