Messages By: bam2468

Hello. I am a mother of four children. Daughters 18,15,11 and son 7. My first daughter was a breeze. I had no crazy teenage daughter stuff to go through. My second daughter whom is 15 which I know every child is different and I really never expected it to go so easy with her. Well my dilemma right now is that my daughter has cut herself a couple of years ago one time. And just recently my neice has informed me and her father that she had did it again alot worst then she had last time. She was angry because she was grounded for a week (no friends, no calls and no computer) of course her lawyer mode kicked in and she had to defend on how stupid it was how stupid her parents were and how much she hated us. Well after all argumenting was done she was given a month groundment and that would be when we found out she cut herself again. We are now in the process of trying to find a doctor outside of this small town that I live in. Where I have spoke to other parents whom have tooken there children to doctors regarding the same issue and as some of the children whom have posted messages say just a couple of visits and it is ruled out that they are teenagers. Me and my daughter have had good communication and she tells me just about everything more than what I need to know sometimes and she reminds me of how hard it is to be a teenage girl. She knows that I am here for her. Any advice regarding the cutting would be helpful. I guess the topic of cutting has gotten so bad my daughter tells me about how many girls do it at school and how they show it off as if they have gotten a new tattoo.  

Thank you so much. I would definitely take your advice on the book, the arguing and definitely the journal. The journal is the best advice ever. I would see how it would help with proper assessment. My daughter has already told me how she isn't and will not speak to a therapist. Everything you said made perfect sense and will help quite a bit. Thank you once again. 

I thank you for you reply. Sorry to hear that you are going through the same thing. I know how you must feel. My daughter makes me worry so much. Oh she makes my heart hurt. I try to explain to her how she makes me worry so. She calls me paranoid. I wish something more can be done. I have never heard of this cutting or knew anyone whom had did it until I move to this town. And the amount of girls who do it. I  just can't believe it. Thanks again. 

Hello everyone. I am a 32 soon to be 33yr old woman. I have been smoking since I was 13 years old. I have four children. When I was pregnant with each of my children I was able to quit smoking with no problems at all. Never thought twice about wanting to smoke when I was pregnant but a few months after the baby was born I would start again. I had my last child 7 years ago and don't plan on having any more. But in these 7 years I have been trying to quit over and over again. Longest has been 3 months. I have my next date to quit which will be on April 17. I am going to try the patch again religiously. I know I have to be successful this time and will try my hardest. It makes me angry that I am having so much problems with quitting. I look at a cars exhaust smoke and think of I my as well be sucking on that exhaust pipe. My husband is also a smoker which will make it harder because he just can't quit. I wish he would also try. His mother past away a few years ago from lung cancer.  

She was in her 50's. I do think of that a lot. I am sorry to hear about you having had cancer I am happy to hear that they were able to remove it and that you are cancer free. God bless you. Stay strong. Tear drops fall from my eyes reading your story. I want to be around for a long time. I don't want to lose that time with my children. Before I made that decision to quit. I lay in bed every night just thinking how I am going to die young and my children won't have me. It's not fair to them. What really got me was I was playing with my children after school as I always do. We were playing tag and I was running out of breathe and I had bad chest pain and had to quit playing. I quit on my quit date April 17. It's been 4 days. Not so bad actually. I guess I am finally ready and dedicated to quitting. I will start exercising in about a month or so. With the patch I read you have to take it off during exercising. I really don't want to take it off. So I will wait. Linda I thank you for your words and I will take your story and carry it in my heart and mind with me.  

Beverly 

Hi Linda, 

I am going on my 5th day. Still going pretty good. I am still using the patch and finding taking really deep breathes of air instead of nicotine is helping getting through the urges of wanting to smoke. My husband has not stop smoking which is makes it a little hard for me when he is home. We were in the car together yesterday and he was smoking and the smoke was blowing in my face. I had asked him to please move his cigarette in which he did. His response to me was that I was doing so good that he didn't think that it would bother me. I guess he didn't realize because I am not a lunatic like I have been in the past times with quitting smoking. Which tells me that yeah I am definitely ready and will successfully do this. Oh and he isn't smoking around me anymore. I keep myself busy by playing with my kids before and after school. During the day gets kind of tough because I am home all day. I go for frequent walks and my house is spotless. Above all I feel really good about myself.  

Linda you are a god send thanks again. You replied to my posting and your words stick with me. I think of you daily. The postings do really help. I had also read through other postings and saw how you recommended the silk quit website and I downloaded it.  

Beverly 

Four days, 6 hours, 18 minutes and 23 seconds. 59 cigarettes not smoked, saving $21.48. Life saved: 4 hours, 55 minutes.
 

Sorry to hear about your loss.  

Sorry to have given you unwanted sympathy. I am a mother of four. I don't only care about my own children. But I care about other children that aren't mine. I am not one to only think of my own children but others as well.  I don't like to see any child unhappy. You just seem so sad. We all like to know that, hey someone out there cares. My daughter is doing much better. Glad to hear about your four days of no cutting and that it is time to start living. Good luck to you and once again sorry for your loss. 

Welcome back Shelly, 

I am new to this board my name is Beverly. There is such great support on this message board. Its been 9 days for me. I feel it too this time, it will stick.  It will stick for you too. We can do it. 

Take care 

Beverly 

One week, two days, 2 hours, 20 minutes and 43 seconds. 127 cigarettes not smoked, saving $45.85. Life saved: 10 hours, 35 minutes.
 

How is everyone good I hope? 

It has been 9 days for me and feeling great. I had an awful weekend. I went to the park on Friday to play with my children as I was playing tag once again. I lost my breathe oh it took so long to get it back thought I was gonna die. When I had actually got my breath back I went to walk I had got this sharp pain in my leg I looked at it and I must have gotten a blood clot in my leg or something I have this huge bruise looking thing on my leg. I will be going to the doctor today. I am so worried about what happened to my leg. Really has me nervous. The nerves I have right now usually I would be smoking double the amount. These health problems are a wake up call. So not even once have I thought of smoking. Just hating the smoking more. Oh and on Sunday I fell down the stairs all the way down on my back. It hurt like hell and cried like a baby. And then I laughed my ass off afterwords. I found it funny. I'm OK! 

Beverly 

One week, two days, 2 hours, 29 minutes and 24 seconds. 127 cigarettes not smoked, saving $45.88. Life saved: 10 hours, 35 minutes.