Quote From: missquitoLadies,
May 24, 2005 is when my life was turned upside down. My former husband who I put in business and kept in business was having sex with women from 21-60. See this was easy for him as we had a motorcycle shop and easy women came in daily and he flirted until he got what he wanted. I am a successful and very busy realtor in town and was writing him checks monthy so "he could live his dream". Little did I know I had to write checks because the cash coming in the business was going to his #1 whore and #2 BJ Queen who was 21 yrs old. Mind you he was 51 yrs old at the time. He fell for a biker chic who would ONLY perform oral sex on him "because he was married". I knew something was wrong 3 months prior but NEVER thought it was other women. Why would I?? Up until May 23, 2005 I thought he was the most wonderful, caring, romantic man ever all the while he was talking behind my back, saying horrible things about me to his friends and customers. He wanted to live his life in an expensive neighborhood while he played all day and I waited patiently for him to come home. Once he was figured out he held me in disdain because he wanted it all...he was having sex with me after having sex with other women. In April 2005 I was diagnosed with HPV and had to have a surgical procedure, while he denied being with any other women. The worst of this is he constantly called me...this is my I love you call, I love when you come by the shop, etc...his famous words were not only are you my wife and lover you are also my bestfriend. HE IS GOOD! I divorced the scumbag in 32 days and he told everyone that I had an affair and he did not see it coming. HAH! He is very convincing...everyone was telling him to come home to me before I filed for divorce..but you see he did not need me anymore, I was used up and he did not like that I wanted him to get a smaller place so we could make a little money in our business or break even. I tried to coach him because he is retarded, has a very low IQ and the only thing he is good at is deceiving and LYING. He wanted full control of the business which he had...I gently tried to make suggestions..anyway to make a long story longer...he told everyone he was sleeping in his truck when in reality whore #1 was picking him up at night and dropping him off in the morning. That lasted 1 week when he decided not to hide it anymore. To make it worst he started to pursue a woman who worked 100 yards from my office. So here I am knowing he is living with whore #1 and trying to court another woman( i will call her #12). On July 14, 2005 he had his first date were he bragged that #12 had sex with him. July 15 he was at his stepdaughters wedding that I PAID for with whore #1. On Sept 26, 2005 he weasled his way into #12's home. They got married Jan. 2006. I feel bad for her...bankruptcy, foreclosure and the nuthouse are in her future. Luckily for me I came close to a nervous breakdown but when I realized what he is..and how he lied about everything and all the women..since day 1 before we got married, I had to put it in prospective..he is a sociopath with no remorse, no conscience, no love although he makes you feel that you are the most important person in his life. Here I am 13 months later, stronger than before and watching him from afar fall apart. I gave him the life he wanted and he likes women that dress like whores and are whores. The million dollars he says I got is a lie..he never in his life worked for or had (he had a settlement before we got married). He is also great at mirroring the person he is with...I feel sorry for him..he is sick...there is so much more to what happened I am writing a book about my marriage to him. The most evil person ever and someone who now MAKES MY SKIN CRAWL for he is a SLOB, PIG and LOWLIFE...Dr. Phil is right..living well is the best revenge and I am happy to be rid of that piece of human garbage!
PERSONALITY TRAITS of SOCIOPATH:
1. SUPERFICIAL CHARM -- the tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, and slick. Not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. He never gets tongue-tied and has freed himself from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.
2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH -- a grossly inflated view of one's abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. An arrogant guy who believes he is a superior human being.
3. NEED FOR STIMULATION (PRONENESS TO BOREDOM) -- an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Often has low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because he gets bored easily.
4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING -- can be moderate or high; in moderate form, and will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever (in extreme form, he will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest).
5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS -- the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one's victims.
6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT -- a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and unempathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one's victims.
7. SHALLOW AFFECT -- emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.
8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY -- a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.
9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE -- an intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.
10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS -- expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.
11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR -- a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.
12. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS -- an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.
13. IMPULSIVITY -- the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.
14. IRRESPONSIBILITY -- repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.
15. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS -- a failure to accept responsibility for one's actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.
16. MANY SHORT-TERM RELATIONSHIPS -- a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.
17. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY -- behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.
18. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY -- A diversity of types of criminal offenses (regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them); taking great pride at getting away with crimes.
oh my gosh.......
my husband FITS those personality traits....and sounds a lot like your guy.
he was just so convincing about all of that "I love you....why didn't I meet you sooner?" stuff, I never saw him for what he was.....until I was out several thousand dollars.
I think you and I are BOTH better off without these guys!!!!
