Messages By: manofgoods

Tell Shannon...we are all still talking about and we still care.....Thanks..... 

Annette 

Mother's Day my granddaughter, who has been diagnosed with NPD, called to wish me "Happy Mothers' Day. She was calm. She didn't complain about things. The most different thing, about her, was she said she felt bad. She had a cold and she thought she gave it to a relative's baby and the baby ended up being life-flighted to a larger city with pneumonia. She probably did not give the baby the critical virus. The different thing was that she was taking the blame for something. She has never did this before.  

She has been in psychological counseling and on medication for three years and something may be turning around, I hope. 

I believe what you are speaking of is called "child abuse"- these situations are definetly not the same. This is a severe disgusting issue- the thought of your scenerio actually makes me physically ill. The people who do this to children are severely ill and vile people. I certainly hope that you called child protective services or the local social services to report this, as no one should have to suffer in this disgusting way. As well your b-i-l is just as guilty as his wife- let a little girl suffer b/c it would make his wife angry ???!!!! Sick. I in no way can associate child abuse with shannons situation- ever. 

The piece you are neglecting to accept is- sometimes it just isn't that cut and dry. I do not believe that this family "ganged up" on her- I believe they were all defending themselves. Did you watch dr phil's show on toxic people ? It was on here on Friday.  I believe this is the real picture of what goes on in shannons home- I know it is what went on in mine. Open yourself up to accepting that there are so many things that go on which you may not have understanding. I lived a daily nightmare with my step daughter- on the outside you also would think she was a sweet innocent victim of our evil parenting, as this is the picture painted for her viewing audience. What evil parenting ?-"you spilled food all over the floor, could you clean it up?"- would be met with a  verbal attack  like you have never seen. Make house rules for curfews, disconnect her cell phone for being rude and belligerent- we were classified as the spawn of satan to her and her friends.Lets face it these are things which are not significant - just imagine what she did when we dealt with the more serious issues..... Leaving steak knives were my toddler plays and then stating that I should watch her better, because why should she take responsibility... Getting arrested and having to be accountable for the behavior...this was not her fault either it was the cop and her fathers ???? Hello..........These are manipulative people who have no  scrupples about what they do, they are master manipulators and have no conscience about their actions. 

 She can tell a very sad story on how bad her life is and she would have everyone eating out of her hand. I also believe that this type of manipulation was used during shannons dr phil show.  

Okay, First of all Shannon is not my stepdaughter. I know it must be difficult for you to comprehend that there are many people out there that have experienced the same type of situations. Let me get this straight, my step daughter who pretty much has done nothing but create severe conflict in my home, endangered the welfare of my children, has brought drugs into my home, been arrested- for something quite illegal, and blames myself and her father for every problem she has ever had- I should just "let it slide" ? In your opinion, when shouldn't I let it slide ? After she has actually caused harm to my children? After I develop an ulcer? I already needed to see my MD because of the stress.   So when do you say when? When my family has completely self destructed because of one person who thrives on creating turmoil ? When ?  

Sorry- but I will not allow my kids or myself to be harmed by a person like this- I am not full of hatred or anger, actually the decision to get my stepdaughter out of my home id like lifting a million pound weight off of my shoulders. I am content, I am thrilled that my children no longer have to be subjected to the screaming, swearing, drugs- I will stick by people who have problems, when they take ownership for the problems and accept that they need help and to change. I will not subject my children and myself to daily hostility. I think you missed this issue, I am a parent. I have tried to help my stepdaughter- you have no idea nor does anyone else on this board- she doesn't think she has a problem..It is the rest of us... I cannot and will not allow my childrens emotional and physical well being to suffer at the hands of my stepdaughter. The love and understanding route....I can be understanding, I can love- but when my childrens safety is at high risk-  they take priority. You might understand this when you have kids of your own.  

And quite honestly, you could not possibly know what this is like. And I hope that you never do.  

  It's great to have a male here again, as we have had them in the pass but for some reason they don't like to stick around, mind you we are all very nice and friendly girls here and we don't bite!! So, please feel free to stay and check us out. 

By the way, Hope you had a great Birthday the other day  , gee and you're only 24, still very young so please enjoy your life and live it well!! 

My name is Kelly and I've been coming here to this board since Dec 2002 and in that time I have made some wonderful friends. All of the girls here are very dear to me and my family. They all really do care and they are all very down to earth people with hearts of gold, so I know that you will be more than welcome here. 

So, have you got a real name that we can call you by?  

Well till next time please Take Care and look forward to hearing from you soon, bye-for-now, Love Kelly.