Messages By: dustyrose9

Quote From: aintaho

Hi Neighbor, sad isnt it, but your life sounds like my life, and I dont think I've ever seen another one put it like me. Does he have headphones too? Mine sits with headphones on all night and is frustrated when he has to remove them to answer me, so I've given up talking to him  and find myself talking to the TV at night, it doesnt answer me either? LOL. I laugh because if I didnt I 'd cry, and I've done enough of that. Everyone thinks it's so simple, well just leave then, it's not that simple, he has no other habits (other than smoking) He has a job, but  I know why  he plays, it is an escape from having  not fulfilled his dream, but I also know he enjoys them so very much, I wouldnt care about the games, if he only played them at night ,and during the day , he spent it with the kids on the weekend, but it's not something I wish to fight over anymore. My 14yr is trying to take after him and that's all he cares to do as well in the winter, summer its golf or games, but I will not allow my child to turn into his father, he has to earn his time, by bringing  home the grades, what he does on school work daily , allocates his time playing, but no longer than three hours a day. Now that may seem like alot, but I have to say, it;'s worth the A's and B's he's bringing home on his school work, he also has to do other activities or he cant  play, I may not be able to stop his Dad from it, but I sure can stop our child. I dont want him to stop playing either, I understand his enjoyment, he works hard and deserves it , I just wish he would be interested in us as well, and maybe put some balance into it, but I have come to understand that I cannot change it, only he can, and I dont think he ever will.

Quote From: lilly_1985

I am 20 yrs old two kids and married.. At the begin our sex life was great and now after five yrs  I don't wanna have sex with him and its not becouse i don't love him or anything like that its just well I have no clue . He gets mad when i say no or I am tired .We fight about this all the time .. I think something is wrong with him cause its like thats all he ever wants to do..He at least has to have sex once a day and if not in turns into a fight . I don't even wont him around me cause I think if he is around me he will want to have sex so I just push him away....I know the saying if you don't give your man what  he needs he will find it some where eles ...But is it really sex he needs?