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May 13, 2006, 9:52 am PDT

Alex turns 18

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Hello , I watched the follow ups with drphil and this family.I will be curious to see what secret Alex has that she shares with Dr.Phil and only him ! I hope Katherine is doing well.I felt sorry for her since all the attention was on Alex and her baby and the parents.It will intersting to see what unfolds from this updated show.

I am so excited for Thurs. to come? I think about Alex and her family and have wondered how they are doing? The CLIPS that have been shown for the upcoming show have me interested. Also the other "updates" will have me glued to the TV screen.

My husband and I enjoy your show so much. DO YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT OR DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY is our favorite exchange to each other and then we LAUGH!!!! We listen to your guests and your information and we have learned so much. What a GREAT show you have!!!

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Sunny

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May 13, 2006, 1:44 pm PDT

I Met Alex

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One day I was shopping and I looked across the way and there was Alex. I was like, wow, there's that girl that was on the Dr Phil show. I kept looking and she looked over and I smiled. I couldn't take my eyes off her and she kept looking over at me and I was still smiling at her. So I walked over and quietly told her I saw her on the Dr Phil show. I felt like I knew her. It must feel strange to have people you don't know coming up to you and they know you. I was sensitive that she may have felt a bit conspicuous and she was busy working so I didn't shout "hey look everyone its Alex from the Dr Phil show!" She was looking at me like I might hehe. Alex is as beautiful in person as she is on the show and she has a lovely freindly personality to match. I am always asking her questions about Dr Phil and Robin and its so exciting to actually meet someone that has been on the show. I am looking forward to seeing the show. I have to go to her store today so if she's there I may not be able to resist getting her to tell me some new Dr Phil trivia. ; )

How exciting to have met her in person? I just thought that she was so beautiful and for you to tell us that that was how she looked in person---thank you! I sure hope that her parents are happy with each other and still together. It looked like there was HOPE for their marriage? Please tell her she has a fan here in Florida also. We live in this beautiful state (southwest Florida) but I think she lives up in the northern part doesn't she? Tell her we will be watching and cheering for her and hoping that all of them are doing well. COME ON THURSDAY!!!! lol

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Sunny

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September 18, 2006, 3:52 pm PDT

Do you really know anyone?

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Well, I know Todd and Jessica and i could not believe my eye's . I could not believe they were still together. It has been a while since I hace seen them. Their two oldest boys were on our baseball team. I don't know how many hours I talked to Todd on the phone about the marriage. I tried to help . Yes Todd is hot headed . Don't let Jessica fool you. Todd is a cancer and all he wan't is to be loved and have his happy family and he really does love her. He just has very low self cofidence about him self. From Jessica it was always Todd was doing it wrong and she had nothing to do with it. He needed to change, not her. That was her thinking. I see Justin at school and he is still Justin. Upset of course. It took alot for Todd to write the show and try to get help. I liked Todd and understood him. He did what he could and what he thought she would want and she never praised him. It could always be better. If you read this Todd , you know I know what I am talking about and I know you loved her , but sometimes life goes on and there are some htings you can not fix. To everyone else , don't judge ,because you know you are not perfect either.

I believe that since you say you know them--it is much more important for Dr. Phil to get them to come clean with each other. They are both coming off as aggressive and untruthful (in my opinion) so far? But Dr. Phil is going to try and get them to act like grownups and that is what will help the children! They will always be BOUND by their children and need to learn to get along for their sake. You don't belittle the other parent to your children or fight in front of them. Your home is suppose to be a SAFE PLACE TO FALL not be scared of and listening to fighting and cussing? Children NEED and DESERVE to feel safe and loved. I feel so bad for these boys. I want to cover their ears and eyes and let them know there is a NORMAL life out here. Luckily I never heard my parents fight when I was growing up and I always felt safe and loved at home. It's a great way to grow up! We tell friends all the time--"don't talk that way to your husband/wife and use that tone. That does not sound loving and nice and most of all respectful and if you want to talk like that, take it out of our home! " You have your hands full on this one Dr. Phil and I'm not convicted they actually WANT to try and fix things? But you know what? They are not going to fool Dr. Phil and his staff!!!

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September 18, 2006, 4:07 pm PDT

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When will you do a show about age discrimination? You know we are the largest group of people living in America today. but nobody at this time is seeing us, When will the hiring public see us. We don't have great computer skills. That was just ahead of us. We all thought we would have the $50.00 per hour jobs and make a way for our kids. But it was a fool Paradise. No one could tell us that we won't be the best because we are and we knew it. Now at this time of my life and it will catch up with all of those who don't plan to do it right which will be 97% of the American people, even those who have it all. Get financial advise get help planning for the future and Dr Phil you need to stop helping those who will break any and give some sound advise to those who really are doing it right. My war cry is I did it Right. I'm not on Montel, Jerry, Morrey or even Dr Phil why, because I don't garner ratings.. If we had more people who did it right, OK helping people is good I agree but I did it right, sent my daughter to school, (no student loans) didn't do drugs (like to drink beer) worked every day,sometimes 3 or 4 jobs, but nobody allowed me to receive a new car (not that I need one Have a 2003 Jaguar Paid for) but don't we ever get rewarded just for doing it right??All my friends had kids who didn't end up in jail or have babies or get killed. One day I hope this message gets out. THOSE WHO DID IT RIGHT NEED A PAT ON THE BACK ALSO. Maybe you could be that person who just would like to have their show give it (don't get me wrong I applaud you because you do for the most part see the good in people. But so many shows across the country don't act like America is why people fight to get here and die to stay.

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I agree with you and have sent e-mails to Dr. Phil and Robin about it. WE have done it right also and we have a happy, supportive, loving marriage, 4 great young adults, and 4 grandchildren that are all to be proud of. My husband and I worked our butts off to pay the bills and get the kids through school (one is handicapped) and we are PROUD of all of them! Are we PERFECT? No, no one is but we sure try hard to treat others with respect (on the road, in a store, etc.) and teach good manners. What happened to "please and thank you" instead of "cussing and shrugging?" We are here on earth to learn and every day is a new chance to do just that. By the way---WE are proud of you!!!

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September 18, 2006, 4:11 pm PDT

Try being their neighbors

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Try being their neighbors......

Thank goodness we are NOT their neighbors!! Had a couple like that for a few months and finally the husband left and got put in jail and she got evicted. Having the cops show up all the time for their fights was awful!!! We like our quiet neighborhood, thank you.

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February 4, 2007, 2:09 pm PST

Is this for real?

I can hardly wait to see this show on Mon.? Yes, I do know of men and women who act this way and my husband and I are always wondering WHY DO THEY STAY TOGETHER? Yes, I believe you can change some things in your marriage, but the person you married was hopefully someone you took the time to get to really "know?" The good, the bad and ugly. Did they show anger in unacceptable ways before? Were they slobs before? How did they treat their mom and or sister? COMMUNICATION is the key to any success.

My husband and I both WORK. We are entertainers/singers, and are together 24/7 (because we want to be!) Trash full? Empty it...who cares? Dishwasher full and need emptied? Who cooks and cleans? I think all of these tasks are "fore play" and make my husband even more sexy to me! To walk by and see my husband cleaning up the kitchen and have him turn around to me and say HELLO HONEY while I'm on my way to do laundry or whatever. Yes, I have heard from many couples that maybe WE are the exception, but I hope that is not true. RESPECT, and lots of COMMUNICATION are so vital.

I feel that I have MY own Dr. Phil and boy do I feel blessed. This man makes me laugh each and every day and he makes it so easy to love him! I never get tired of looking at him! A handsome husband making me breakfast every day? LIFE IS GOOD! I sure hope you can help these families Dr. Phil. We will be watching!!!

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October 17, 2007, 7:40 am PDT

You don't forget

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I'm not sure a sane person will ever understand what drives an adult to take sexual pleasure with a child--to be sexually attracted to babies. It's not something we can comprehend. Whether it's a sickness/mental illness or just a disgusting perversion, these people must be held accountable. Speaking as an adult survivor of child sexual abuse, I can say with the utmost confidence, that this poor child will be haunted by this her entire life. I was assaulted at the same age, but it continued for 8 years. I am now 53 and still battling the demons. I pray that baby gets the help she needs.

Molestation is just the worse thing to happen at any age. I'm 57 and still deal with it and I was a little girl and molested by a family member who says "he doesn't remember doing anything to me?" Well, I do! The flashbacks at times have caused me so much mental pain. Thankfully I have a husband who I can confide in and be my ROCK. These children "do" remember. At least we talk about it more TODAY. I have found out about so many girls that I knew and grew up with were molested. Thank goodness for shows like this to hopefully bring out the SIGNS to watch out for. Our children need protection!!! NOW!!!!

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November 25, 2008, 7:46 am PST

Your sister-in-law

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I hope that you all can find closer and learn how to deal with what has been done to you all my daughter in law suffers everyday she was also one of the victims she was the youngest and she has a really hard time dealing with her past. God bless you all

The sexual abuse and torture that went on in that family was so awful that it was hard to believe that something like that could really happen--yet, I have endured being molested at a young age from a family member and have heard so many stories about other girls I have known and believe me people--It is happening and did happen. Hopefully today's show will enlighten people to be more ALERT for each other as Dr. Phil said. It was a very tough show to listen to. My heart was aching for everyone.

Why wasn't the mother ever mentioned? Is she alive or in prison?

Please know that you are all in our prayers and with Dr. Phil's help--get a life of some peace and love. I wanted to jump in the TV and hug all of you.

Also, I just wanted to mention that I thought the whole family was so good looking. Not getting an education was not their fault and I hope they get help with that also. God Bless all of you.

Tally

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November 25, 2008, 8:02 am PST

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I am very, very sad. This program just made me cry so very much. First time I ever cried watching the show. It was just heart-wrenching. Coming from a family of ten, abused, ignored, yet certainly not even close to the abuse they endured, makes me feel quite stupid and selfish. After all they went through, the pain and the anquish and so many other emotions, they all came across as survivors and good people. Amazing.

Jeannie, Janae, I felt the raw pain. You are not a carcass. Do not kill yourself. PLEASE. Never have I heard or seen a family who not only posesses strength and the capacity for understanding and forgiveness. I so hope you can be together. I felt the raw pain of your sisters. I can relate being hurt by my sister, yet not on this scale.

I will call my sister tomorrow after 18 years.

I just wanted to tell you that it might have been 18 years since you have talked to your sister, but I hope your call goes better than mine did? I went years without talking to my one brother that abused me and caused me so much emotion over it. I saw him in person when I walked into the hospital room to see my dying mom. I didn't even recognize him at first and when I did by stomach turned. I had the chance to talk to him "alone" and told him I wanted to forgive him for what he had done to me and he said "I didn't do anything to you!" My other brothers KNOW he did and yet this puke of a human being still lies about it! From that day on he is DEAD to me. I tried and my brothers and husband were so proud of me for that. I forgave him in my heart but will never forget. He then turned around and went to my mom's apartment and stole money from her and then blamed ME for doing it? (I was in the hospital with my mom the whole time and would never take anything from my own mom or anyone else?) That just added to the INSULT. I hope your re-union goes better than mine. Just be prepared for what you might get from the phone call. God Bless You.

Tally

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December 20, 2008, 10:51 am PST

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Thank you Dr. Phil and Staff for bringing this subject to the attention of your vast audience. I can only hope that after watching your program your American audience immediately either picked up their phones and started calling their Senators and Congressman or at least writing them letters.

I was once a Navy Chief Petty Officer who served from 79-93. I was injured and forced to get out. I initially received severance pay and a rating of 20%. I have fought everyday to get my disability rating increased. Just this past year I have reached 50%.

I am diagnosed with PTSD by my VA Doctors at the VA Hospital, and I am receiving physch and medication treatment for it at the VA Hospital, but the VA disapproved my claim. I still can't figure that one out. I have been waiting two years too dispute the ruling. Can anybody explain it too me?

My youngest brother served in Viet Nam and came back with injuries and PTSD. He is now 59 and finally got some money to help after fighting with the VA again for the last 2 years. They also put him on a low classification? They said he didn't "fill out the paper work in a timely matter YEARS ago-in the late 60's" and thus was DENIED any help. After I got more involved and was able to direct him to a wonderful man here in Florida, he was able to KNOW who to write and call to and made the numerous visits that are FAR from his home? One doctor would say he should have been on medication YEARS ago and then the VA notified him that they were NOT approving that doctor's orders and NO medication would be given or help? What a struggle he has had since serving his country. You know that if they didn't want to help our agent orange people that they were doing something with all that money? I say WE all call and write and keep on our Representatives for the HELP these brave veterans have done for us.......

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Alex turns 18

I Met Alex

Do you really know anyone?

55 and older

Try being their neighbors

Is this for real?

You don't forget

Your sister-in-law

A sister

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