Messages By: purplepain

You are how old....23. STill so young and immature. See what happens after you have 1 or 2 more children, and you don't sleep at night and your husband refuses to help.  What happens when you can't get to the gym, plan all your meals....etc, etc. Let's see if you still see things on Ken's side.  

I am wondering how long that huge smile will last....Let's hear from you in 10yrs and 3 kids later. 

One more question, while siding with Ken was your child napping, were you doing your chores or just sitting on the sofa eating bon bons? 

These women basically bashing this poor women and bragging about all they do....well,here's your medal.Every person in this world is different! We can't all be supermoms like all of you.I wonder how much quality time all of you really and truly spend with your kids?My mother had to have a spotless house and later in life she told my sisters and I not to do as she did....she apologized to us for the time she spent on housework and not with us.I kept a really clean home until I had three kids....two of them 14 months apart.I also worked full time in a manual labor job.Guess where housecleaning was then on my list of priorities?My then-husband did nothing to help.He took the time though to criticize how I put paper towels on the holder and things like that! 

I am now  happily divorced and retired young.Housework is still not a top priority....I have much more important and rewarding things to do! 

I'm a father and a husband. But I have been on both sides of his situation. I played the stay at home father/husband role. I didn't get mad about it because I knew it could happen at some point in a marriage. Such as if a husband is out of work(my case & point) and the wife makes enough to support the family. I know I could go out and be looking for a job and all. But my wife couldn't afford daycare. And then about two months later I started dealing with an ailment that prevented me from working a steady job. I stayed home daily with our two daughters. Long story short. There wasn't a day that my wife came home and the house was nasty with toys and clothes all over the floor in every part of the house. No pile of dishes in the sink. The bathroom was clean. The only room that was full of toys(at times) was their own room. And sometime our daughters will help me clean up the house an hour before Mom comes home. My wife worked 8hrs. and sometimes over-time. I don't understand how a woman can say that she don't have enough time to clean the house before the husband/boyfriend get's home. I mean, I kept the house neat and STILL had time to sit down and watch t.v, play games on the Playstation, talk on the phone and cook. But the only time I got some shut-eye is if they went to sleep. But it was all good for the experience. And yes! I do expect the same from my wife if things was the other way around. I don't think there's no excuse why a stay at home Mom can't keep a neat and clean house during 8 to 12 hours in a day that the man is away at work. So I understand Ken's situation as to how he feel. I wouldn't be happy either if my wife wouldn't keep the house clean on a daily. It CAN be done! How can a woman say she's too tired. OF WHAT? She don't work out from the home at a job. There's no reason a working man should come home and not smell nothing cooking. He shouldn't have to take the trash out when he get home. He shouldn't have to go check the mailbox. He shouldn't have to kick or step over toys or clothes to get in the house or to sit down. All these things should've been done before he get's home from work,period. 

Christy's clearly a lot more mature than her husband and, despite this issue, likes being married to him.  We didn't see the whole picture and I'd bet that she has good reason to be.  Rather than grieve about the problem she's found a way to laugh.  Good for her!   

Hubby, it looked to me like you got the point.  Shape up, show your wife that you love and respect her and, for God's sake, what were you thinking when you gave presents to ex-girlfriends??????  Apologize, get your head out of your, uh, donkey, and fly right! 

Everybody is entitled to their own opinion *** Eyes Rolling ***.  But she is right.  God will make a way and provide us with everything that we need in life if we pray and believe in him. 

First off, welcome to the board, you've come to the right place for weight loss support....All I can say is that we are here to help you in any way we can, but it has to start with you...I was told those exact words when I first came to this board back in May 2005, and they were the truest words said to me....My name is Ladean, I'm 43, married with 4 grown kids, my youngest is 18 and a senior in High School...I live in Texas, and I stay at home and take care of my wheelchair bound Mother In-Law....I started the program May 25, 2005 and I reached goal Jan 2006...My starting weight was 227 and I am now 154..My heaviest weight was 247....I KNOW this program works, if you work it....You've made the first main step, you came here for support, I hope you come back often, so we can get to know you, and you us...Do you have a name we can call you? 

Hugs 

Ladean