Messages By: leighton

Hi!! 

Thank you for this website.  Dr Phil, I feel it would be most beneficial if you would do a segment on Narcissist Personality Disorder and the horrible effects it has on the unsuspecting partners/ex-partners of these people.  I just survived thru this crisis, and never knew what hit me until after the fact, intense therapy, and an assignment by my therapist to research this devasting mental illness.  I belong to an invite only chat room for survivors and it amazes me that NPD is so rampant.  After reading some of the posts on your website,I see traits of NPD in some of the relationships these people are involved in.  A NPD 101 course would wisen up this world -- we sometimes are too trusting and ignore the red flags (I know I did), and go blindly into the relationship thinking it will turn it right, when there is absolutely no way it will ever work unless a person wants to become a doormat, give away their souls, and pretend that everything is normal when it is not.  Wow!  I am glad to be out of it, but also found out that being raised by a NPD parent was the beginning of my idiotic relationships (as well as my two sisters, who have numerous divorces also).  I am single, living on my own, am a good Christian and would love to have another relationship -- but never again at the cost of being in ones with NPDs.  Thank you for listening. 

Thank GOD!!!  I just posted not too long ago that Dr Phil should do a show on NPD (Narcissisist Personality Disorder), and I find out that he is doing a show on Thursday.  From watching the tape preview it is not what I thought it might be, but I will be glued to my television.  Please don't soft shoe this personality disorder!!! 

I survived a relationship/marriage with an NPD not too long ago, and the turmoil and difficulty and mostly the pain they leave behind is unbelievable.  You are left spinning, wondering "what did I do wrong, how come I was so flawed," until deep therapy revealed this horrifice behavior/pathological symptoms were NOT my fault.  It has been almost a year until "he was done with me as his supply" and brutally tossed me out (which is actually a God-send now that I look back).  He took me to the cleaners in a 9-month marriage, $40,000.00, when he quit his job and I was left supporting him, his son from a previous marriage and his ex-wife's child support while he kept promising to get a job.  He is a user, an abuser, and never looked back on what he did.  He was sexually horrific to me, but I put up with it in order not to "lose him."  I thank GOD every day that he is gone from my life. 

Dr. Phil, keep helping the survivors' of this mess, we never know we are in it until it is too late or we are thrown out and left reeling and not knowing what happened, when we had to deal with these horrific monsters.  Relationships are no longer an option because there is NO trust left due to the tragic damage NPD's cause.  Again, thank you for this beginning show, but keep delving into the survivor end of it -- we need each other.  I am a member of an invite-only NPD survivor's email group and I am amazed that we are all alive to tell about it (emotionally).  Read the book by Les Carter, Enough About You, Let's Talk About Me -- I am currently looking for a copy but it comes highly recommended and anything that will help me continue to heal (with the great help and strength of the Lord by my side) and understand this will one day make me a whole person again.  NPD's are NOT human. 

Debi