Messages By: ceceliags

Im not a bad person but people who gain all this weight and then cry about it and always go why me, why me...

Im sorry but I dont feel sympathy for you people. Gaining the weight was all self induced. You all willingly choose to eat all the food you did.

Even the first woman of Dr.Phil today... I mean eating some pizza is one thing but eating 3 whole damn pizzas??? Gimmy a break here....

When I was in my early years like age 10 - 14 I wasnt fat but I wasnt skinny.... I did get bugged and picked on a little bit not alot but enough to bother me. BUT instead of feeling sorry for myself and crying about it, sitting on my bed and eating all day, I did something about it and took MY OWN LIFE and POWER back!

I started working out, going to the gym, eating better. I did it and researched it all on my own. No one helped me one damn bit. I didnt have to go on any talk show and cry or ask for help! I knew what I wanted and went and got it, like I said all on my own!!

So for anyone whos out there, over weight and crying abou their weight.. Do something about it!

IF IT WAS EASY EVERYONE WOULD BE DOING IT! But its not easy! It wont happen over night either. You gotta commit yourself long term, and be completely 100% dedicated or dont even bother......

The reality is. If you want your life back  you can get it but you gotta want it. Don't just sit there cry and whine about it and ask 'Why me, Why me!"

End of story.

You dont say how long you have been married, and you dont say if you have children together or not.

As another poster already mentioned- counseling could help you very much. I urge you to seek counseling together and also separate. If your husband doesnt want to go, you need to go alone anyway. Although, by the way you describe your husband, it sounds like he might be the type of man who would go. Perhaps he is just waiting for something to happen in life because he just doesnt know what else to do. Both of you deserve to be happy and fulfilled- whether you are together or not.

When you live your life according to how you think other people will react to you, you will never truly experience the deep joy in life that you deserve. Professional counseling can help you learn to overcome your fear of what others might think of you if your marriage ends. It will also be so helpful for you to learn how your life got to this point of unhappiness, so that you can move forward and experience the happiness that life holds for you. Best wishes!

He what?

You said that we have decided to take a break and he is going to pursue this other woman. The two of you are married; for him to pursue another woman, even with your permission, is still being unfaithful to you. Im curious to know why do you feel that this is all that you deserve? Why does he get to tell you how the rest of your life will go? You have a child to think about. Remember that you are the strongest female role model she will ever have, she is looking to you as an example. The decisions that you make, such as tolerating a cheating spouse, is teaching her this is normal, but in reality, there is nothing normal about a wife granting her husband permission to pursue another woman while she waits for him to come back. Have you thought about what you will do if/when he doesnt come back? You need to think about your future, and the future of your child. There are long term negative consequences for his irresponsible decisions.

I'm extremely obese and I can't seem to lose any weight. I'm a girl and I weight 119 pounds. I've been trying to lose weight for a few months, and I can't get anywhere below 119. No matter how much I try, nothing ever changes.