Quote From: bestinlifeThanks for your compassion. Yes I had counseling when this first happened more than 10 years ago. I was upset because I not only lost a wife who cheated on me twice, but I lost my son as well. My ex-wife to this day has made it impossible to see my son. She invoked on the divorce decree that I call her 72 hours prior to me picking him up. She never answers the phone, so I leave voice messages. Oh, but by the time she gets the message, they were already out of town and are sorry for missing it.
It's been three years since I've seen my son, and now he wants nothing to do with me. He emaled me at first, but then I found out his mother and her house mate of 10 years (Last guy she cheated on me with, who also used to be my friend) were reading my email (nothing wrong with that) but were not letting him read them. He told me this on the phone after Christmas.
I've been remarried now for a little more than 8 years, and I'm happy. It took some time for me to get over the betrayel I went through, but it didn't take much experience after playing the fields did I see the patterns of women either desperate for money, perhaps wanting just sex, or were desperate for marriage because of being single and not enough money. Most of these women were either on the computer a lot (Just like Jennifer) or in night clubs. Well, after two years of playing the field, I realized I was making a mistake. I remained single until I found someone I could trust. And we've been married now for quite some time. No counseling needed.
As for my ex? Yes, I'm still upset with her, but not because she cheated on me. But because she screwed with my sons head and kept him away from me. Now we're both distant.
I understand your bitterness towards this woman for keeping your son from you. A child deserves to have their biomom and biodad involved minus the husband and wife issues. I'm sorry it has worked out this way for you. Hopefully if your son ever gets counseling,(can you tell I'm a psychologist), he will realize that you only wanted to be a part of his life. Your ex has to live with the fact that she made it extremely difficult for you to see him and in the end sounds like she took her son's dad from him. I do know where you are coming from with some women, however, you have to realize it is the same with some men. Take people on an individual basis in their circumstances. Thanks for your response.
