Messages By: pickle427

I am in my 2nd marriage and only been married for 2 1/2 years.  I am 44 and my husband is 33.  We seem to get along great for a few days and then the s*** hits the fan.  It seems like when we don't agree it's world war 3.  He calls me names (something he learned in his first marriage) and then he tells me "If you don't like it here, get the f*** out!"  I feel disposable!  I do EVERYTHING for him... from taking total care of his children.... taking them to and from school, to taking them to their activities, checkign their homework, doing ALL the cooking, cleaning, laundry, yardwork, grocery shopping, errands, taking care of him, packing his lunch, preparing his plate...etc.  He goes to work, and that's it.  I am not working right now, but I do go to school.  When I tell him how I feel about something, if it's not how he wants me to feel about the subject the fight starts.  He has never actually cheated on me, but has gotten on the internet and put a fake profile on there to look at porn.  I caught him and he lied about it, then confessed.  He says he has not done it sense then, but who knows.  Everything we do is about him, his children, his family, his wants... heck we have sex when he wants to!  I almost have to beg when I want it...   He thinks I am being overly dramiatic and blowing things out of proportion.  Lat night for instance, he won a trophy and wanted to put it front and center on our fireplace mantle.  We already had something there, so I said we could put it on the left side of the mantle.  He got mad and threw a fit and put the trophy on his son's dresser and said obviously his trophy doesn't mean as much as my stupid pictures (which by the way, are family pictures).  He also wanted to put his plaque (a winning plaque) on the wall above the mantle, which has a family picture of our wedding, so I took the family picture down, put it where the plaque was hanging, on another wall, put the plaque up, put his trophy on the mantle and moved the family picture off the mantle.  He told me I was a selfish a**-hole and if he gets more trophies he is putting them there and if I don't like it, I can get the fu** out!  It seems like he makes all the rules and I have to like them, live with them, not say anything or get out!  Any suggestions????? Is this a doomed marriage too??????? HELP DR. PHIL AND VIEWERS......       Pickle427