Messages By: bellusklm

I met my now ex, who is also the father of my 10wk old son, just over a year ago through mutual friends.  We started dating, and a month later, found out I was pregnant.  We decided to go through with the pregnancy, and discussed our relationship and our future, which I thought would be together because at the time, he told me he wanted it to work as much as I did.  I knew I had fallen in love with him after about three months, when I was about 10wks pregnant.  I loved everything about him, and we had a great freindship.  I knew he had been divorced from his ex-wife for about a year and a half, and that he still talked to her on ocassion.  She filed for divorce behind his back after cheating on him multiple times, and after going through marriage counseling, where he says, she blamed everything on him that went wrong with their relationship.  Even after she moved the new boyfriend and his daughter into the house they used to share, he continued sleeping with her for almost a year after their divorce.  He told me at one point after a heated discussion about her, because I didn't and still don't understand why he talks to her, that he was still in love with her.  Like an idiot in love, I stayed with him because he said he wanted to work on things with us and make our relationship work.  When I was seven months pregnant, he broke up with me, all for reasons that had to do with him, and the issues he has with his ex.  Whenever she calls, he answers, and has now begun spending time with her (she is now single, has been since November).  He said that nothing that had to do with her influenced our relationship, and that he didn't want to get back together with her, this was when he broke up with me.  The reasons he gave for not being able to be with me were that I was jealous, insecure, and posessive - well, of course, look at the relationship he's had with her, why wouldn't I be all those things, especially seing as how I love this man, and he's the father of my son.  He has stopped coming to see his son, has bought anything for him, and won't answer my calls, although I have not tried to contact him in over a week, and it all started when I found out about him and his ex, through a mutual friend.  I don't understand how he could walk away from me and his son, when all I ever wanted was to be with him, and be a family.  I am truly devestated, and brokenhearted.  I do the best I can each day to not think about him, and how much it hurts, but I just wonder, will he ever realize that she doesn't care about him the way that I do, and that even after two years of being divorced, she still has the ability to keep him at her beck and call.  Why does he still care for her, and why does she do it to him?  It hurts so much to know that he walked out on me for no good reason, and now has walked out on his son, for her.