Messages By: purplepain

Quote From: devotedhusband

I have been married to a woman who is 7 years older than I am. We both are in our 40's and last year, was a very sad time in my life. My wife had an affair with a 20 year old grocery clerk(who she said that she really loves) and planned it that had me moved out so that we could work on our marriage. She got a roach infested apartment for me and after the first night there, I went back to the house in the morning and tell her I will look for a place on my own. After I came home, I realized that he was over there last night with her but was already gone. I told her about the phone records that I had and told her to leave and she called the police and made false accusations about me. She was with this boy for about a month and a half when she started to have feelings for me to even kiss me outside the house with her boyfriend in the house. She later found out that he is a crystal meth user and even had move him in with my 8 year old son(how confusing is that for a child to have daddy home one day and a few days later another boy who was 12 years older than him moving in and sleeping with his mom) for a week. Anyway we got back together and decided that we need a fresh start and a new place to live. We decided on France and she went there first with my son in March(since I am the bread winner and she sells on Ebay for a little extra money). Things were going great, when I noticed an email from her friend and she telling her to email her on another account because I help her with her ebay business and will see the emails. I reacted and told her that she is on her own in which she wrote back to me that she only told her friend that because her friend hates me. 2 weeks after that she started a yahoo france profile looking for a man 18 to 35 years old and that she is a divorced american woman(also lied about her age being 10 years younger). I caught her in the act and was so mad and told her off. She said that she was afraid that she is in a foreign country and I might abandon her(she has childhood issues about being abandon), so she was looking for a man as a backup..so she said. I do not trust her at all and do not know what to do as part of me wants to be with her and other times cannot put up with this. Lately it feels like she is drifting away but she said that she does not want ot talk to me because I always want to talk about our relationship and accuse her, as she wants action for me to be a husband and take care of her. She said that I am controlling(because I don't want her to see other men) and angry(I wonder why), All my friends said that I should leave her and leave her hard. They said that I should start taking care of myself for once instead of everything for her. I am dealing with a very smart woman who has her masters in psychology and is like Dr Phil in her counseling style. I love her but don't know if she is truly in this marriage or if she is cheating on me in France. I don't know what to do, do I stay and be the hero in this marriage or just leave her for good.

Quote From: kschmittz

After all the talk about homeschooling why public school?  I also remember you saying the public schools in your area stink...so why would you put your daugher there?  Did you move?  Interesting how life takes changes, huh?   Of course your daughter is excited..it's a big time for kids.  Also, why are you so jazzed about uniforms?  My oldest son goes to public school and has regular clothes and let me tell you...it's such a motivator to do well, behave and all that.  I let him pick most everything (within reason) and he in turn gets awesome grades and good teacher reports. Myabe boys are different but he picks stuff he likes and that's OK with me. Your varied responses never cease to confuse me.  I suppose, some people like living differently day to day and being spontaneous.  I just don't understand about having a girl I guess....boys are totally different from what I can see! 

 

Also, why would you offer to babysit?  Doesn't that take time from your children?  I'm not trying to be sarcastic but you've mentioned how all you want to do is be with your kids so why would you offer?  If it was to help out, why charge them anything at all?  Sounds like you don't need the money so why not do a true favor and sit untiil they find someone permanent? 

 

 

Quote From: purplepain

Man I bet you feel weird huh!?!? I know I would! LOL

Now that an arrest has been made in this case I can't help but wonder once again, if her being in pageants didn't attract her murderer?

There has to be a middle of the road. You have some people who are to scared to even put a pic of their child online to share with friends and family, and then you have others who parade their kids like poodles.

Quote From: susanpear

Sure, sex is a wonderful gift to human-kind.  I am also a Christian woman - but acknowledge you are an atheist.  You ask for proof of such "myths" as disease, abortion, depression, neglect, drug-use, divorce, and adultery being so rampant in our current society.  Just the way males and females are made should be a clue.  Some sex styles are dangerous to physical health.  (Anal-sex.)  I mean, that's where feces are eliminated.  I would not wish to mingle my own sex organs with that area - simply because there would be unsanitary exposure to all kinds of foul elements and germs.  (Nor would I want to engage in sex with a man who has done that.)  Even if a person cleans out the area as well as possible, there are some organisms unseen or detected.  So I have avoided this kind of sex - not out of being fear-mongered, but for plain common sense and to protect my own health.  I have experienced yeast and bladder infections before - these are NOT STDs, but can be caused by a common cold virus or not drinking enough water.  They were bad enough!  So I would not be anxious to risk picking up any kind of STD either!  I know both homosexual and heterosexual couples engage in anal-sex.  It is a principal way for same-sex men couples to relate.  But as a Christian, when I also read that God detests that, it reinforces the fact that anal-sex is NOT for the human body.  Therefore, I have to agree that same-sex relations are not OK.  (This does NOT make me prejudiced against same-sex couples, nor would I refuse to talk to or do business with them.)    Of course this argument only involves males.  I also agree that females are subject to risks too because God does NOT want any unions except between man and woman.  He designed us in a special way.  But I don't expect you to go along with that.  It should be obvious enough how we are designed whether you believe in God or not.  You cannot dismiss, though, that disease is rampant and really got out hand when same-sex couples came out in the '80s.

 

You can choose to blow me off and say I am also a fear-monger.  With or without God being brought into it, our bodies are not designed for that kind of sex.  When it is engaged, germs and organisms spread and result in terrible diseases.  That's plain fact to me.  Believing in God or not, it is a dirty and unsafe act.  Is that any kind of proof for you?

 

Marriage is a commitment.  You're right - a piece of paper does not keep people from becoming disenchanted with each other enough to cheat or divorce.  When children are brought into the world, they need a strong support and care system.  Marriage is designed to provide this.  Of course you and I will disagree on what constitutes a marriage nowadays.  Life can be created only between man and woman.  So, when a heterosexual couple produces children, then what?  If they are married there is some kind of commitment involved.  Of course that commitment can be broken if someone feels like it - but is that really OK?  Then one parent is left to deal with the kid(s) alone - and that creates new problems and struggles.  This also leads to unsupervised periods and kids can get into trouble - like drugs, sex, crime, the possibilities are endless.

 

Just because sex feels so good is not an excuse to use it so irresponsibly.  Girls casually get pregnant and then seek an abortion to end it.  Or girls just don't know how to say "NO".   And guys are very good at persuading girls to have sex outside of marriage.   Nothing is as sweet as forbidden fruit.  When multiple partners are involved (as is SO popular), that creates lots of risk for someone to transmit an STD.  Some of the partners may be clean and disease-free.  But others have picked up undetected germs or organisms and pass them on!  Creating human life should be avoided altogether until a couple can become commited enough to raise children together.  That's the argument for abstinence.  And it is also God's plan for us.  A marriage license is a symbol that reminds the couple of the lifetime commitment to each other and their future family.

 

I'm not trying to come across as a panic-instigator - just stating some pure and simple facts.  This may not be enough evidence for you, and no one may be able to prove anything to your satisfaction.  I just wanted to join the discussion.

 

Quote From: hollyufpsy

Your statement is legally incorrect  by nature.  Amanda running away did not forfeit her right to privacy by law.  It is not apropriate for a mother to be walking into a shower where her daughter, who then has an adult body, is completely naked. In fact, that could be considered sexual abuse in some cases. Additionally, if the cell phone is Amanda's property, there is nothing the parents can legaly do about it. If the cell phone belonged to the parents, then legally the parents could take the cell phone, but NOT by force. It would have to be done by law enforcement.  Legally, parents can't physically batter their children, as that is physical abuse. I hope that clears things up.