Messages By: texas249

I am sure what she's doing - raising a grandchild - is a difficult deal.  But to say she is shocked by what she's hearing means to me that she is not totally plugged in to what is happening.  Even on the show at first, she was trying to minimize it.  She needs to own up to what her granddaughter is doing and find ways to help her.  Natasha has a lot of pain and anger and probably insecurity feelings.  You don't wait for it to get this bad.  Dr Phil offers counseling, but that same counseling is available, usually on a sliding scale, to people even before Dr Phil gets involved.  Get a backbone and quit acting like a victim of life yourself.  Get your granddaughter some help, get involved, stay involved, keep your eyes open ;and stop giving and making  excuses.

To the parents of the other girls - stand up for your children.  As Dr Phil always says children, or anyone for that matter, need a soft place to land.  You, as much as Natasha's grandmother, need to get your daughters some help, get involved, stay involved, keep your eyes open ;and stop giving and making excuses.

You came across on the show as extremely full of yourself and not attractive in manner at all.  You came across as having been there, not for Dr Phil's help, but so JayZ could see you.

You come across as not very educated about life, people, or yourself.  Since you have a pattern of this, maybe some help is needed.

Maybe, just maybe JayZ is attracted to a woman who is an individual, smart, talented, hard working and very good looking.  Beyonnce, at least to appearances, seem to work hard at all of it. 

She gives a good appearance in performances and in interviews.  You do not.  Get an education, a good job, have a good understanding of yourself, educate yourself about life, love and especially about yourself.

Learn to do something in life besides dial a phone and punch buttons for a text message.  How can you possibly have time to do 200 text messages and/or phone calls?  Don't you have a job?  Think of how much more productive in some many areas you could be with that time alone?

Terry - you are not married to this man.  Please don't let anyone tell you that your kids are not welcome.  Do you have your own home?  It should be your say so as to who enters your home and who doesn't.  It should be your say so as to who you work with.  Who you see.  Please choose yourself and your children over a man who doesn't sound like he brings much to a relationship other than misery and heartbreak.

You sounded like a much stronger woman than you are demonstrating.  No person is worth all that you are being willing to put up with.  If your children don't like him  - it's probably time to sit down and think it out. 

You had these children who evidently love you and still want a relationship with you.  Put them before some man who is willing to talk down to you, harm your relationship with your family, with your business, with your ex. 

Whether he is or not, he came across as a very uneducated, uninformed, controlling person who doesn't come close to deserving someone like you.  Don't think you have to have a man to be a successful woman.  Open your eyes, redefine yourself as a woman, as a mother, as a business woman and as a success.  You deserve a lot better than the one you showed up on tv with.