Messages By: ceildh1

And I agree, teens need to be WATCHED, god knows.

And I agree that this child has pain and issues that go far deeper than we can imagine, but I didn't think then she was ready to accept the help being offered (I'm curious to hear what Mom has to say ), or wanted it, personally I thought she was there to humor everyone else.

Well, we'll see Wednsday, bgut unless she truly accepts and more importantly WANTS the help being offered, it won't happen.  Sad thing that.

Okay Grandma, a child does NOT have to look like his FATHER or ANY of the men in your family to be his, read up on genetics sometime.

Didn't see the show yet, so it may NOT be his child, but it really annoys me to hear, "Well it can't be one of ours, he dosen't look like any of them ".

To use an example,

My husband and I, both Brunettes, he has blue eyes as does his WHOLE family, my eyes are green, and guess what, I have a daughter who is a flaming redhead, with frekles and brown eyes and a son who has light brown almost blond hair and brown eyes.  The only thing my son inherited from his Dad was his height, and I will NEVER deny the child as mine, but his father and their family could.

Out of the eight Grandchildren my inlaws have, only TWO have blue eyes like the rest of their family.

The point is the child does NOT have to look like any of you to belong to that family, one of my nephews went through this and it has scarred him for life, he is Blond, blue eyed, short and stocky, NOTHING like his Father, or that side of the family, he endured the whispers of his Mother SUPPOSED affair of which he was the product, my BIL, to his credit NEVER questioned it, but the rest did, he suffered the rejection and the shame that were NOT his fault, and BTW yes my BIL is his FATHER.

Sounds more to me like Grandma has more issues with her DIL than the parentage of the child, but I'm going to watch and see maybe if I eat my words (wouldn't be the first time for that )

Yes the DIL was loud and obnoxious, her point was loud and clear, she knew  that her MIL was TRYING to break up the family, and if this is what she has been dealing with, no help from Hubby, he  needs a set first to stand up to either one of them, well really who can blame her for being upset (funny, last week people were commenting on the lack of emotion the teacher was showing, now they're commenting on how much emotion the DIL is showing, maybe someday the Doc will have someone on that knows EXACTLY how they should be reacting to the situation PROPERLY), the MIL said it herself "If the child isn't his he can walk away " not verbatim but I think that was the point.  She seemed pretty crushed though that the child was his.

As for Kristi, I don't care if the town you came from had only two people in it, there is NO EXCUSE in this day and age for an unwanted pregnancy, there are plenty of Birth Control Methods out there for women, and we have the RIGHT to say "no glove, no love " that simple, I honestly hope she dosen't expect him to leave his wife and kids, maybe his wife will throw his sorry butt out, he should be held accountable for his actions, it still takes two, but its the chance you take for having unprotected sex, I hope his wife gets checked for STDs, Kristi probably wasn't the first one, wouldn't Kristi have been checked by her doctor during her prenatal check ?  Oh, and I will add that this Father will probably NOT be in the child's life anyway, so she won't get the Daddy anyway.  Too bad, really.

Maybe others here are right, mandatory DNA testing at birth, and show the results to your in laws when they comment on the child not looking like their father.

So giving the benifit of doubt here,

Was Alex under the control of her "Pimp" during her stay at the Dr. Phil House and at the rehab centre ? I don't remember if that was addressed.  Pimps are much like abusive husbands, they control through fear and intimidation, and generally the girls are much younger, easier to brainwash them with promises of money, and the "Glamorous Life ".  If the girls are assaulted by their Pimp or their John, what recourse do they really have ? Press charges, sure and they get charged with soliciting, it a vicious life.  Oh, and her "BOYFRIEND" that she was in "LOVE" with, was probably her pimp, it isn't uncommon .  Was she or her family being threatened if she didn't comply with running away with him, Alex was definitly hiding SOMETHING from the Doc and everyone else, at this point nothing short of chaining her to the wall though will keep her from running away, that was my impression anyway, I also had the impression near the end, she was already trying to figure out a way to run BEFORE she had to go away again, the wheels were turning.

As for Mom, okay you ran to ENZA, remember the woman you hated the last time, threatening to sue the show because there was no miricle cure ?  I'm not the eternal optimist the Doc is, it took fifteen years for the girl to get this way, it won't happen overnight, no matter how much "Commado Parenting" you do, look you can't decide after fourteen years of the child raising herself, that suddenly you want to parent and the child will happily comply with your wishes (can I get an AMEN from parents of teens) hell, even parenting them from BIRTH, teens are not  known for their happy compliance with rules being foisted on them.  The big thing is, you did NOT earn her RESPECT  and TRUST as a child, so now at fifteen she's not going to suddenly wake up and say, "Oh Mom, I've suddenly discovered that I will just give you my everlasting trust and respect from now on ", it dosen't work that way, so what now ? If this opportunity dosen't give you the "MIRICLE" you are seeking, will you hire a lawyer at that point ? Or maybe will you take a harder look at yourself ?  I didn't really get an impression of Mom doing much to further the situation, did she quit drinking all together ?  I'm not sure that was adressed.

I do hope that this opportunity isn't wasted on her, I really do NOT belive any kid is a hopeless cause, and one day I hope she has the chance to thank Theresa for turning her over, and getting her out of that life, even if  temporarily, and in this case I really hope I eat those words.