I got herpes in my 20 yr marriage and have had it since 1994 when i had my first outbreak. AFter my husband died 4 years ago i have been dating only herpes men who i found on mpwh.com I had painful outbreaks 3 times but now i have them about every 4 years and then for only 2 days and they are minor outbreaks. I have adjusted to my situation and know that a lot of us have cold sores and genital herpes and it is not a big deal. Recently I met a non herpes man and after we dated 4 times i knew i had to tell him about my condition. I wrote him a letter telling him of my condition and watched him read it. he patted my leg and told me that it did not matter to him; i was important to him and if he got herpes he would go to the doctors; he refuses to wear a condom. Needless to say i cried in relief and respect him highly. We have a relationship based on trust and honesty and we intend to keep it that way.
I am very glad to see this discussion on the Dr Phil boards; hope he does a show on this soon.
