Messages By: ceildh1

Maybe not a fashion consultant, but if you don't want an HONEST answer, don't ask, that simple, sorry but I know only my TRUEST friends shop with me, because I will NOT see a friend of mine humiliate herself by wearing something that makes her look fat, or dosen"t suit her, it is NOT bullying, it is HONESTY, and if you don't like it, don't ask, and most of us will allow you to use your right to have others whisper behind your back and have one even MORE obnoxious ak you straight out "What were you thinking?" Which would be worse, a friend or total stranger telling you the TRUTH! 

I know I may get slammed, but whatever, but was I the only person who wanted to jump through the TV and put that GIRL in time out like one would with any five year old in a tantrum, and him looking on like the indulgent parent thinking " isn't she adorable ?"

You know I always figured to each his own, but c'mon, don't you think they should at least be allowed to drink legally anyway, and what was up with him NOT coming to her defense ( though I truly belive his friend was looking out for his best interests ), did anyone catch the fact that he dumped a woman his own age because she didn't NEED him to buy things for her, and she had a Phd, HELLO, CONTROL FREAK, he wants a young woman with very little going on upstairs that will allow him to mold and control her for his own needs, a woman that will actually think and care for herself apart from him makes him a scared little boy, so he runs, and this young lady fits the bill, whats he going to do if the lights come on when shes say twenty five, who among us can HONESTLY say we are the same at twenty -five that we were at eighteen ?  By Twenty five, we have usually had been around the block we call life, and have been working on carving out a LIFE for ourselves, oh yeah, she will NEVER be allowed to leave after marriage, he's from California is he not ? and isn't that one of the " Community Property " States ?  He will never allow that, bet in about seven years the two will be back on because he's a controlling jerk that is searching the web again for a new " Baby Girl" that he can play "Daddy " to ( sorry but I agree with the Doc, that's really CREEPY)  there is only one man that I called "Daddy " and I certainly wasn't sleeping with or having sex with him.

Diamonds, a ne mercedes, even if it did belong to his late wife, would turn any young girl's head, especially since the only thing she ever had to do for him was to be at his beck and call, for sex, companionship whatever.  The only thing she HAS to do is stay pretty, and perky until he's trolling high schools and the internet again, she really has to step up and realize the petulant demanding child act wears thin after awhile, and he already looks like he's getting tired of it, hence the reason he let his friend slam her.

To the proud COUGAR, hey, at least he can BUY his own beer, again far cry from eighteen, but if he is having second thoughts, would it not be more humane to just let him go off with his Buddies for awhile, and let him explore the world some, if it is really "Love" it will wait, and if you truly Love him as you say, you'll see that if he loves you as much as he says, he will come back, but to buy him an engagement ring to tie him to you ? Sorry , but that smacks of a control freak as well, again the third party is just trying to look out for him and to him and the other man's friend, well as friends sometimes we just have to let them make their mistakes, and be there when it all crumbles down., but you know what, sometimes our friends are our voice of reason, and we should really listen to them sometimes.

Okay, I agree with purple penny, as I often do reading these boards, we cannot go blaming the victims for what these people are doing.  Yes I do agree that common sense SHOULD be used when dealing with most things, but people do get desparate and lonely, and that DOES cloud judgement.  Scammers know and understand how to exploit these people.  These scammers are NOT STUPID people, but neither are the victims, the scammer or con -man, know what heart strings to pull at, what fears to exploit and what will make our lives TRULY better, watch any good infomercials lately ?

But I do ask, why would anyone think that Dr.Phil would be listed under 411?  I'm sorry, but that would seem a little far fetched to me ( I am accused of not being a trusting soul), and no I wouldn't send so much as a Looney (one dollar Canadian) to any of the spam I recieve or anyone at random, but I do know people can and DO get scammed and ripped off no matter how cautious or intelligent ( Wednsday's show ring a bell ) they might be.

I've seen identity theft happen to honest hard working people, I've seen internet scams, I've seen the phone scams happen, hell I've seen the scammers right out on the streets, and people flock to them, stupidity, gullibility ? I don't think so, not really,overly trusting people, maybe, kind hearted, depending on the scam, likely, I mean really a homeless mother and child on the street corner ( another ploy used by scammers by the way), well for most of us that is pretty hard to just ignore.

I'm not sure HOW these people sleep at night, and yes they should be prosecuted, I know I couldn't I felt bad when I couldn't pay my daughter back the whole five bucks I owed her this week, so to actually scam someone would likely cause me to turn myself in, but why do they do it, unfortunatly, because they can and its a tried and true money maker

By the way purple penny, we'd welcome you here, but depending on the state you live in, you might want to wait until May ( we'll have dug out by then )

So he took another lie detector, and passed, what a surprise that is, so now they should do another and take the best two out of three, and that will tell right ? then there will be no need to investigate further.

But in the Court of public opinion, he has already lost, if it were up to the majority he should've been lynched, guilty or NOT and further traumitized the child, at the first cry of "they touched my peepee " that child should've been taken to a child psychologist who is SPECIALIZED in the area of determining whether or not a child has been molested or abused in any way, either parent should've done so.

Agreed, the father did seem "off", but come on, none of us know how we would react to being in front of MILLIONS of people in the spotlight for something so HORRIBLE, why did he take so long to answer, if he read these boards, he knows no matter what he says it will be taken out of context or construed to justify the attacks of people who no nothing about him except what they've seen on TV.  His life is done in his hometown, but he can take heart that what the Doc says is true, "the U.S. (and Canada for that matter have ADD) and this will pass, but if he is found innocent, he and his wife will probably have to move.  If he is guilty, then he needs to be locked up and the key thrown as far away as possible.

A child that age cannot be coached ? I beg to differ, and NO IT IS NOT THE CHILD'S FAULT, before others start bashing let me explain, have you ever said anything in front of your child you regret ? I think we all have, and it will come up at the "PERFECT" time, in front of your MIL, in the mall whatever, even when we think they are not listening, they are, and at three they are masters, so she hears something she shouldn't and repeats it, "they touched my pee pee " okay I concur it seems unlikely that they would tell her directly to say that, but unless she was TOLD it was a bad thing, at three how does she know, and still being in diapers, well I wish someone had told me there was a way to change one of those without touching.

My own FIL was accused by my niece, he was changing her baby sister, because the Mother was gone again and the baby was dirty, but that's another story all together, my niece went to school and told her teacher that Grampy was touching the baby's bum and Peepee, he was cleaning her, so on the basis of that childs allegation, my FIL should've gone to Jail ? What happened, the baby stayed dirty until her mother came home or one of the daughter or DIL'S were around to do it, and he was terrified to even HUG one of his grandaughters after that, my older niece was six at the time.

My point is that in trying to protect her daughter, the Mother could've been telling her things like only Mommy and Grandma can touch your peepee, and that anyone else is BAD for doing so, as for the scratch on the Labia, well anyone with a yeast infection can scratch themselves with their own fingernails, as for keeping her away, well what good would the mother be sitting in jail for a felony ? Who do you THINK would get custody of the child then ? NOT Grandma, if she is being abused well the abuser would get custody of her.

Yes our children need to be protected from these type of people, but it's not only the mother having histrinics over this situation, and now she's being validated by the forum of Public Opinion, and he has been villified, so I say take another test, then take the best two out of three, and that's the VERY REASON, Polygraphs ARE NOT ADMISSABLE in court.

No need to be THAT hard on yourself, I think all of us ( yes even those who call others stupid and losers ) have had moments of gullibility in their lives, it happens, but I do agree, people have to STOP and THINK, especially when the request exceeds or is equal to their monthly income. Unfortunatly, desparate people do desparate things, and the overly kind hearted prone to the sob stories of others, well they can't see through their tears, like I pointed out before, these con-artists are GOOD AT WHAT THEY DO!  How else would they be able to convince a person to empty their savings .

My own story, and I didn't get bilked out of much, a woman and child on a street corner beside their car, that looked as though it contained all their worldly belongings, begging, well I gave her ten dollars and walked away feeling pretty good about that ( I fall under the kind hearted category ), Anyway, imagine my surprise when on the next block I saw the same woman in the liquor store purchasing a bottle of booze, the child strapped into the car, from then on I gave directly to the charities that HELP people in need, not to them, am I bitter, not really, but wiser and ten bucks poorer.

Love the comment and I agree completly with you, there is way too much hate in this world for the stupid stuff, race , religion, sexual preferance, hello we are all HUMAN BEINGS, and if you can't see beyond that, well that's a sad person.

But I do wish people would just STOP blaming their upbringing , and hiding behind the Bible to give their opinions, I say Gary, one day you might just have to THANK a Black or Asian or Muslim Doctor for saving your sorry life, and Bea, I could say the same to you about a Caucasian Doctor, do you hate Asian people as well ?

Have to give Kudos to Christina and Tessa for bringing their differences to light, and well you go girls. What Christina's Mother did was cruel, but part of being an adult is knowing that we are not infalable as parents, and I think you've grown beyond that, Great for YOU!!! And Tessa, being STRAIGHT I am convinced some straight people are breeders as well, but then again, I get where you are coming from, the first people I let my daughter go with for the night was a KNOWN Lesbian couple, why because my daughter was the best friend of one of their daughters, and I really didn't care, you see I don't use Gay and Pervert in the same sentence, and I know that I'm not THAT hot that Every Lesbian I see is coming onto me.

Staci, get the HELL over yourself , you are not all THAT and a bag of chips, skinny yes attractive NO, would you like me to point out your BEAUTY FLAWS for you, probably NOT, so I won't. No , I don't want to be Obese, and I am FAR from it myself, but I refuse to look down on half my family because of it, or half the North American public, and leave the whole race thing out of it, I personally don't care about your background.

John, you NEED to get over yourself and pick YOURSELF up, sorry Mommy and Daddy( or Step-Daddy can't do it for you ) and they won't always be around to, ask for the shower chair, my mother did and she's thrilled, being fat is no REASON to let yourself stink, and I would hate to think of WHAT could be lurking beneith the rolls that you won't bathe.  Underarms, and the Genital area are NOT that hard to reach.

All of us to one extent or another NEED to get over ourselves and start over thinking of the world as a community, but sigh, I can't see that happening anytime soon, and these six aren't even the tip of THAT iceberg

Personally I am passionate about the plight of stray and abandoned animals, and yes I get angry because the prevention is quite simple.

Spay and Neuter your pets- many States and provinces DO have programs for that purpose, check with your local animal hospital or SPCA, they would know, and if you cannot afford this basic surgery, than DON'T get an animal.

CHILDREN cannot be counted on to CARE for the animal, be a PARENT when your child asks for a puppy or kitten, if YOU DO NOT want to care for the animal, don't assume your child will, YOU will be the one held responsible for neglect and abuse of it, so if you can't be bothered be a PARENT and say "NO"

Farmers ( I live in farm country ) usually do have colonies of cats in their barns, cats tend to be unobtrusive to the livestock, and play their part by keeping the incidences of rats and mice out of the grain and feed, BUT many farmers have had to resort to CULLING out the colonies because of irresponsible pet owners who drop BOXES of unwanted kitties at their barn door.

Cats SHOULD be kept indoors, it helps them live longer healthier lives, and keeps them out of your neighbor's garden and it is a relief to the local bird and rodent population to know that kitty is behind the glass and can't hurt them.

There is no way, just from looking at the conditions on the previews, that this woman is registered or licensed anywhere as a sanctuary, no Humane Society would even consider it, the worst thing is most if not ALL of those animals will have to be destroyed, because the local shelter may not have the room, or they are infested with worms and other wonderful little parasites, not to mention the various bacterial and viral diseases that can run through any colony.

Unlike dogs, any cat owner will tell you, cats can be retrained and TAUGHT, as long as THEY feel the NEED, an adult cat used to being on its own with limited human contact can be converted SOMETIMES, for the most part Adult cats that have gone feral (wild) are not suitable candidates for a permanent home ( kittens will imprint good or bad feelings about humans within the first six to eight weeks of their lives ).

I rescued three feral kittens last year, the first one we found in an intersection of a town, we thought a rat was about to get run over, but on closer inspection, it was a kitten the vet thought she was only about four weeks old, she and her siblings were left in a ditch on the side of the road.

The other two are brothers born to a feral mother in a friend's back yard, we trapped them at about eight weeks old, all three live with me two kids, a husband and two dogs and a very put out seven year old cat , all of the pets are spayed or neutered, all of them are up to date for check ups and shots.  But those kittens took work, the littlest is stunted in her growth, she is a little over a year and hasn't grown since she was six months, she was never properly weaned from her mother, she was too little, the boys had to be taught to use the litter boxes, and that kibble is actually edible, food dosen't have to squirm, but I am neither a sanctuary or shelter.

But I beg ANYONE considering killing your neighbor's pets, PLEASE call your local humane society and have them look into the situation, these animals are not at fault, and they do not do what they do to purposly annoy you, I get where you're coming from, what this woman is doing isn't humane or constructive, but she is obviously oblivious and has a problem ( other than the cats) that DESPERATLY needs to be addressed.

Well my last post was ignored, I guess I only have "Free Speech " if I agree with the "Moral Majority. "

The point of my last post was, if you are going to bring your own Religious Bias' into the discussion, then maybe go to the Religion website, and yes I will say it is INTOLERANT, and unproductive to pick on just the one person because her lifestyle does NOT conform to YOUR lifestyle.  I thought Jesus preached love and TOLERANCE ? Guess I slept through that part of Sunday School, you know the part when he said to LOVE THY NEIGHBOR, except if...... they don't conform with the majority, or the belivers then it's okay to hate and be intolerant of them.

Dr. Phil is a "Christian" and as a Christian he is VERY tolerant and caring, and it dosen't seem to bother him how people go about their lives as long as they aren't hurting one another, that being said he is NOT a PREACHER and never claimed to be one, otherwise like one poster pointed out, few people would seek out his advice.

If my last post is eventually posted I stand by what I said, if not, no great lost, This show is to teach TOLERANCE of others no matter what, that means HOMOSEXUALITY as well, if you don't like it, well that's fine but you know there's enough of this hate stuff in the world, do you really need to add to it because you have Religion on your side and can spout the Bible by heart ?  Think about it.

Let the fun begin

After reading your post, you sound to me like a good kid, and what you and your sister are experiencing are normal growing pains, take heart, as you get a bit older things will fall into place (my sister was ten when I was thirteen that was annoying ).

I know as a young teen ( and please forgive me if I sound Patronizing, it's a BAD adult habit I know ) things often seem worse than they really are, and as long as you two aren't being physical or too mean to one another, well belive it or not, this too shall pass, and I know neither one of you even Thinks that your parents could be gone someday, but that sadly is reality, and then all you have is each other.

I Love You can be hard to say, but actions do speak louder than words, and hey as for getting on your nerves, at the ripe old ages of thirty seven and thirty four, my sister and I still get on each other's nerves at times, and we still fight ( though now we call it active debating ), just try not to be hurtful when you do argue, it is easier than it sounds, I promise, and if your sister gets hurtful, try walking away telling her " I will be happy to speak to you when both of us calm down ", I don't know you or your family situation, but I hope it helps a bit.